I have bben bullied for 3 years in a row now and i was woundering if you had any advise to stop them doing it?
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Go to the Head of the School and say if you don't do something about the Bully you will write an article in the local paper and tell the Governors of the school.
TAKE KARATE CLASSES...
report them and learn deffensive martial-
tell them they need to stop.
take some self defense classes, karate, tae bo, tae quan do. u need confidence to help u conquer those jerks. if they have been doing it for that long, u will need to prepare to battle them.
i am totally against violence. sometimes we need to take a stand and self defend.
How ever old u are.Look the reason their bulling u is because u show that it bothers u.my son went through the same thing he's 12,but start sticking up for yrself plus if that don't work go to the athorities their is a law here in canada about bulling in the schools.Well good luck
As the owner of a karate class, I can tell you that joining such a club will teach you how to recognize the situation before you get into it, so you can avoid it entirely. Also, martial arts would give you the confidence so people would see you as less of a victim. They'll go look for someone else easier to pick on. There are lots of martial arts. Find one that's right for you.
Unfortunately, bullying is a tough topic. Your parents have to be pro-active. They have to go up to the school and have something done about the children bothering you. They won't go away on there own. All schools have policies in place for bullying and if the teachers and principal won't do anything about it you MUST get your parents to come to your defense. Once your parents start to make a big stink about your saftey and well being, the school will most likely come down hard on the bully.
Your parents should also make a request to meet with the parents of the bully(s). Sometimes that helps.
And if all else fails..I hate to say this but you may have to toughen up and whip his butt.
Do you have any older relatives that could meet you at the school and discreetly grip him up by the collar and kindly tell him to leave you alone..."OR ELSE"?
Sometimes bully(S) only understand there own language. I would think hard about all of my older cousins, brothers, uncles, friends who could maybe instill some fear in this punk.
Bullies are simply picking on you to gain a rep for themselves...he needs a dose of his own medicine
good luck
if you are at school go to the top of education
if you are at work go to the top boss and keep a record so you can give them all you have
I know it will be difficult but stand up to them - bullies thrive on peoples fear!
I have been bullied loads when i was in school. I was always very skinny and soft. To make matters worse my parents forced me to go to a dancing school at the age of 15. Well you can tell the rest.
Today I run my own Salsa studio, have a successful import -export business and source language trainings to chinese companies. I have seen more of the world at the age of 22 then most of my former classmates will probably in there whole life. Girls love a dancer that at the same time is successful.
What I am trying to say is dont loose your confidence over this, most people that bully do it in order to divert from their own weeknesses and flaws. They build up their confidence by trying to destroy yours. Keep telling yourself that life has a lot more in stock for you than the bullying at school. Take it as a conflict handling training trust me. If you dont break under the pressure then you will be strong in your worklife.
keep it up mate.
My son was being bullied, and started karate classes. He had to defend himself once using his karate skills against the bullies, and he has neevr been bullied since. It is also wonderful for general confidence, respect and fitness. I would recomend it to everyone.
Remember not all fights are won using violence, and karate helps teach these skills as well as the ability to apply violence when there is no other option.
The best way I've found to deter a bully is first, stand up to him. Even if you get beat up, he'll know your not afraid of him. That is what a bully does, picks on smaller, weaker people to feed his need to make you afraid. Once a bully is confronted, and especially if he gets punched out by one of his "victims" in front of his friends, he will usually go away. Good luck.
report them? i think you have probably already done that though, i know not everyone is going to agree with me here, but my sister was picked on from the age of eight until she 13, she was very over weight, and she hated school, had no friends etc, they would constanly wind her up, calling her names, being cruel, one day she snapped and punched one of them, she was suspened from school for a week, and my mum fought long and hard to get it taken off her record because of the circumstances of it all, it was removed in the end, and since she hit one of them, they never came back! good luck, please dont be too down, i know it really not nice, but there are always good times ahead, and one day they will get what is coming to them, people like that always have a downfall at some point in their life, just got to laugh at the when it does xx
Bullies are cowards and will run a mile if you stand up to them! If there is a crowd of them and they outnumber you make sure you have more friends than they do.Sometimes it is a good idea to befriend some of the bullies who are on the edge of the group thus splitting their loyalties.Mostly don't show that the bullying worries you because that is what they want.Good luck and keep smiling!
just as many have said, you need to increase your confidence. martial arts are a good source as they not only teach you how to defend yourself, if you get the right teacher, s/he will help you learn how to control your mind...
however, that is just a side issue. the one that has to be dealt with now is the bullying and how to stop it permanently. you need to get adult intervention or even an older child if there is no adult you trust.
you must tell someone who is able to act on your behalf to stop this before the situation gets out of hand. for you to come on here shows that you are getting pretty cheesed off by this so nip it in the bud and tell whoever looks after you.
if that don't help keep telling until someone hears.
good luck
stand up to them find the ring leader punch him in the nose even if you lose the fight you win the war because they will respect you for showing them you are not a wimp it will all be finnished
You don't say how old you are, but people who get bullied often look as though they are potential victims e.g. not looking people in the eye, having few friends, going off on their own a lot, not standing tall...etc.
First of all, be friendly with as many people as you can, for whatever reason, go around with them as much as possible; have people around you and get involved in activities.
Stand tall and look people in the eye. Smile and laugh a lot. Have confidence in yourself and do your best in everything, particularly those things you are good at and enjoy.
It's often a good idea to tell someone at school - your form teacher, personal tutor (if you have one), or a teacher you trust, deputy head, year head... or if there's a school counsellor or listener, you could talk to them.
Get your parent(s) involved too - don't suffer in silence. Your parents may be able to take you to a personal coach to talk things through and to give you extra confidence in yourself. Good luck. ~RJS
report it and take defense classes you are not alone there is help out there. pick up a leaflet from any public service office ie:doctors cab police station social services or ask a teacher in confidence
completly lose ur rag and kick hell out of the biggest and meanest looking one it usually does the trick
You don't say how old you are? if you are a child please ring childline or the Samaritans or speak to someone you trust : a teacher or your parents.
Speak with your parents, the school, and their parents if you can.
Take self-defense classes.
If you have a sister or brother see if them and their friend will give you some ideas/help on becoming more assertive towards others with this poor behavior.
Tell your teacher and learn martial arts...The bullies will then suffer in your hands haha
Do you know that bullies are in fact insecure, people? They probably see in you something that they wish they can have. What they're doing has nothing to do with you, "It's not because you're not fun or you're not a good person." If the bullies weren't giving you a hard time, they'd be doing it to someone else. It has nothing to do specifically with you or you value as a person.
Bullies are nothing more than cowards. That's why they often group together to pick on someone. When they're separated, they're gutless. That's why dealing with people individually is crucial. When you look him/her straight in the eye, he/she will begin to shrink. "Some people just are real angry, so they take it out on other people."
Tell your parents or someone that you trust, Tell them to be assertive. Your parents should call the bullies parents. Let them get involved. Your parents should speak with your teachers to make sure there's an attitude that bullying will not be tolerated. Don't let it get to you! Remember they are just cowards...
Good Luck.
The answer is simple...
You have to stand up to them and mean it.
Show down... I am not going to take anymore of your ****... What do you want from me? Lets finish this right now.
If they see that you mean it... 99% of the time they will back down... But they'll know if you are scare... Just like a dog knows if you are scare of him. A dog will never attack you if you show no fear of him.
Same goes with the bullies. Bullies on playground are not gangs... as much as they would like to believe they are.
There is usually one bully... the leader of the group... all the others are his friends because they admire him and seek his protection. His friends won't defend him. They'll just watch while you are confronting him.
It's really between you and him.
I am not saying that you can just go in there and do it...particulary after having been bullied for 3 years.
You have to prepare for it... And you only have one go at this... You need to have it right... And you need to win. You need to make him back down.
For my part...talking tough has always worked for me... I don't enjoy fighting... But when I had to, the fights were more like wrestling than punching... and lucky for me...even as a kid... I was always strong... even so I was skinny.
It is all an attitude really...Many people are bullied all their life until they died. It is still the law of the jungle in many respects. You have to stand up for yourself.
tell someone, tell your parents, if they wont listen, tell your teacher, if they wont listen, tell you school counsellor, school principal, your uncle.. what ever you do tell an adult who can help if they don't tell someone else. Good luck
duff em in..bullies are cowards
talk to your teachers get them to understand how this is effecting you ...... if not there are a lot of web sites to check out about how to sort out things when you are being bullied.
wish you well and hope you get the help you need
my children are taking taekwondo and they have learned some anti-bullying techniques . that might be a good option for you. or you can try to stand up to them .-good luck
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