My son just made the basketball team..now wants to quit?
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im 14 and i know that if you push a person to stick to things like basketball then they could end up liking it. just give it sometime. b/c i started doing vball a few years ago just to get out of the school band and i hated it but now i live for vball. he could gain something out of basketball and then the season will be over and he can spend as much time with his dad as he wants to. maybe you should schedule the guitar lessons for after practice or during the week b/c his team needs him and guitar is independent so then bball takes the place of guitar and guitar can happen during the week when he's with you. hope he continues with basketball it's also great exercise and a social skill builder!
He seems to have made the decision not to pursue basketball at this time for solid, valid reasons...support it, period.
He's 15 years old. Let him make his own decisions. If the practices interfere with time with his father, and he wants to see his father, I think it would be wise if he did quit the team. You're only 15 once. If seeing his dad doesnt interfere with his grades then he should be fine.
He is old enough to decide for himself.
Tell your son that i think if that he made the basketball team thet's great, but if he wants to quit let him and if after he quits and realizes that he shouldn't have that was his choice, not yours!
just let him do what he wants to do.
It's a shame how many great athletes are not competing because of this same situation. Hard decision - departed parent vs. socially accepted. Let him follow his heart - his mind is still young.
Let him do what he enjoys, don't force him to play basketball if he doesn't enjoy it. There will be time when he is an adult when he will HAVE to do things he doesn't enjoy, let him enjoy his youth.
We had a similar situation with our son and the rule we went by was ,,,If you sign up for an activity..you complete it..if you do not enjoy it then do not sign up next year. It is important to us for our children to honor commitments they chose to make and also teaches them to think thru their choices.
My daughter did the same thing but different sport.I told her that she made a commitment for the season and had to stick with it. Also before we signed up she was informed that she would have a game every weekend and practice 3 nights a week. She did make it through the season decided that she liked it and signed up for the next year. I also spoke to her father (who was the one who really was not happy about losing his time with her) and told him that he had to support her so on his weekends that he had visitation he was the one who had to get her ready and take her to the games (I would show up also). I also asked him to try to come to a practice every once in awhile, my daughter would get so excited when her dad would show up.
I agree with Kat - this is a decision that your 15 year old made, fully aware of the obligations. However, if the coach called the Saturday practices without providing this information at tryouts, then you have a right to say that you will miss practice on some Saturdays. I have to assume that there are also practices during the week.
When you talk to the coach about Saturday practices, suggest adjusting practice times. (Early Saturday morning so that your son could visit with Dad?) Trust me, this isn't the first time the coach has encountered such problems. A coach will ALWAYS say that his sport comes first above all other obligations, but deep down in his heart he knows it just ain't so. Also, talk to the guitar teacher about changing lesson times.
I don't think this is clearly an "either/or" decision. I think that you can adjust and help your son learn to deal with scheduling issues.
If nothing else, this is a lesson for your son about asking for all the details and considering all the possibilities BEFORE you commit. He should finish the season and make a decision for next year as to whether to continue to play. Many kids will feel overwhelmed at first when they start a physically and mentally demanding new activity.
Congrats on raising a great kid!
dont push him into anything he may resent u also its great he wants to spend time with dad just let him know his grades are important to
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