I have a son who is 6 with adhc he's now start hitting me i've tried everything there is to try please help
Answer:
Never, ever, ever allow a child to harm you or siblings. Remember, he is only going to get bigger and angrier. Make hitting of any type zero tolerance in your home. It would be best to introduce structure to your household. You see whooping the child doesn't work and anyway, if he sees you using that to punish him, he will only mimick that behavior and hit others.
He needs therapy individually and group therapy. Give him rewards when he does good and when he is wrong, put him on time out. When he hits you, restrain him and sit with him until he is calm. Let him know that you love him still, despite his behavior but that behavior will not be tolerated.
Do some reading and alot of praying.
My son is ADD and turned ADHD when he turned 17, but I never had the type of problems you are experiencing. He is overspoken and angry and learns only from drastic actions. I later learned he also suffered from social disociative disorder, whatever that is. He won't get help but is fuctioning okay. He would be doing alot better if he got some help but he has to realize that for himself.
The best thing you can do is to teach him as much as possible. Teach him the basic things in life, over and over and over until they are second nature. Teach him to read and become an avid reader. Teach him to count money and do basic math, well. And most of all, teach him that wrong is wrong no matter what your circumstances are and that respect for others is always required. This way he will be able to function as an adult.
God Bless and Good Luck!
At 6 years old, he should be able to be talked to and understand consequences for his actions. If he can't grasp that concept than there could be something larger going on, like a developmental or mental conditions that would need to be evaluated. He is also old enough to see a child psychologist who maybe can help. But he needs to be evaluated by a professional who can help you before he gets too much older.
My son was the same way, until I started hugging him back everytime he did it. and it works. Now he hugs me and tells me whats wrong. When he's timed out I or my husband go in and share his time out, we talk. it turns out that he needed the one on one. it will take time. and yes they're are times we can't always be there with him all the time, but it really has helped curb his outbursts, and we always make sure the rest of the family knows whats going on as well. Good luck.
What can I do to help my child?
This is a subheading of how to help your child who has adhd.
1. Accept your child's limitations.
Accept the fact that your child is intrinsically active and energetic and possibly always will be. The hyperactivity is not intentional. Don't expect to eliminate the hyperactivity but merely to bring it under reasonable control. Any criticism or other attempt to change an energetic child into a quiet or model child will cause more harm than good. Nothing helps a hyperactive child more than having a tolerant, patient, low-keyed parent.
2. Provide an outlet for the release of excess energy.
This energy can't be bottled up and stored. Daily outdoor activities such as running, sports, and long walks are good outlets. A fenced yard helps. In bad weather your child needs a recreational room where he can play as he pleases with minimal restrictions and supervision. If no large room is available, a garage will sometimes suffice. Your child should not have too many toys, for this can cause him to be more easily distracted from playing with any one toy. The toys should be safe and relatively unbreakable. Encourage your child to play with one toy at a time.
Although the expression of hyperactivity is allowed in these ways, it should not be needlessly encouraged. Don't initiate roughhousing with your child. Forbid siblings to say, "Chase me, chase me," or to instigate other noisy play. Encouraging hyperactive behavior can lead to its becoming your child's main style of interacting with people.
3. Follow a structured daily routine.
Household routines help the hyperactive child to accept order. Keep the times for wake-up, meals, snacks, chores, naps, and bed as regular as possible. Try to keep your environment relatively quiet because this encourages thinking, listening, and reading at home. In general, leave the radio and TV off. Predictable daily events help your child's responses become more predictable. ADHD symptoms are made worse by sleep deprivation and hunger. Be sure your child has an early bedtime and a big breakfast on school days.
4. Try not to let your child become fatigued.
When a hyperactive child becomes exhausted, his self-control often breaks down and the hyperactivity becomes worse. Try to have your child sleep or rest when he is fatigued. If he can't seem to "turn off his motor," hold and rock him in a rocking chair.
For children who have trouble slowing down at bedtime, night lights and background music are often helpful.
5. Avoid taking your child to formal gatherings.
Except for special occasions, avoid places where hyperactivity would be extremely inappropriate and embarrassing (such as churches or restaurants). You also may wish to reduce the number of times your child goes with you to stores and supermarkets. After your child develops adequate self-control at home, he can gradually be introduced to these situations. Be sure to praise your child when he plays independently rather than interrupting you when you are talking to guests or are on the telephone.
6. Maintain firm discipline.
These children are unquestionably difficult to manage. They need more carefully planned discipline than the average child. Rules should be formulated mainly to prevent harm to your child and to others. Aggressive behavior, such as biting, hitting, and pushing, should be no more accepted in the hyperactive child than in the normal child. Try to eliminate such aggressive behaviors, but avoid unnecessary or unattainable rules; that is, don't expect your child to keep his hands and feet still. Hyperactive children tolerate fewer rules than the normal child. Enforce a few clear, consistent, important rules and add other rules at your child's pace. Avoid constant negative comments like "Don't do this," and "Stop that." Develop a set of hand signals and use them rather than verbal reminders to tell your child to calm down or slow down.
7. Enforce rules with nonphysical punishment.
Physical punishment suggests to your child that physically aggressive behavior is OK. We want to teach hyperactive children to be less aggressive. Your child needs adult models of control and calmness. Try to use a friendly, matter-of-fact tone of voice when you discipline your child. If you yell, your child will be quick to imitate you.
Punish your child for misbehavior immediately. When your child breaks a rule, isolate him in a chair or time-out room if a show of disapproval doesn't work. The time-out should last about 1 minute per year of your child's age. Without a time-out system, overall success is unlikely.
8. Stretch your child's attention span.
Encouraging attentive (nonhyperactive) behavior is the key to preparing your child for school. Increased attention span and persistence with tasks can be taught at home. Don't wait until your child is of school age and expect the teacher to change him. By age 5 he needs at least a 25-minute attention span to perform adequately in school. Simple behavior programs with charts and daily rewards can be good for teaching longer attention spans and sitting still.
Set aside several brief periods each day to teach your child listening skills by reading to him. Start with picture books, and gradually progress to reading stories. Coloring pictures can be encouraged and praised. Teach games to your child, gradually increasing the difficulty by starting with building blocks and progressing to puzzles, dominoes, card games, and dice games. Matching pictures is an excellent way to build your child's memory and concentration span. Later, consequence games such as checkers or tic-tac-toe can be introduced. When your child becomes restless, stop and return for another session later. Praise your child for attentive behavior. This process is slow but invaluable in preparing your child for school.
Plan to have your child do homework and other tasks that require concentration in short blocks of time with breaks in between. Try having your child study with low-level background sound such as white noise or instrumental music. Do homework and studying away from the sounds of television, radio, or others talking but where adults can supervise.
9. Buffer your child against any overreaction by neighbors.
Ask neighbors with whom your child has contact to be helpers. If your child is labeled by some adults as a "bad" kid, it is important that this image of your child doesn't carry over into your home life. At home the attitude that must prevail is that your child is a good child with excess energy. It is extremely important that you not give up on him. Your child must always feel loved and accepted within the family. As long as a child has this acceptance, his self-esteem will survive. If your child has trouble doing well in school, help him gain a sense of success through a hobby in an area of strength.
10. From time to time, get away from it all.
Exposure to some of these children for 24 hours a day would make anyone a wreck. Periodic breaks help parents to tolerate hyperactive behavior. If just one parent works outside the home, they should try to look after the child when they come home, not only to give the other parent a deserved break but also to understand better what they must contend with during the day. A baby sitter one afternoon each week and an occasional evening out can provide much-needed breaks for an exhausted parent. Preschool is another helpful option. Parents need a chance to rejuvenate themselves so that they can continue to meet their child's extra needs.
When should I call my child's health care provider?
Call your child's health care provider if:
Your child shows unprovoked aggression and destructiveness.
Your child has repeated accidents.
Your child has been suspended or expelled from school.
Your child can't make or keep any friends.
You have "given up" hope of improving your child.
You can't stop using physical punishment on your child.
You are at your wit's end.
you should not punish a wrong doing you should for every bad thing he does you should not hit him or send him to his room but talk to him huge him .he feels left out he thinks that no one loves him. you and your wife should both do something special for him like taking him out one or two hours from school and go to park or lunch or movie .some thing just for him so he understands that you really love him and don't want to harm him.be patient very very patient it will take long time be stong have faith . good luck love is always the answer.
forget therest of those answers, send him to a chiropractor, adhd is a myth. his neck and back are not aligned correctly, causing his body and mind to not work proprly. remember how the central nervous system goes from the brain down the spinal cord, if this is not all working properly, then you diagnosed with "adhd". pooor kid can be siomply fixed. first step is x-rays of neck/back... your choice.
GET HIM ON MEDS! go to his doctor and ask for help!!
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