My 6 year old son always screams at me, but never in front of his dad.He gets punish by taking privileges away
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You need to step up to the plate and discipline him.
you need to ignore him give him no attention only when he needs it give it to him. OK but I'm only for teen and i have to sisters and a brother and i ignore them and there quiet.
first of all, the fact that he screams at you and not at his dad shows his level appreciation of your authority, you have to convey some hard/dominant traits like a man!
either that or he just thinks dads rule
kids you'll never understand them! i guess that like ur the mom he feels more connected to u therfor he thinks that he could get away with anything when it comes to u!! what kind of privileges. this mite sound mean but dude u aahve to spank him i'm bot saying leave him briusis but just a spank just saying wat u are doing is wrong we love u but its worng so u have to stop!! or timeouts!!
I just watched something on the Today show about this child who was always yelling at his parents. The advise that was given by the psychologist was to ignore the bad behavior and when he is behaving good, let him know that you see his good behavior and praise him for it. Eventually he'll see that he gets more attention from good behavior than from bad.
Some children are more head strong than others. What i think is that you are wanting to be more of a friend to this child than a mom. He wants to be your authority figure. He doesn't do this with his Dad because he is an authority figure to your son. I think you spend almost the entire day with him, and maybe he thinks you spend more time with his sister, In any event, he is a head strong child, and you need to get this under control now. What do you think he will be like when he is older? Taking privileges away may not be the type of discipline he will respond to. To many children it is only another reason to be angry. Start being a mother. He will love and respect you for it. Doctor Spock never had any kids.
You should seriously consider hitting him. When I was about 5 my Dad laid a ***-whooping on me that I can still remeber today, and I'll tell you what, it worked. The problem these days is that parents don't beat the crap out of their kids like they used to. That's why they are so spoiled and out of control. The next time he screams at you, don't say a word, just unload on him. Trust me, it will work. If not, taze the little bastard.
He knows that you'll do nothing like hit him. Around his father, he probably never yells or screams at him because he is afraid at what he might do to him.
First and foremost - stay calm, and do NOT react. He might be doing it because he thinks it is a way to get even for making decisions he doesn't like. If it is upsetting you, he is getting what he wants.
Second, when he is done screaming, look at him calmly and in a low, quiet, voice tell him that yelling at you is unacceptable. Give him that one warning. Then make it crystal clear that the next time he does it you will take something away from him - not just privileges. Privileges are too abstract for a six-year old. They need something more concrete and more immediate consequences. What is his "currency?" What are the toys, games, etc. that he relishes? He must earn these too.
You can also start by taking all his fun 'stuff away to start with. Then tell him as he behaves every day (or whatever interval you choose), he can earn his things back one by one.
Always do all of this calmly. Remember - you are in control, not him. He's 6.
Maybe something that you do to your son it is bad, thinki from your son's point of view. What would you do that makes your son is bad?
maybe because if u r the one that diciplines him he thinks ur just being mean and screams to get back at you
he doesnt understand that you are actually doing it out of love
his dad is probably more of a friend to him so he doesnt scream at him
you need to get to eye level with him and tell him in a serious voice that he is not allowed to hit you and he will be punished if he does it again
then do as you say because if u dont he will take advantage again
because he knows that your husband won't put up with his father and he obviously has a little fear of him but not you its normal but you need to learn how to be boss. After all he is only 6 years old. When he screams take something away and take it away for a long time. Make him sit in timeout in a quite place no tv around or distractions and if he gets up make him sit back down and make him sit for a while and then talk to him about it make him opologize and if he doesn't make him sit longer until he gets the point and understands that he can't disrespect you. But you have to be consitstant with this. Don't do it one day and then get frustrated the next it's gonna take more than 2 days trust me
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