My son is being victimized on school bus please help?
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I'm a school bus driver, and I think I have a better next step.
Instead of taking the day off, try calling your school district's Transportation Office. You can probably call as early as 5:30 am and as late as 4:30 pm. (But I would avoid 7:00-9:00 am, when he or she will have the least time to talk.)The number should be in the phone book.
If possible, talk to the Transportation Director (or Supervisor, or Manager. Different districts have different names for the position.) Most Transportation Directors will be very concerned about violence on the school bus, and will be able to rely any concerns and information directly to the driver.
Don't worry about lawsuits or threats during the first call. This may be the first time the director has heard about the situation, and he or she will be better able to help if no one has to get defensive. And besides, he'll know lawsuits are a possibility. Just tell your concerns, and ask if they can look into it.
If that doesn't work, then try calling the superintendent. And if that doesn't work, there might be some legal wrangling ahead. Good Luck!
take him to judo and karate or tai chi or aikido.
not that he will beat the other kids up.
but it will improve his confidence in the long run.
for life.
no one can protect your kid all the time.
if that was my child I would have not waited till now!
WHAT KIND OF MOTHER LETS THIS HAPPEN TO HER CHILD! GET A CLUE ... TALK TO THE PRINCIPAL.. WHEN MY KIDS HAVE ISSUES I GO STRAIGHT TO THE TEACHER, BUS DRIVER,PRINCIPAL! U SHOULD HAVE NIPPED THIS IN THE BUD THE FIRST TIME HE WAS GETTING HARASSED! SO WHAT ARE U GOING TO DO NEXT? YOU PUT YOUR SON IN THAT SITUATION BY LETTING THIS GO ON FOR SO LONG!!
GROW A BACK BONE AND STEP UP!!!!
you should probably ask your son why he is getting beat up at school, and if he tells you "i dont know" then ask what he thinks the reason is. if he can't tell you, then i'd persue the problem until the reason is discovered. this problem wont stop until you figure out why it's happening.
I'd think in this situation your work would let you take a bit of time off to go to the school. You'd better take the time to deal with this or it will only get worse. Call the school and make an appointment for after work hours if necessary. Tell them it's not acceptable and you want them to monitor the school bus. If necessary, lodge a complaint to the school board and to the bus company.
You should also get your son in some sort of self-defense classes.
wow, try to talk with your boss and see if you can get a day off due to a confrence at your child's school. then go to his school and talk to the principal the bus driver and the students that are harassing your son, they will get in serius trouble belive me. i am 12 that stuff sometimes happens a my school, at if kids do that at my school they will get iss, oss, alternitive school and more. I really hopes this helps.I hope this never happens agian to your son.
I would call the principal first and if they do not do anything then I would find out when the next school board meeting is and I would ask them what they plan on doing about this. Tell them that they are creating an unsafe environment for your son and that he is scared and is being brutalized. Take pictures, keep records. Tell them if they do not do anything about this then you are going to get a lawyer and file a lawsuit and notify the newspapers through a letter to the editor describing just how unsafe the school bus system is for children and how the teachers, principal, and the school board has done nothing about it.
I bet if they were threatened with bad media attention they will fold and take care of the problem. If they don't, I would get my computer ready to write a letter to the editor of all the local newspapers big and small.
You could always consult with a lawyer first and then see what he says but I would imagine that a little bad media attention will solve the problem.
Best of luck!!
I'll tell you what teachers have told me time and time again when I raise issues. "Your child is the responsibility of the school from the time he/she leaves your front door in the morning, to the time he/she returns in the afternoon". To make it simple, if the school is aware that there is a continuing issue with regard to how your son is being treated, they are liable. You can definately sue, but you have to file the formal complaints with the school board first.
My personal suggestion, as a mother who has been through this: Write a letter to the superintendant of your school district. Be very detailed and make sure to voice your frustration. You will very likely receive a phone call or a written response back and the issue will be handled.
The other thing to do (I did this when I was a single mom, and though it's not politically correct, it got results): Get your son to tell you the names of the kids. Go to the school and INSIST that their parents be contacted for a one on one meeting. Tell those other parents that if they don't control their children, then YOU will. Leave it at that. It worked for me!
Contact the school principal and the superintendent. Find out who is beating on your son.
I had a similar problem, school did nothing, the 3rd time, I went to the bullie's houses and told them if it happened again, I would call the police and they would be charged with assault and battery. I had taken my son to the police station and already filed a complaint. I gave the parents and the school a copy of the complaint. The kids were banned from the bus. I probably should add here that the kids had been bullying other kids, most of them 3-5 years younger then them.
One of the kids already had a 16 YO brother behind bars.
I'm a sociology student, and victimization is one of the most painful experiences a person can live through. I say your best bet is to move schools (if that's possible) because what happens on the bus is probably just a small taste of what happens in school. If that's not possible I say you'll have to make time to speak directly with the principal, bus driver, go as far up as necessary to find someone who is actually concerned. This needs to stop NOW!
have your kid join some kind of martial arts/boxing school, not to start acting like a bully but to toughen him up giving him confidence and some kind of defensive action. Another thing, there's no such thing as "no time" for your child. your priorities should be your kids, make the time to report this and talk to the bus driver ASAP.
My heart goes out to your son because the same thing hap pend to me! However it happened to me in the school, if I were you I would call the cops! Have the cops call the school!
Hi,
I'm sorry, but I can not believe you haven't boarded your son's bus yet, or visited your school district administrators. If these incidents are happening aboard the bus; the driver, parents, and district administrators should be approached. The teachers may not be aware of what is happening to your child, and if they are, they should be held accountable for not relaying information to you.
I am a single mother as well and I could not stand to let such atrocities get this far! Stomped on your child's face? Punched him in his face and stomach? Lawsuit or no lawsuit, you need to let the children, the bus driver, and the district know that you are a force to be reckoned with.
Also, teach your child to stand their ground in light of adversity. There may be more times where the teachers and the bus driver will not notify you. There is no reason why your child should be coming home a bloody mess while under the care of your school district.
If this is a bus matter, and a bus matter only, go directly to administrators and write a formal complaint to the school board. If the incidents do not cease, demand that they provide safer transporation for your son to and from school, continue to write and document everything. Take your child to the hospital for his current injuries. He needs adequate care as he may have broken bones, head trauma, or fractures you are unaware of. Get copies of his records and document every scratch as well. If they can't ensure that your son will be safe going to and from school and if his riding the bus gives rise to further incident, get your papers together, build your case, and take the district to court.
Don't use your job as an excuse or the fact that you are a single mother as an excuse not to intervene on your son's behalf. He is being subjected to violence and in turn could result in severe depression and low self-esteem. Karate is a good way to encourage your son's confidence and build higher esteem. Also, look into local mentoring programs or Big Brothers / Big Sisters. We may be supermoms, but there are times we can't give a male child what he is in need of on our own strength.
Don't let the bullies continue to bully you and your son. Continue to encourage him. If you can't get away from work, call the school, bus depot, and the administration offices at least 20 times a day if you have to. Start making some demands. Get the first and last names of the children who ride the bus. EACH AND EVERY ONE OF THEM... and start making some calls. The internet white pages is a good source to track down people in your immediate area.
Ok mom... now get to it! Your son is in danger.
OK LOOK!
What is more IMPORTANT? YOUR JOB or you OWN FLESH? take a stupid day OFF and go protect your SON!... if he gets in serious problem and gets punched very bad or whatever. Go cry to your office..! since you picked that as first priority.
I'm not here to judge, but your poor little boy probably is terrified to go to school every day and that's bound to affect his school career and grades in the long run. As the others stated, contact the higher-ups as you'll get faster results. Explain to them in no uncertain terms that if this situation is not handled and your son is not protected from bullies that a lawsuit will be placed against the school and anyone who does not step up when they see this sort of behavior occurring. I thought that the Zero Tolerance rules covered this, but apparently your son's school skipped that chapter. If it's simply a teacher issue, get him relocated to a new classroom and soon. Make sure proper steps are taken there as well to prevent this from happening to another kid. Good luck.
Now is when you MAKE time, esp when your child is in danger. Talk to the bus driver, see if she can capture the names of the bullies.
Next, hassle the teachers, principle and finally the board of education until they provide a safe environment for your son. If they can not do that, inform them they will get a bill for the taxi so your son can arrive to school safely.
Educate your son - Put him in a karate/self defense class. Let him know, that you don't approve of fighting - but when someone constantly throws the first punch, he can nudge a little back. Teach him to yell 'STOP' as loud as he can or give him a whistle to blow.
I know how you feel, my son was bulled on the school bus a few years back, he's small for his age and the bigger kids just picked and picked on him. He'd come home crying everyday. I called the bus superintendient and the bus driver wasn't very coporertive with me is why i went straight to the super...The bus driver kept saying she was seeing my son hit others, but when 3 children come home and each one at different times tells you what is happening you intend to believe the child over the bus driver...anyhow, since the bus driver didn't want to do anything about the super put camera's on the bus to see what was happening and come to find out it wasn't my child it was the other children.You need to get in touch with the superintendent over the buses, not the school principle, they won't do anything...It should stop happening, if you have to find a lawyer then you should get one, you need to take a day off of work and go to the superintendent's office or call them...If you call them they will look into it. If you take it to court you need pictures of the bruises or hurt places to have proof of what is being done to your child. Don't wait anylonger, do it now! Your child also needs to take up for him or herself and I don't approve of fighting, but sometimes the child has to show that they're not scared of the one's bulling them anylonger! Since the bus driver isn't seeing any of this or calling and let you know see if you can get your child on a different bus, see if there's a child in your area that he/she can sit with on the bus. Just don't let it go on anylonger your child is being abused! Just because the abuse is comeing from peers it's still abuse and we as parents don't want our children abused by any one or anything.
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