My 8 year old daughter is getting in trouble at school (disobeying, talking, kicking)...how to discipline?
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We only have one consequence for getting in trouble at school. That is a SPANKING. I have 3 girls, they all know what the punishment is should they try that one. I am not talking about minor stuff, that the teacher deals with. I am talking about anything that their teacher feels the need to either call me, or pull me aside and tell me about. This means, if my daughters are punished by the teacher (losing recess, pin moved down on chart, or any other kind of warning) I leave it at that. If the teacher feels she needs our support she will pull me aside. I set it up like this at the beginning of every year, I have a talk with the teacher, and ask them to help me, help them. If my daughters don't turn their day around via teachers instructions, we make the proper adjustments on their bottoms when they get home.
When I am talking about spanking, I am not talking about a single swat to the covered bottom. In our home, it's pants/panties down, and over the lap, for a good red tush. Children, especially at 8, hate spankings (i know mine do) and will work hard at following the rules to avoid them. If the consistency is strong in your home, to the point your daughter KNOWS with out a doubt, she will get a spanking for certain behavior, she'll stop, GUARANTEED.
Give it a try, and good luck
Whup her butt and ground her for the whole weekend.
You often find this kind behavior, when the child is really bright . I'd change schools and see if you can advance her a grade.
first talk to her, then if that doesn't work she needs a spankin'
I think 8 year olds are too big to spank.. She should understand the consequences of her actions by now..
I think you should take away some toys.. and then give them back to her little by little, as she does a good job, for a reward for good behavior..
she's 8. she's a big girl and knows full well what she's doing. she needs punished and soon!
if she gets in trouble at school, then she needs to come straight home and do her homework and then she has to sit in her room for the rest of night. she can only come out to eat dinner with the family. period. no TV, computer, games, nothing "fun" at all. also, she needs to spend her time writing an apology to the person she offended explaining that she's sorry and why she shouldn't have done this.
she can't just write "i'm sorry". now, you will probably need to help her by letting her dictate to you and then you write it for her and then she can copy what you wrote. PLUS, this will be an added spelling and english lesson for her.
i hope this helps and i hope she learns her place in the world before it affects her permanent record at school.
take care!
She sounds like she has a lot of problems. Confer with the teacher and the school counselor.
They are trained to look for and deal with this kind of behavior. As far as at home, spanking works sometimes but at 8 years old an effective way of disciplining would be to ground her from the phone or no sleepovers or take away computer privileges. That helps my older ones.
Every kid has a favorite toy,game, activity. Take it away. She cannot get it back until she improves. I used to turn my daughter's life upside down. No TV/ no playstation/ no sweets/ no best friend coming over.
She learned that if she wants these things, she has to behave and if she does not behave these things will be taken from her. It will be hard at first but don't give in, teaching her how to behave in the real world is more important that that cookie or that TV show. be consistent, cause she will test you, take it from her every single time no matter what and do not ever give it back until she's earned it back. She won't like it at first but if you stick to your guns, she will find that she is the one that controls whether or not her life is fun and she will start making the right deicsions.
Good Luck!
well first i think u need 2 talk 2 her and ask her why she is doing this and if keeps doing it i think u should groung her and if that dont work u should spank her.
A child's greatest influence is the same-sex parent... she watches you like a hawk to see what behavior is acceptable. Kids also learn very early how to push boundaries. If you back off and let her have her way, she'll push further the next time. You need to set VERY disciplined ground rules about what behavior will/will not be accepted, and stick to it come hell or high water.
The thing with kids is that they think "If my parents loved me, they would discipline me." It's true of all kids, no matter WHAT they say out loud. Discipline equals love to them. And I'm not talking about abusing a child. If you know what your child values most, then take that away from her as part of punishment. Don't give in to tantrums she throws when you remove it; just ignore the behavior. Ignoring it takes away the power the child has. And be consistent.
She is at an age where cause and reaction is effective. Cause:bad behavior. Reaction: mom removes favorite toy, activity, etc. Let her EARN it back through good behavior. Once the child can predicts the consequences of what she does, her behavior should improve.
The 1, 2 3 rule.
1. Sit down and discuss her behavior and see what she has to
say and if she's cooperative.
2. Ground her if it happens again.
3. Last resort, give her an old-fashioned spanking. Sometimes
they work wonders.
Your second answer is true, often children will act this way when tey are bored with school cause they dont have a challenge. Also, maybe she has underlying problems with other kids there. Get to the root soon.
DEAR
USE THIS LISTED BELOW OK (1) NO CHATTING ON LINE NO FRIENDS OVER NO TALKING ON THE PHONE (2) NO SLEEP OVERS NO HANGING WITH FRIENDS ON THE WEEKENDS (3) NO TV NO VIDEO GAMES NO DVD MOVIES (4) NO TOYS (5) IF SHE TALKS BACK TIME OUT IN YOUR ROOM DOOR OPEN SITTING THE CENTER OF YOUR BED AND PUT ONE OF HER TOY AND MAKE HER LOOK AT IT AND NOT TO MOVE (6) IF SHE GETS SMART FOR BACK TALKING USE THESE 3 STEPS (1) USE DAWN DISH WASHING SOAP IN HER MOUTH AND MAKE HER BLOW BUBBLES AND PUT HER ON HER KNEES NOSE TO THE WALL YOU SET THE TIME LIMIT AND LAST A REALLY GOOD SPANKING IF ANY OTHER KIDS IN THE HOME TAKE HER TO YOUR BED ROOM PUT HER OVER YOUR KNEE AND THE BED AND SPANK REALLY GOOD WITH A OPEN HAND AND IF SHE LAUGHS GET A PADDLE THAT YOU USE TO BUY WITH BOUNCING BALL ON IT AND PADDLE HER AND SHE WILL CRY OK TAKE CARE
The teacher needs to use discipline on the spot.
I talked with teacher, counselor, psycholgist and principal at a meeting when my son was in kg. they were not willing to take responsibility. After the 2nd time he stabbed with scissors, I pulled him out and homeschooled the next year for a repeat kg.
1st grade I put him in a different school.
The teacher made him sit alone in the back room until he could participate.
Great teacher she was.
Unfortanately my son is icd, at the end of the year he tried to choke kids on playground and he really was not learning much so now we school at home again using k12.com.
For some states this is a public virtual school.
maybe she doesnt like her school and people treat her badly iv been there and dont whip her for disobeaing what if she is having a break down your just breakind her down even more i mean 8 is a little young but they do as there role model does so try and talk to her dont beat her for trying her best
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