I think my child is depressed...?
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Damn you have a serious problem.. People are people, even kids. That is just her personality type. I have one kinda like that. My middle son, some people call it middle child syndrome, I tend to think he's just a butt. He is 16 now and I have taken him to counseling ( that made it worse) I have talked to him and tried allot of the things you are talking about. All i can tell you is that you have to just live with it. Do you best to find out if there is a problem or something happened to her, but it sounds like that is just the kinda person she is.
Continue going to counseling maybe she is going to be getting her periods soon and is already having PMS symptoms
your child has a secret, there is something she needs to tell you but cannot, She wants you to find out on your own and to make it better, be careful it may not be something you are prepared to hear, you may want to get a third party involved. Not a school councelor, your child may feel that if they know, then the whole school will know, seek professional help
I think you should try spending more quality time with her and eventually try talking to her about what's going on. Don't ignore the behavior and hope that it'll go away, it most definitly needs to be addressed. Chances are, since she's only 8 years old, that she really needs some attention.
Chances are this drama that she's bringing home from school is a lash out for attention some where else. As hard as it may be, try and sit down with her and ask her point blank what's been bothering her.
I know it's not easy to deal with an obviously upset child but hopefully, with a little bit of tender love and care, she'll get through this and proceed with a happy childhood.
Good luck!
I don't think she's depressed, I think she's just a touchy child. The slightest things upset her, make her mad, etc. If she was depressed, she wouldn't be "set off" by things--she'd be sad/angry no matter what was going on.
Does she go off on her own ONLY when her friends start playing something she doesn't want to play? If that's the case, it sounds like she has a case of "my way or the highway". If it's not her way, she goes off by herself.
I think you just need to sit down with her and talk to her about this. Don't let her get up until you are finished talking with her. Tell her you aren't doing it to be mean, you just truly want to help her get through whatever is bothering her and making her this way.
it could be a few things, or even combinations of things, she coudl be highly emotional, and somewhat of a loner,,,, some kids just find socializing a little overwhelming,,,,,,or as mentioned, its possible she is going to go threw menestration early, if so, she may already be having some of the hormone shifts,,, maybe a meeting with a psychologist,,,, someone who is separate from home and school, might be helpful,,, and may help you determine if this is just her type personality, of if there is something underneath causing it,,,,,,my daughter was similar,,,, finally around 17 she seemed to level off, but from 8 ish till then,,,,, was difficult, plus had a temper,,,, besides the crying and alone time,,,,,some little girls are just full of drama, life is drama to them,,,,,
to me it sounds like something major hear and a child psycologist may need to be involved beyond the school GC
My sister was exactly the same. They gave her ritalin and let me tell you, nothing changed (except that she can't just stop cold turkey). Some kids are just "sensitive." She cxan't just find new friends overnight. Kids are cruel. Unless she changes schools it won't change. I think counseling will help. My sister never had that and she needed it! It could be puberty and it could be something else. Just love her and let her know you're there for her. Give her some space, but not too much you know?! Talk ot her teachers and school counselors. Drugs are not the answer though. I can attest to that. My sister is 20 now and though she is better in the crying department, she is still stubborn and moody and cries over the strangest of things. I hope you find a solution that will work for your family. I wish you the best of luck.
My daughter is 8 and acting the same way. She had a b-day in July asked for clothes, she got like 15 outfits. I thought it would be nice to take her out ... just her and me. She spent 45 mins. in her room crying, that she had nothing to wear. Its been happening ever since. Whether its no toys, no books, no makeup, etc. its never ending. I've found that it helps when I only give her the choice between 2-3 things. I think I expect her to make too many choices all on her own and she has said that I make her feel all grown up. Not in a good way. She still wants to be my little girl. Especially that we have a 5 and 3 yr old. So I have to make sure that I am not ignoring her needs, and still make sure that I realize that she has "little kid" needs still. Having quiet time (hiding in her room) isn't such a bad thing. It gives them time to calm down. Too much time and they will dwell on themselves and get depressed. My only suggestions is to just remain calm. Talk to her in a normal voice. Make sure that there are sometimes that she doesnt have to option to go in her room and pout. Come up with other alternatives, coloring, listening to walk man, walk around the block, writing letters, reading... all in the living room. Make her realize that she doesn't have to play with friends...be happy...but there are other things that she can do to solve the way shes feeling!!
Part of what you are saying is normal sibling rivarly. Unfortantly children hit their brothers or sisters.
It does sound as though she is depressed though. Has something happened to her? If you don't know, you better try to find out.
You see, I was molested for 12 years during my childhood. I was depressed during my whole childhood. I still am at almost 40, I am still in therapy trying to figure out how to live. If she's dealing with something bad this may explain the behaviour. I'm not saying it did happen, I'm just saying IF.
Take care of your daughter and talk to her. It may not be 'drama' it may be something serious. Good Luck to you both!
You think that your child is depressed, because she does not interact with other children, at her school?and you mention other symptoms she has and you think she is depressed? If I were you I would take her to her physician and tell him about the problems she has had, at school and at home, he might refer you to a specialist to evaluate her if it is depression or have her checked for add, Attention deficit disorder, or adhd which is similar but with hyperactivity. My daughter's son was a very good baby until he got to the age of two yrs. after that he started misbehaving a lot specially public places, he is four yrs. old and he can be a terror, he has mood swings where he is lovable and in a second could be very agrresive to the point that he starts hitting you. They are going to evaluate him because the Doctors think he has adhd, I hope that they can help him to be a normal little boy, because when he is calm he is a very lovable little boy. He even says that he does not know why he acts the way he does. Good luck with your daughter.
Hi there , i have two lovely boys who do not see there dad, and one of the boys my eldest used to get into trouble at school, for not paying attention , and he would want things done his way all the time , and he was told that he couldn't have it that way at all.
Studying was hard for him to concentrate on , and it would take forever just to do some simple math question, for he wasn't concentrating all the time, his dad and i broke up after a 11 year relationship, mostly because of his drinking. He used to call but doesn't any more, so i had to make sure that he was kept happy , and they were kept happy , by being there as much as i could for them., let me tell u it isn't easy , especially when you know that things were for the best. But if i can make a suggestion , if you have his Ph. # or if you need to look it up in the phone book , please do , and when you make the call , let him know that it's only for her benifit , so she can get a better grip on life, as it is.
he was her treasure , and he's gone, but if you explaine to him that by with him phoneing, it would chear her up , and to make an effort if he could just for her , to take that time to call, to check up on things, it only takes a quarter to pick up the phone.
hopefully that solves things for you for a childs anger at having parents spit up, makes a difference to them, i speak from experience, its not there fault at all, and it's not your at all, she just has to come to terms with what is going on.
Also perhaps if you'd like to write a little story , for her as a book , perhaps it would make things better, you don't have to use your name just explaine things in a different way that would make her understand about the situation your going through .
i hope i was able to help out .
Also my son had bad mood swings , he and his classmate were watching a movie one day , and just for no reason at all a kid beside him kicked him , then my son was 7 at the time , and for getting back at the child him picked up the other kids hand and bit him on the hand , he had a bad mood swing , then he was taken to the office , and of course i was called in to the office , the other child got scolled as well, but my son knows better, then at the time he didn't , let me tell you though he wasn't able to watch t.v. for a few days. after a couple of months of his bad mood swings , it turned out i had taken him to the doctors, for an evaluation, and it turned out that he had ADD.
iIt took a long while for him to get over it but he turned out better, and is playing nicly with his classmates.
lavern.
your child has some serious issues that need to be addressed by a professional!
WOW hun its like u are going through so much and I can tell you just where the problem lies. You and her father aren't together and he's away from the house. She's begging for attention and has hurt that she's taking out in anger. I've been through this, but I was in my teens when that happened. Right now the only way that she sees to get attention from people is the negative way. Hitting, punching, pulling and being mean are all a way to get attention and once she has it she expects again that u do what u can to make her happy and when u don't she feels she has to turn the volume up on it until u get it right. The kids very well might be picking on her even if she's not mean because of her past behaviors with them. For me I didn't go to the routine as she is, but the concept is still the same. I use to cause drama to get attention. But mind u I was in an alcoholic atmosphere with my dad and and my mom was a battered wife and I was abused, which isn't the case here, but I saw that with people on the outside once they found out what was going on in my life they were sympathic towards me and that felt good. After that I went out my way to tell people because I got a rush from getting that feeling of want and acceptance. Then after that wore off I went to another extreme and another and another. Eventually I did go into a depression, but because things at home got worse. by that time people saw into my act and when I needed someone to understand I'd ran through people. I pray she doesn't come to that. But talk with her and the guidence counselor with her there. Try to get to the root of the problem beyond what u've seen already. Try to get in touch with her father and get him involved. Trust me she's wanting him there in her life. If he doesn't then at least she saw u trying to include him and he will have to pay for it later. get her a notebook or journal let her write what she's feeling or give her a toy with a recorder or something let her tape herself talking about all she's feeling and then u and her play it back so she can hear herself. it works trust me. Been through this. Also if have a church and a pastor go to him about it. For me faith helped me and still is. Just talk to someone and then u and her go to someone and talk together. I wish I could say it gets better after a while, but for me it did for others it doesn't, but its up to her to want too. Pray it all works itself out and I'm will pray for you paitence you need it and peace. God bless
I hear alot of the same things that my daughter who is 9 1/2 is going through. I am a single parent so I'm sure the fact that her father is not around 24/7 but only every other weekend makes it a bit harder for her. She will become anxious over certain things and start crying. She constently fights with her 7 year old sister. Will cry at the drop of a dime. I did have her in counseling but she wasn't helping to much so I need to find a new one. So you are not alone and I would recommend counseling. There are also alot of great books out there. A good one to read would be, "My Anxious Child" not sure of the author though. Good luck
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