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I was once told 4 questions to ask yourself when trying to decide if you are ready or not. Think about these and be brutally honest with yourself.
1. If this man NEVER EVER changes, and is EXACTLY the way he is right now...will you be still be happy with him in 5 years? 10 years? 20 years? (consider everything - work, drinking, lifestyle attitudes - everything)
2. Is this man someone that you would like to be more like? (How would you feel if you were just like him in personality?)
3. Is this someone you would like to have children with?
4. If you did have children with this man, how would you feel if they turned out EXACTLY like him?
If you answer 'no' to any of these questions, you might want take some time to think about why before making any decisions.
Hope that helps!
Best wishes to you!
there really is no right or wrong age... its all when you are ready.
all those things above are amazing but you have to be ready for them!
good luck on whatever you decide!!
If you are ready to do all of the above, then you are not too young. I would say to take it slow. Get married in two years, have kids in four, etc.
if your ready to settle down with one guy and be serious, thats great but having kids is a big step. live for a while first. i got pregnant at 19 and again at 22 and believe me i love my kids but i really wish i couldve partied and had a life first. its not always easy to find a babysitter and just have fun without thinking about whos going to take care of the baby at 2 am.
do you see you and him in the future?? if you do and you plan on being with him forever then i would say go for it but if you dont see it then i would wait for the baby thing for awhile though, babies are alot of work and your still young enough go out get married then enjoy yourselves right now good luck
I married my husband when I was 19 and he was 21. We are still together and will celebrate our 4 year anniversary in March. We have two beautiful girls, age 2 1/2 and 8 months. I am happy I did it but there are times when I see my friends going out to the bars and not having responsibilities and miss being young. I wouldn't trade my kids for it though. If you don't feel like you are finished being young then wait. You still have plenty of time to get married and have a family later.
This is what I tell my daughter "Don't get married until you have done everything you've wanted to do on your own!" I have been with my husband for 12 years we met when I was 18 and I had my daughter when I was 20 and I wouldn't take any of it back but I will tell you I wish I would have "lived" a little before settling down. If he loves you then he will wait just a little longer until you are ready!
you both are way too young to be in a relationship, much less get married.
You don't even know what love is. You are infatuated.
If you're asking the question, the answer is wait.
Personally, my response would be to wait even if you were absolutely certain. Get some more experience to bring to the relationship. If it's true love, it will still be there in a couple of years. If not - raising children alone is a difficult task.
In every great event there are three stages:
anticipation - waiting for the event to happen
Realization - the event takes place, and you enjoy it as it happens
Reflection - looking back and savoring the flavor of the event that has taken place.
Right now you are in anticipation - enjoy it, flavor it, savor it. When it's over, it's over. Don't rush into it - let things come in their own time.
By the way - it's not just you. I would give your boyfriend exactly the same advice.
Unfortunately there is no right age to be ready for all that. When your ready, just take a step back and picture yourself with that man for the rest of your life. Can you see that?? Wether your 19 or 91 when your ready just make sure you really are. People these days are marrying for all the wrong reasons.
i got married very young and had kids...i missed out on alot that I did not even know i'd miss...like going out with my friends when I turned 21! Although I wish I had waited until I was much older I would not give anything for my kids. Please weigh your options carefully, if its true love what will it hurt to wait a few more years to make sure this is what YOU want? If its love it will wait.-
if u feel that ur ready then u r dont worry about what other people will have to say just keep in mind it is a HUGE responsibility to have a child but otherwise if u feel u are 100 percent ready then go for it! GOOD LUCK! : )
There is no set age on when you are ready to settle down. I did it at 18, im 33 now and me and my husband(high school sweetheart) are doing just fine, we have 3 beautiful kids. Just talk it out and make sure this is what you BOTH really want because once you start having kids your life will change!! Good Luck!!
If your ready for a lifestyle of parenting then go for it. Your an adult and can make your own decisions. But before you do so, weigh your options. Do you plan on going to college and living a college life or are you REALLY ready to settle down? This can't be a decision that you change your mind with in two years, you have to be in it for the long haul. Also, this is assuming you two can support yourselves financially. If not, don't have kids yet!!
I'm 22 and I've been with the same person for 6 years so I completely understand. I would ask yourself this: If you needed to post this question on Yahoo and get feedback then perhaps you've already answered your question.
Perhaps you feel this way... that you want to be married and have kids with him but it's not that time in your life.
If you are 19 and he's 21 then I assume you met in High School. (I was a Junior when I began dating my Boyfriend) Now that you have graduated are the two of you still on the same page? Do you both have the same goals? Or interest?
I know this might be hard to think of but from my own experience I've changed a lot since High School and my boyfriend has too. It's just that we have gone different ways... I am going to college and he barely graduated from High School. This is a HUGE difference between us and it took me a while to realize who I am (without him) and what I wanted out of a relationship.
The love of my life is not the man that I want to spend the rest of my life with. I do know that I thought the same things about my boyfriend that you think about yours.
Trust yourself... then ask your friends and family what they think and trust them.
Two great books I absolutely love are "He's Just Not That Into You" and part two... It's Called a Breakup because It's Broken" they have some really good advice.
If you feel you are too young then you're not ready to settle down and be married and you should NOT get married if you're not ready to be married.
IF YOUR READY TO NOT GO TO PARTY AND READY TO HAVE SOMEONE TO RELAI ON Y AT ALL TIMES GO FOR IT I WAS 19 TO AND 5YRS L8ER I HAVE A 3 KIDS AND LOVE IT SO IF Y R READY HAVE FUN
I think if you have been together for that long he should be willing to wait until you are ready you wouldnt want to regret having kids at a young age
there is no age. 2 of my classmates got married in high school at 16 and they are still together. meanwhile some have been married and divorced and remarried before our reunion! take your time. as long as you are together, what difference does it make?
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