How to control sibling rivalry between two brothers?

I have two sons of 11 and 13 yrs of age. elder son is bit poor in studies and younger son is bit smarter. most of the time when they are together they keep fighting with each other very violently. they want to play with each other also but cant digest appreciation of the other. they find faults in each other and at times they show this behaviour in front of outsiders. how do i improve relations between them.

Answer:
get them into cub scouts for awhile. What a wonderful program. They teach respect for everyone and eachother and teach them to work together..if not that try martial arts thats another wonderful thing. These boys need to learn respect first, and then they can learn to get along and with that comes a peaceful home. But dont forget to give them chores to do TOGETHER :) goodluck
Just let them figure things out between the two. When they start to fight just leave them be. They will end up figuring things out. I think they just need space from one another. Good Luck!
Show love equal to both of them. Give them task that they will have to achieve as a team. And always commend them as a team than individually.
My older brother and I are the same way. only now we are 17 and 19. we are still competing over almot every thing. for example we are both in the same college math class, and he is by far better than me at it. but i am still fighting to win. another thing to look at to is that i started out dual enrolment at 16 to get some college classes out of the way. he was lazy and waited to even consider college till he graduated. I know where i want to go to college for a full 4 year degree, he just sticks with a 2 year degree from the community college. he is in devlopmental classes and i tested out of every thing but math.

i dont think you can ever get it to stop, but teach them how to act when in public. thats what my parents did with us.

got to go, or i will be late for class.
I'm 13 and my sister is 11 and we always used to fight. Then this year it kind of stopped, I think it was because we are having a better time at school and we see each other more now that we go to the same school. I think we also just grew out of it, but yes we do fight still sometimes but every sibling fights with other siblings once in a while, it's normal since they see each other so often and they know each other so well.

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