I'll probably get slammed for this but, here goes,,,,,?
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Well you have just gotten yourself into a pickle. Well on one hand you best buckle up and keep your word. Or you will lose her trust. And you surely don't want that. On the other hand, you need to do some fast searching on the net for info on the possiblities on infection and so on. Maby you can find some pics that look alittle gross and show her what might happen. And tell her that you all need to sit down and discuss the issue in depth. And in the end, you make the decision. You are the parent, you can do what you think is best. And be truthful about you didn't expect her to start her period so soon. That you really figured she would be a few years older and more mature. Tell her how you really feel, maby that alone will convince her to wait. Good luck.
Well you are kinda stuck cause if you go back on your word now she won't trust you again in the future. Next time, think twice before you make the deal.
I think that you should keep your promise because that is the right thing to do. Of course I wouldn't have made that kind of promise.
Tell her you were drunk when you made that deal, and that you will going to rehab for your problem. Tell her you really need her support if she gets the piercing it will push you over the edge into drink more.
Honor your word. But...you can also still have control by saying she can't wear shirts that show midriff.
Getting a belly button pierced isn't that bad, I've had mine done. You have to worry more about when she starts dating, late nights and tattoo's. Tell her, if she gets good on her next report card then you'll let her get it done. At least it's something she can hide and easy to cover.
If it was me as the parent I wouldn't let my daughter get her belly button pirced at 11 years old. I would carefully explain to her that it still is not a good time and that possibly you and her could discuss the issue again in a few years.
When she is grown and can make logical choices for herself then she should get things like that done...That's why there laws that state you have to 18 th have piercings and tattoos done.
You opened your mouth and gave your word, so that's the answer. You HAVE to stand by what you said this and every time with your child. Otherwise, they never really know where they stand with you.
a girl i know got her period way before your daughter so there's nothin to worry bout!!
talk to her, and explain why you think it is soon for her, communication is the key but good one
ps: I do not think you need to explain all those things about her to ask your question any way
Sounds like she is getting her navel pierced. I would sure try bribing her with new clothes or something. Try a new deal to break an old deal.. Haha, good luck.
Can you buy her the magnetic rinestones instead?
well just explain to her that you still don't have a problem with her getting a peircing, but that you want her to wait a little bit and think it out, cuz it is a responiblity to take care of, and some infections can be pretty nasty. aslo some places wont let you take her in because she is so young
If you think she should... then let her get one! Before you make your decision, think about what's best for you daughter; not the promise you made her. It's a good reason to break a promise if someone that you love will benefit from it!
let her and just explain tht if u let he then she has to continue on the way she acts and stuff
You should have never made a promise like that. 11 years old is too young for something like that and she is too young to make a decision like that. Anyhow think in many states you need to be 16 to get piercings. I would just tell her you rethought it and you think she should wait.
You should have never promised her that in the first place. An 11 yr. old with a pierced belly button? That is one of the worst things you could allow her to do. People with belly button rings already look trashy enough, let alone an 11 yr. old. I'm sorry, I just think you should go back on your word and tell her no. She might think you're a "bad mom" for promising something when you didn't mean it, but I gauruntee there's going to be alot of other people thinking you're a "bad mom" for allowing their 11 yr. old to pierce her body like that.
wow she has hair in her armpits at 11?? that is early and yeah that is true she did start her menstration earlyy, but anyways you shouldnt go back on your words because you made a promise alrdy so you should just let her get her belly button pierced.Anyways if she regrets it or think it's too painful to handle then it's her fault.
no. she is still REALLY young. set an age she can pierce it at. like at 16 or something.
would she compromise with a magnetic one for a year or two?
If not, then just explain that most girls start their period in their late teens, which is when you were expecting to give the okay. so she is just going to have to wait until tell. She'll be mad, but if she is as mature as you say, she should understand.
Even if she had started at 13 - that is still too young. Belly Button Piercing is an entirely different level than the other things you mentioned (shaving, bras, etc). That is a much more provocative and truly sends the wrong message. Chores, school and grades have nothing to do with it. That is much more about sexuality and explicit representation of that - I am not a parent, but rather a concerned citizen and truly think that sends the wrong message. Ultimately it is your decision, but you just have to wonder what is next - a tatoo at 13? You have to draw the line and set limits.
It's not the worse thing she could ask for. If she is a good kid all around, and you gave your word, I'd say follow through with it. Maybe she'll learn the value of telling the truth. If you set a precedence that sometimes you can tell a lie, don't complain when she proves she learned this lesson from you well!
That's a tough one! I am sorry but no way would I let an 11yrold have her belly button pierced, my daughter was 16 before I agreed that she could have hers done! Also I am sorry but an 11yr old is a young girl not a young lady!It's great she does chores etc and is responsible, but no way would I agree sorry!
maybe not her bellybutton...how about second holes in her ears??
the bellybutton thing is very sexual...you don't want your little girl to be a poster child for sex, do you??
she's still just an 11 yr old girl, regardless of what deal you made. so you were a little blind thinking she woudln't get her period for another couple of years. that's your fault, and you know it. but do you honestly think that it's ok for a child to get her belly button pierced?? i don't have mine done, and i'm 25 years old!
I think that 11 is too young for such a piercing, but you are her mother and must make that decision yourself. If you really don't want her to have her belly button pierced so young (and it sounds like you really don't or you wouldn't be asking everyone for advice), you don't have to "go back on your word". You are her parent and you have the authority to tell her no and that you change your mind. Or just be honest and tell her you didn't expect her to start so soon and that she should wait a few more years.
I know belly button piercings are a more common thing these days and that it's cool to have one, but as parents we sometimes have to be "nerds" and set standards that go against the trends.
hmm...good question! When i was a child and my parents told me that and didnt keep their promise i would probably not trust them anymore. You shouldve chose a higher standard than a period to get her belly pierced as an incentive. But you are the parent. Do the right thing. I would say for now do what you promised and dont lower your standards or else she has to take out her piercing
ask her if she would rather get her cartige or something else pirced because she might regret it latter
well, you did make a promise to her to let her get it done. You really can't go back on your promise. Sorry to tell ya but, girls do start their periods at about this age so, if you were hoping she wouldn't get it until 18, then I guess you got a shock.
This is a tough one. I don't think it's right for a parent to go back on their word, but eleven years old really is too young for a belly button piercing. If I were in your shoes, I still wouldn't let her get the piercing because I wouldn't want my kid growing up too fast. I would apologize for the unkept promise and do something else she has wanted to do in its place. Even if she is mature, IMO it's still not a good idea to have the piercing done at this age.
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