Kids at Bathtime - Follow Up?
Without saying too much and embarassing him, the 13 year old is late bloomer and honestly is physically about 10... he is still only about 4 and half feet tall. He doesn't look much different then our 8 year old except he is taller. I wouldn't suspect he will be going through any changes for a few more years as his dad didn't hit puberty until he was almost 16.
Anyway, a couple times a week our 13 year old will bathe with the two younger boys. I do supervise the youngest one even with the other two are there. It is a big bathtub and they have a lot fun playing.
Should I be concerned about the age difference?
Answer:
Honestly, I don't see the problem! I mean they are all boys and they don't seem to be too concerned about co-bathing that they should continue as they like it. I suspect that your 13 y/o may change his mind soon and that is when you should make it a point to allow for his privacy.
YES! you are sick lady!
those boys need to be showering ALONE!
it depends on how mature your son is
You should not bathe your boys together. Let them each have thier privacy. Not to mention is this good for you or them- not in a sick perverted way. But is this something you experienced when you grew up? I hope that they dont sleep together! Gasp!
To me there is no difference between showering with a bunch of classmates at school during gym class and your sons bathing together. Boys don't seem shy about seeing each other naked and when they grow older they do weird stuff like see who can pee farthest and go skinny dipping, etc. The age difference is no big deal, just as long as they aren't making fun of each other, and be sure they're supervised so no playing doctor happens.
My daughters are no longer allowed to bath together. My two oldest daughters are 5 and 7. I believe that is a private affair at their ages. My 2 year old bathes by herself also with my supervision.
yes bathing together should have stopped a while ago suppose something like this comes up at school and you son feels weird he is not likely to tell you (I'm a teenager so i can relate) and he might feel bad that he isn't going though changes like the other boys (changing in gym is a perfect example) but he will be going thou-ugh changes soon so he should be going though those with out his younger brothers there
you should definitely stop letting them bathe together, honestly. This is just not right, you know. They need to bathe/shower alone (the 4 yr. old w/ supervision), they are old enough to have their privacy, ESPECIALLY the 8 and 13 yr. olds.
heavens, you can tell all the americans. europeans have less puritanical ideas about nudity. americans tend to think naked means sex. europeans tend to see nudity as simply the absence of clothes. it becomes sexual when you start doing something sexual.
also, nudists have similar ideas. nude is not alway lewd.
broad generalizations, but if you start freaking out about nudity, your boys are going to learn shame about something that doesn't seem to be shameful.
I'm surprised everyone is upset that you see your sons nude. bunch of prudes.
I really think its about time your kids learn about privacy and independence. They are all old enough to bath themselves without any help from mum.
I think there is to much of an age difference here, and definitely with the 13 year old. He should be bathing alone, and without supervision. At this age he needs privacy.
I have 3 girls... 10, 5 and 3. My 3 & 5 year olds shower and take baths together, but there is oly 2 years difference. I have never allowed the 10 yr old and 5 year old to do this for they are to far apart in age.
Your 2 oldest children should be bathing alone. I think this is borderline weird.
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