Why is my son is not eating his lunch at school?
This week, he has been going to the nurses office after lunch complaining of a headache, and he has not eaten lunch. This makes me furious becuase I know I make him lunch every morning, and it makes me confused because he lied about not having any food. He already is a picky eater- does not like veggies, or chicken. I have a hard time feeding him. He loves any pasta, mac & cheese, Alfredo sauce, grilled cheese, and burgers, and certain kinds of chicken nuggets.
I don't understand what compels him to tell the school that he has no food for lunch. The school calls my husband & I to question us. Why is he doing this?
Answer:
Ask him the things that he would like in his lunch and then let him help you make it. It helped with my daughter,
Maybe somebody is stealing his lunch, or maybe he's been trading his lunch for other things...like...action figures or something...
Maybe he doesnot like Ham, or bologna try Burgers, Mac & cheese stuff you know he likes. Write a short note in his lunch just letting him know you are thinking about him.
Step back from your anger and talk to your son. You need to play detective and find out what is really going on. It has got to be more than lunch...talk to his teacher, talk to the lunch monitor, talk to the school counselor.is someone bullying him? Is there usually a test after lunch that he gets nervous about? Is his meds affecting him? Good luck!
Maybe the fact that you would get "Furious" over something like that is a contributing factor to his condition?
Kids skip meals sometimes... If you think that it is the medication YOU PUT HIM ON! making him not have an appetite and have headaches... maybe it is guilt you should be feeling rather than anger? Or like so many others you are feeling rage in the place of the guilt you SHOULD be feeling.
Side effects are side effects... I know I don't want to eat when I get headaches.
Listen to a song by Edwin Mccain called
"solitude."
Maybe it'll snap you out of it and reconsider the drug thing!
Dear CuriousMama,
Yes, the ADHD medicine could cause a loss of appetite, but you may need to look into it a little deeper because I know that lying about meals is a sign of Anorexia, so you may need to see a doctor so that he could ask your son some Q's. Anorexia could lead to panic attacks, so if you're worried about this, you may need to see a doctor FAST! Good luck!
well maybe.. yu said that he likes chicken nuggets pack him that... no ham or bologna pack him the foods he like.maybe he dosent feel like eating or he is not hungry he may not be comfortable eatin around people who he doesnt know
i guess he needs vitamins for appetizer
Does he come home without his food? If so, their may be some bully taking his lunch? Talk to him about it. If all else fails go speak to his teacher about how he is getting along with his classmates. There seems to be an important issue , hope all work out well. Take care
well i don't eat lunch at school mostly because i don't want to ge t anyhting stuck in my braces or on m yface alhtuogh i knw my friends wouldn't care as they love me no matter what it might be because he isn't hungry i don't eat when i am hungry!! well i hope i helped.
My basic answer to all food questions is not to make an issue of it. The nurse is an interesting twist. Essentially he is making himself sick (maybe) and then seeking treatment. That sounds like therapy is in order. Just give it time to work (a year or two), and you break the pattern by not giving the response he is used to getting.
my brothers had a mild problem like this. The only reason is because they like to hurry outside for recess. They would just take a minute to stuff their sandwiches in their mouths and then run out to play the sports with their friends. Are you aware of the friends he sits with at lunch? Maybe they have something to do with it. Is he embarassed at what lunch you pack him for some reason?
my twin sister has A.D.D so I understand about the medicine part but it shouldn't make him never want to eat lunch.Maybe you need to ask him what he wants for lunch if your don't already and if he still doesn't eat it talk with him.Some kids may be Anorexic or Bulimic at an early age.I'm going on 13 next month and I had thought I was big even though I weigh around 105.I'm a vegetarian now of course.I'd just suggest talking to him if you don't already.
let your son make his lunch with you, and then if he still doesnt eat it then ask him why. because he chose that. if he actually has a headache then it could be because he hasnt eaten it. also, take him shopping so there is a wider range of food for him to choose from. or see if the doctors can do something with his medication.
good luck!!
My son is in the first grade and he comes home almost every day with the same lunch that I packed in the morning MINUS the drink(s). After alternating several lunch combinations that he picked out, I asked him why, and this is what he said, " I have more recess time." I've been concerned for awhile, and now I am going to find out why my child's lunch-time is incorporated into the ever-so -popular alternative, "recess". Until things change, I try to pack things that are somewhat healthy that don't require to much time to eat like gogurt, applesauce, yogurt smoothies, jello and pudding snacks, etc. Of course you have to throw in fresh fruit and a string cheese, so you don't look bad,even though it usually comes home hot and yucky and some chips or a cookie that come back smashed. Another thing I've noticed with my son is that he fills up on his drinks that go down quickly. Good Luck!
I too think its a case of wanting to play rather than eat. Alot of schools now are making kids eat their lunch in the class room then head off for recess maybe have a talk to the school. His headaches after lunch are probably due to low sugar levels because he hasnt eaten.
dont make him lunch or give him money anymore. Tell him he needs to make his own lunch because he does not apprediate the fact that you are doing so much for him. Don't give him sympathy let him go to the nurse everyday but refuse to pick him up.
the meds.your son is taking is causing him to lose his appetite !
Ask his doctor if they can change the meds.
I'm a picky eater and remember not eating myself. I don't think that it has anything to do with his ADHD. Maybe you should ask him what he wants to eat for lunch. Also some of the food served at school are unappetizing. How old is he? I also went through a phase where I didn't eat as much and had terrible headaches. You should talk to a nutritionist/doctor about your sons eating habits.
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