Kids Bathing Together?
I'll supervise them occassionally and none of them really have any modesty issues or never really brought them up. They like to play and really have a blast when i turn the jets on.
When should I put an end to this?
Answer:
I think it's perfectly fine for your two youngest to bathe together, but the 13 yr. old should be showering alone by now. Late bloomer or not, he's a teenager and shouldn't be bathing with his two small brothers.
I think it should of ended a while ago. Kids deserve their privacy too !!..my boys are 10 and 7 and have stopped bathing together for a over a year now. Plus..think of all the dirt that accumlates while bathing togethr with so many siblings!!
I think it's a good idea to separate them now. At least the 13 year old. Regardless of his development, he's now a young man and should have more privacy.
Don't have him feel like it's a punishment, make him feel good about it. He's growing up, should have privacy, etc.
When you're 8 year old is 10, I'd say to move him on and out, as well.
I'm sure they have fun and it's fine, but it's probably time to move on.
Now I would think, it's ok for the younger ones to bathe together but not the 13 year old.
your son will be hitting puberty shortly, and I dont think you really want the 4 or 8 year old pointing out something different in him, this can become something akward to explain to kids, like why is it that jake has hair down there? or why does his birdie get hard and mine does'nt? and all the why's the can follow a curious child's mind
It will end naturally on its own; your son will become modest or embarrassed by his changes. I wouldn't say anything...
...unless you suspect something inappropriate is going on, in which case you should seek professional help because inappropriate sexual behavior is a sign of abuse. I'm not saying that that is or will happen to you. But the signs of sexual abuse are too often missed.
Sorry if I have offended. My sister was abused by her babysitter. And I thank god every day that my mom found out so my sister could get the help she needed.
End it when you think its necessary. I mean they are all boys, its not like they are bathing with a girl. I dont think its completely right, personally, but it does cut down on separate showers and water.
13 yr might need to start showering alone though, i mean he is old enough.
I think its all up to you and your kids. We are outsiders and all we can really do is judge the situation and tell you its wrong, but you are the one that knows your family and if it works for you then thats great. Do you think this needs to end and are just looking for justification?
My children are a girl ten months and a boy three. I give them baths at the same time to save on water and so i can make sure that both of them get clean. Once my daughter is able to be in the tub alone ill give them baths seperately. Since you have all boys im sure its not a problem for the 8 and four year old, but I think your 13 year old should learn to shower by himself.
Kids bathing the same gender is perfectly fine. The 13 year old might want to start taking is own shower . You should let the kids decided when they want to start taking their own showers. If you put pressure on them to seprate then that might cause problems so ,the best bet is to let them decide when they want to seperate and do things by themselves.
i don't know i had to bath with my nasty cousin till i was 9 so i think you should let the boy have there own baths
Let them choose. As soon as any of them feel the need for privacy give it to them. They will probably have good self esteem when they are older as they will not be ashamed of their bodies like many children are.
Is this a regular bathtub or a hot tube. This is totally my opinion but don't think a 13 year old should be bathing with a four year old. 8 year old should really be bathing alone also. I think at 8 and the 13 year old should have a little modesty. My kids stopped bathing together when the oldest was five or six.
You're going to protect these guys from the horrible sight of naked males? They take showers at school, in the army, at the private gym. They might even change into their swimsuits sometime. Goodness gracious.
Sooner or later, THEY WILL DECIDE ! Starting with the oldest and then so on down the age line.One thing you have helped them with in their mental development is gym class showers and they won't be so embarrased in front of others .If and when they choose a military carreer,well, that's group showers too. So, No Worries Mum!!
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Hi there,
"If its not broken don't fix it". You answered all the questions that one would have. You are the Mother and you know more about what the situation is than anyone else would. If there was anything bad going on your instinct would kick in and tell you. We need to let kids be kids. I hate it when people see something ugly where there is nothing there. Innocence is a beautiful thing and you as there mother are the best judge of what is going on.
Don't let other people make you feel like there is a problem where one does not exist. Stick to your guns.
Good luck and blessings
Lady T~
Its fine to have younger kids bath together, but i think once a child hits the 8 - 10 range, they should start to bathe or shower alone. Having children bathe together is fun but becomes awkward as kids grow older. To still have fun together with the jets, on a weekend get everyone in the tub with bathing suits.
I think it is great that you have raised you boys to be so comfortable in thier own sink around each other. Your sons will let you know when they are ready to bath on thier own. I know when I lived with my cousins it wasn't all that unsual for all the boys to bath together and all the girls bath together. The older kids help the youger ones out and it give them a chance to play in the water together. Each of the childern still retained the right to bath alone as well which they could invoke at anytime. Let your older son know that he has the option to bath on his own, but don't be suprised if one day he wants to bath on his own and the next with his brothers.
its cool for the 3,4, and 8 year old to shower but i feel the 13 year old should be taking his own bath i say asap
Yeah. You can have a blast with your younger kids, but your oldest is growing up. One day he is going to bring the subject up to his friends without thinking about it. "I bathe with my younger brothers and my mom has to supervise us all." I think if he doesn't already know how, teach him how to take a shower.
Mine do when I am rushed for time but they are 9.5 and 7 years both boys, most of the time they don't.
by now your 8 and 13 year old should be taking baths by them selfs thats my own opinon.
when one of them (most likely the 13 year old) is wanting more privacy. He will let you know when
None of your kids should be bathing together at this age. You need to stop this now
yes i mean it's cute when they're only like 4 and 2 but i mean come on now.now it's just sick and wrong!
as long as the kids dont mind i guess you can leave them alone. but this is wonderful how this events brigns them together and they enjoy being with eachother
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