Is this offensive?
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honestly instead of focusing on the choice of words the teacher made, think about what help you can give your daughter considering whatever the issue might be. teachers aren't perfect, they're just people who make mistakes. you could talk to her about it and tell her how you felt. but don't go over her head (or even talk to all your friends about it). You should go to her first if it bothered you. And try to be a little more forgiving.
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It is not nice to call a child names, but you are over reacting a bit.
I personally don't think it's offensive, better than calling her half retarded like a teacher did to my daughter about 5 years ago.
WHAT? I'm with you, (as a parent) I would be FURIOUS...
As a parent I would be irate myself. She should of worded it different.
break the *****'s face!
Totally out of line and unprofessional. I would change schools. Who knows what else she is saying to the kids, not just your daughter.
how old is you kid? you need to chill
I don't think that is the appropriate way to describe a young child if it was my daughter i would be reporting her to the education board
There's nothing wrong with a preschooler being "naive". They're just kids!
I wouldn't ever call a child names, but I'm sure the teacher doesn't mean to offend anyone. If you find it offensive, have a talk with her and tell her you don't like your child being called names. I'm sure she'll respect your wishes.
OVER REACTING? I WOULD BE HOT SHE IS THE SPACE CADET. I WOULD , AS A PARENT, REPORT HER ACTIONS TO HER BOSS. I CAN'T BELIEVE SHE WOULD SAY THAT.
I would be pretty teed if a teacher called my child that. It is rude and insensitive. What she should have said was I think that your daughter is naive. And only that not the name calling.
It is wrong on the part of the teacher to have called names in front of the mother
You have every right to be upset. Upset would be an understatement. Not only would I tell her that was completely out of line, I would take her comments to the principal. She is supposed to be an educator and comments like that are just completely unprofessional!
Heh, I WAS a "space cadet" in school...she probably didn't mean it to be offensive, but yeah, she could've chosen her words better.
She could have told you in a more private manner, or used more appropriate terms when referring to your childs behavior. I would ask the teacher is this is a regular practice of hers and if so, how many parents has she pissed off?
I think you have every right to be irate! Children's minds are very impressionable at a young age. Your daughter not understand what a "space cadet" is but if the teacher said it with a certain tone/attitude, she may have picked up on that and take it as something is wrong with her. A "bit naive"? HELLO she's in preschool, gimme a break! I have 5 kids (21-10) and I've noticed in recent years how idiotic some of these "teachers" are!
I would let the teacher know how you feel (as calmly as possible, of course) you may TEACH her a lesson!
Umm, I would be a little irriated, but not offended. Plus, it depends on the situation of what my daughter did or said. My niece's teacher called her a jabber jaws because she talks all the time. My sister told her, she didn't think calling names were appropriate, but she agreed the issue needed to be addressed. I don't think I would raise a big thing about it, but say something in private to the teacher. I am a parent, but my daughter is only 14 months old, so I haven't ran into those things YET, but I am sure they are to come! Good Luck!
As a parent, I would be offended by someone calling my child any name, especially a teacher. It is their job to educate your child and she should of used a better way of telling you. She's in pre-school for christ's sake, what child isn't a bit naive? Let it go for now but if she continues with the name calling, I would put her in her place.
You need to understand her point of view in this.
I've known people who use that term all of the time and it doesn't mean anyhting bad. In fact, if they are feeling a lack of focus that day they'll say - "I'm such a space cadet today".
I have a real hard time believing that she would have meant in in a bad way given the fact she said it to your face. You need to ask yourself if she was being mean or negative or not in the rest of her delivery.
You could act like you never heard that expression before, and ask her what it means. That way you could get her definition of the term instead of placing your meaning of the word on her comment.
Also, don't expect perfection from her. We've all said things before, and wondered where those words came from. Sometimes it's a simple lacking of the right words, and it comes out wrong.
I think it is a bit offensive. I am sure your daughter would take offense to it if she was old enough to know the meaning.
I had a job as a CSR (customer service representative) a few years back. I spoke with a lot of elderly people that were ill. My personality is pretty upbeat and I love to make people smile and laugh. There was a lady I worked with that gave me my evaluation, she said that I was "bubbly" and it was a distraction to other workers. I took GREAT offense to her comment and put a complaint against her since she deducted points from my evaluation which led to me not getting a full raise.
My new job now, as a job card controller for Mesa Air, allows me to use my personality all I want. I was actually hired because of it.
I think my point is that the teacher is a bit of a "space cadet" herself if she has the nerve to say this about a pre-schooler. She has no right.
I am a parent and i would be extremely made to say the least if someone said that to my child or myself. You have every right to be angry. Al-though it also depends on her tone of voice and the context. If she said it as a lack of a better word (meaning she didn't know the proper way to explain it) then I would understand. I think you should talk to her and tell her how it made you feel for her to say that and you would appreciate it if she didn't talk that way again especially in front of your daughter. Good Luck!
My Dad is a teacher and would never insult a student this way. it is demeaning, offensive, and crude. you are not over reacting. some student learn at a slower pace, and some need to talk it out to understand what they are trying to learn.
That's is a teacher and should know better than to use name calling to describe a child. The word space cadet isn't really that bad of a word but the whole principal of that whole situation would make me a little worried about her competence as a pre-school teacher!
I understand how easy it is to get upset when someone (especially a teacher) has inappropriately offended you and the ones that you love. In this case you are absolutley right to be offended, because the teacher used an inappropriate and derogatory term to belittle your daughter. Honestly I feel that it would be in the best interest of EVERYONE if you took the matter to the school principal and filed a formal complaint. The only that that teacher will learn to be more mindful about the names that she calls people is if the matter is treated seriously. It would be best that you try not to be emotional, but rather use your rational self to file a formal complaint, and calmly explain to her superiors that she was out of line in calling your daughter a derogatory name. There are ways for teachers to explain to parents about the behavior and habits of their children, and using "slang" is not the proper way to do this. It is highly inappropriate, unprofessional, and the only way for her to know that she was out of line is if you address the issue, but not in an emotional way. DEFINATELY say something!! You are not in the wrong here!
Um, What is this person doing teaching if they talk like that?????? My gosh! If my child's teacher told me my child was a space cadet, I'd go crazy on them, especially a preschooler!
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Sounds like she was trying to be affectionate- people will often use these euphemisms in order to not have to directly say what is on their mind- they fear that somehow, people are more offended when they are direct.
Tell the teacher you don't like what she said. She never meant to be offensive.
i would be offended as a parent. i don't feel like she should be calling a child names. it's bad enough she did it to you, but in front of your child. very unprofessional. have you talked to the principal? i would take my concern there. good luck!!
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