My 19 year old daughter sat on my lap and I became aroused?
I pray to GOD she didn't notice but I think she did. She looked uncomfortable and strange as it sounds that made it WORSE. I had to quickly get up and walk away.
My daughter is very attractive and was wearing a very tight dress. I am wondering if physically this may have been the reason I became aroused. Mabye my "other head" got confused? I'm trying to rationalize this. PLEASE HELP! What the hell happened?
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Hopefully it was just a one time thing. If she asks about it, explain to her that you are not sexually attracted to her and you are just as freaked out by it as her. I am not sure how I would react if that happened with my father and I. Good luck and don't think you are a bad person. I'm sure you didn't mean for that to happen.
You are SICK. You need counseling and LOTS of it!
YUCK
Get some help - you are sick!!
You're messed up! Especially for putting this question up in a public forum such as this! You're sick!
You're not seeking help... you're like a "FLASHER" exposing yourself to the world 'cause you get off on it!
I dont know man but you better cut it out.perhaps it did get confused,,its a natural thing but,,,just forget about it now. Maybe you are lackonookie?
your subconcious liked her. (seriously) it doesn't care if it's legal or moral. but what's more important is that you don't EVER EVER act on these thoughts. talk to her about what happened and reassure her that you wold never do anything to hurt her. tell your wife too, so she knows what's going on and if need be, get her to talk to your daughter instead.
I think that you are exactly right when you say that " your other head got confused". Mother nature has instilled some very striong impulses into us to be sure that a species survives. It sounds like a pure accidental mishap. As long as you weren't fantasizing about her while she sat on your lap. Then you may want to get counseling.
Whoa! It takes alot for you to even admit this! I prefer you handle it just the way you did and keep anyone that you do not plan on having sex with off your lap. As far as your daughter, maybe an apology, I would lie and say I was looking at your mom, or play stupid and just say I was being a man. Maybe explain to your daughter who is old enough to know better that that is an erotic area of a man and she should stay off laps, which as a man and her father you should have taught her this very young in age anyway.
Get counseling AND FAST!!!!! If this happened it is because subconsciously you WERE looking at her in a different way...you did mention a tight dress there. So this is not right. Get help!!!!!
pervert..i stopped sitting on my dads lap when i was about 4
She just happened to hit the right spot. and that caused the other head to get confused.
Tell her your sorry about making her uncomfortable . she may understand more than you realize.
Please please go see someone.
You know very well what happened and need not ask this publicly. It is sick of you to share this with the global community.
WOW, must have been a weird expirence for you. was weird for me to read it...lol maybe like u said " other head got confused because maybe its been a while since u last got some..but dont stress it, im sure ur not the first guy that it happened to.
It's not a real question check out his other question, in that one he's a 19 year old male.
I have seen your other question you said you were an young girl if this is some sick way for you to get off you really are sick
to all those other reader look up his next question that's how i got to this one pressing on his name , and to think you would abuse people like me who really want to help
Well don't beat yourself up over it. You are just flesh and blood after all and the males of the species were created essentially for one thing. You said she is beautiful and was wearing a very tight dress. Maybe you had a little wine, maybe she caught you off guard. Don't get me wrong, it is kind of weird. But, again, you're a healthy red-blooded American male. But it's not the end of the world. And I don't think apologizing to her would make it any better. Chances are she didn't notice. Besides, she's probably a little too old to be sitting in anybody's lap. You immediately excused yourself and that was the best thing you could have done. It could have been worse, ever see the movie Planes, Trains, and Automobiles? Let it go Dad.
first of all if this is a real situation then I do not think of you as a bad person as bad as it sounds you probably did feel a bit attracted to her because of how she was dressed and you are male and she is female and that's what usually happens when a man sees a women but on the other hand honey this is your own daughter and this can not be happening I think a counselor could give you the best advice and you should seek one. as for her noticeing just explain it wa a accident and she might be to much of a woman to be sitting on you now.
on the other hand if this is fake just for attention you should still seek a counselor o.k? if you need that much attention i feel bad for you sugar but in the end good luck and don't listen to all the down sided opions about you you are none of those things.
You said you feel disgusted, it shows that you're not guilty. This shows that the human nature has never changed since the beginning of time...
LOL Reported.
she is 19 she knows what she was doin' she should not have sat on ur lap...don't go any farther.. u r normal.. the other head was thinkin' she knows what she was thinkin' ...think bout it...there is something going' on with her...that's why she sat on ur lap..but was this ur real daughter or stepdaughter...O'MY! if it was ur real daughter then there is something u need to do bout that...!.L
First, I would like to apologise on behalf of some of the people who took the time out of their day to MAKE YOU FEEL MORE GUILTY. I won't publish my thoughts about them here.
The fact that you feel guilty about your reaction to your daughter proves that you have a conscience.
Arousal is a chemical reaction in the brain that does not differentiate between right or wrong (per the morality or the world, religion, society or your own personal beliefs). You cannot necessarily control it.
Having said that, if your daughter did notice and if she was as uncomfortable with your reaction as you were, then you need to take immediate reaciton to rectify the situation. Since she sat on your lap at a wedding, in public, this indicates to me that up until now you and your daughter have had a very close, loving relationship. If this feeling of guilt and discomfort between you is not resolved soon, that relationship could cease to exist as you know it.
Talk to her. Let her know how beautiful she has become and that, even though you are her father, and love her, your reaction to her was to the woman and not to the person. Let her know that you have never had sexual thoughts or fantasies about her and that you feel excessive guilt over what transipired and the stress it has caused in your relationship. Do not get angry. Do not place blame. If she gets angry or distraught, let her flame it our and accept it as natural. This, too, shall pass.
It may be that once she noticed your reaction she felt guilty by it as well. The important thing is that you talk about it, FORGET it and move on, maintaining and honest and open relationship between yourselves.
I know this is not easy advice and raising the issue with your daughter will be very uncomfortable as well. But I believe this is the best and fastest way to resolve your dilemma... God speed and good luck.
You reacted as a normal male would react to an attractive female. Your body does not make a difference between whether it is your daughter or unknown female. However, the danger comes in when the male acts on those impulses. The good news is that you didn't. You realized that it was "morally" wrong by our culture and stopped before anything further developed. This does not mean you are sick or you need help. If you had acted on the impulse and made a conscious decision to have sexual relations with your daughter, then, in this culture, you should seek help. My suggestion, since you know now you have this attraction, is to insure that the two of you are not alone together. Make sure that she does not sit on your lap. If you wish to talk with a counselor, you can. They can help you to sort things out in your mind, but you already know the answer and that is why you felt the way you did... that is why you got up and left... that is why you are having this quandary now. Relax, you are a normal male. Just take precautionary steps to insure that it doesn't happen again and that there are no opportunities for it to occur or progress to a higher stage of involvement.
I would say pardon my language but I don't care.. you are F***** sick... you are kidding as from your other completely disgusting question that you have posted. Seeing that you think this is completely funny and trying to be smart. You might want to think about the people that are reading this. I have been sexually assaulted, and I by no means do I find this funny.Why are you so messed in the head that you can't think of a more logical and thruthful question? Just a pervert, people with minds like yours should be locked up. A**hole.
I'm confused are you a 17 year old girl or a 45 year old male? Check out the other question people.
My question is why did she sit on your lap in the first place? This does not seem appropriate to me.
I understand that you may feel uncomfortable about what happened, but -- hey-- you're right, your other head did get confused in a way that's entirely "natural." After all, it was her butt that it was sensing, not her face..
It is civilization, not nature, that tells us that father/daughter sexual interest is wrong. (Actually, even the Bible does not say it's wrong, check it out for yourself if you don;t believe me).
And, within the context of society, it is *not* acceptable. At any rate, it's not your fault.
I guess my real question is what kind of boundaries does your family have about physical contact. Why did your daughter feel that it was OK to sit on your lap?
I am not far from your age, a woman with an 18 year old son. One of the things I used to love when he was little was taking naps together-- I would read to him, we would drink hot herbal tea, then fall asleep, When he got a little older-- around 11 or 12-- I felt it wasn;t appropriate anymore. My mother thought I was "making it nasty," reading too much sexuality into the situation. I thought I was behaving responsibly, so as not to send mixed signals to my son about physical intimacy. Of course, my mom also couldn;t understand why, at the age of 35, I didn;t want to pee in the bathroom while my dad, her husband, was shaving.
You did nothing wrong. You don't say whether there was drinking involved, but if so, that would definitely be a factor, for both of you.
Your daughter, if she is 19, needs to understand that sitting on someone's lap is not an "innocent" act at her age. She needs to understand, as well, that men who are not her father might interpret this as an invitation.
This is hard (sorry for the pun) but I hope you can find some peace in your heart over it. I'd suggest giving it some time, then maybe talking with her about it if there seems to be discomfort between the two of you. If not, why not just let it go as something that .. just sort of happened.
Blessings to you
I don't think it's perversion.
I think it's male instinct reacting to an attractive female. It's a natural reaction. Of course, cultural settings and upbringing, gave you a flag down. The fact, that you find it a problem, is a good sign you are not a pervert.
If you still have your wife, talk to her. Tell her what happened. The act of telling your wife about it, is a good safeguard mechanism so you wont act on your instinct.
Then, together, you and your wife talk about it with your daughter so as to do away with any awkwardness the situation may have brought.
Isn't there are a pop psyche that, subconsciously, a son choose a wife most likely like his mother, or daughter a husband most likely like her father? This idea may be crap but it isn't perversion.
YOU KNOW WHAT I JUST READ YOUR OTHER QUESTION YOU ARE A SICKO STOP PLAYING WITH PEOPLE AND ASK REAL QUESTIONS PEOPLE TRY TO HELP YOU AND GIVE REAL ANSWER FOR YOU AND THIS IS WHAT YOU DO..MY ANSWER TO YOU B4 I FOUND OUT YOU WERE A FAKE....Dont listen to all the name calling..I think you had every mans nightmare come true on you...The important thing is that you didnt mean for it to happen and you didnt try to react on it period. I have a Daughter to I hope to GOD I never get put in this situation. I also read were someone said that you had to have looked at her in a sexual manner because you noticed the tight dress. Thats bull right there that doesnt mean anything. But we notice change in them and they do grow up and start to look like women. Talk to your daughter lie and tell her that it was because you popped a viagra earlier, because you were planning a wild night with her mom or something damn dude just play it off crap happens. and remember you didnt act on it and you didnt want to get aroused...and it sounds like you were ashamed and embarassed about it.
You think to much with your dick, thats whats wrong with most men nowadays, thats nasty,
thats sick!!!!!!!
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