What would you say to a teacher who threatens to throw a kind student who got on wrong bus, off of the bus?
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First of all, you need to get your nose out of your son's business, and let you son handle things with your grandson and the school. You are operating entirely on what you hear from the boy and your son. As nice as they may both be, they will certainly speak from only one view point.
Second, a suspension from the bus is a common discipline measure. Perhaps it is warranted, perhaps not. Has he had other problems? Has he gotten on the wrong bus before? Has he misbehaved on the bus? It is easy to be critical, but you must remember that the bus driver is responsible for the safety of up to 60 kids, and often, he is the only adult on the bus (perhaps you have bus monitors in your school, but many don't). So, he has to drive and watch the kids all at the same time. And, if there is an accident or problem, then it's his butt that is toast. All that for a relatively small pay check.
And your last statement is SO revealing. He's not a mean kid, just overactive, and if the teachers can't handle that, they ought to get another job. Perhaps you ought to try being a substitute in school, and see what its like to handle 25 "overactive" children for the day. You might be a bit touchy by the end of the day too, you think? Rather than complain, why not volunteer to help around the school. I have never heard of a school anywhere that couldn't use some volunteers. You can read to students, staple papers, help with special projects, or any number of things. Then, if your grandson IS being mistreated, you'll get to see it first hand, and the problem will probably go away. And, you'll come to understand that there are two sides to every story.
i think it is a little over board and the father should higher a lawyer and fight it. That is just ridiculous.
definatly strict hes just a lil kid they should make him get on his bus then just drop it
I wouldn't talk to the teacher, I'd talk to my Attorney. Right after I changed schools.
I would first off report the teacher to the school superintendent and then to the school board if she has caused emotional harm to my child. Being that you grandson is 5 you would think that they would grant him a little leeway.
You might want to bring up the schools bus rules and if being suspended for this is normal procedure
This ranks right up there with one of the most ridiculous things that I have ever heard. I am sure your grandson made an honest mistake.
No child that is 5 years old LIKES to realize that he is on the wrong bus! How scary! This should be brought to the school principal's attention.
yes this is ridiculous and absurd.u should have ur son get a lawyer and bring this case to court..good luck
If the poor kid simply made a mistake then they were waaaayyyyy overboard and the teacher should be repremanded. Hopefully this can be resolved without lawyers.
and if your grandson is not creating class disturbances on a regular basis by throwing things, hitting, jumping around, taking toys from others etc medication may not be in order. The side effects are horrible and it should be a last resort. Google the information on medication side effects for ritalin and dexidrene when given to kids
The school is probably worried that your grandson will get on whatever bus suits his fancy and they feel that by suspending him from the bus, someone in the family will make sure he gets home alright.
I tend to agree that it is severe to suspend him right now but if he continues getting on the wrong bus, the school is within their rights.
They're runnin' a damned tight ship ain't they ? Somebody needs to take a chill pill ! If the child is annoying, then somebody needs to do something about that. (meaning his parent) or whoever takes care of the child. I can't imagine that teachers would be that way, especially to a 5 yr. old., without a reason.
This is very over board. They are crazy. I'd fight it. He is 5 and he made a mistake. Call the school board and complain.
Personally I think they went overboard. The school systems today are way too bossy and uncaring. Think they need a hard lesson in compassion. Get a good attorney and have him slap their hands with a law suit.
I assure your child will get good treatment then.
Don't worry -- the teacher is making idle threats. I am an assistant principal, and I happen to know that NO teacher has the authority to keep a child off the bus. I am surprised it has turned into an issue, actually. My students hop on the wrong bus all the time. We just bring them back to school, call the parents, and then get them to the right place. No harm done. However, be aware a student CAN be tossed off the bus for poor behavior, so if you are concerned about his hyperactivity, do him a favor and have that checked out.
Ok, so I wouldn't take it as far as getting a lawyer (people sue too much and the situation isn't that bad YET) but I would definitely speak to the principle and most likely the school superintendent. It was the teacher's fault. She was supposed to make sure that your grandson got on the right bus. If anything she should be reprimanded, not your 5 year old grandson.
Ohh..I would make such a stink!!..How dare that teacher even suggest such a threat to a child!..Children are easily distracted, and any child could make a mistake of going on a wrong bus. it is the teacher's and bus drivers duty and responsibility to make sure they re safely boarded on the correct bus. This teacher needs to have a formal complaint against her.
That is insane. Tell ur son to get a lawyer and fight it all the way. it's a common mistake, come he's 5. Good Luck!!!
If that is all he did, then suspension would be way overboard.
However, you also have to realize that you do not have all the facts. You are getting one five-year-old's side of the story, and you can bet that is skewed, even if he is a nice boy who is normally honest.
Your son should schedule a conference with the principal who is trying to enact the suspension. He should ask what happened and get the school's side of the story.
After listening to the principal, your son should determine if he should argue against the suspension and then proceed.
The job of a school is to deal with each child- even if they have mental, physical or emotional problems. ADHD (which I think you are referring to) is not uncommon in children. I cannot imagine why the teacher would threaten being suspended for such a small act. Your grandson was not hurting anyone, not hurting himself.. he was just talking to a friend, and got on the wrong bus.. Heck, I am 32 and I do things like that when I am not paying attention. If your Gson gets suspended.. fight it. You can take it to the superintendent, and if they dont do anything, take it to the school board. I really think that they need to get some new "blood" in there that knows how to deal with children with different behavior problems.. and not to mention the kids that dont! ADHD isnt a HUGE deal, but they do take extra time to care for. I can see why you are so upset. I say fight it... and also, talk to your Gson about the whole bus situation.
Good Luck!
Suspension, for a 5 year old? I would call the school board and let them know what is going on. That is just WRONG. It is way overboard.
As for being hyperactive, check his diet, eliminate sugars and starchy foods. This may help.
Also, 5 year olds have short attention spans and a lot of energy. Think about this before medications. I think a lot of problems with the kids today is being "doped up" at such a young age.
If your grandson keeps getting on the wrong bus then he needs to be removed from the bus. Each bus has it's own route and there are far more childen on each bus than your "precious" grandson. They can not keep other children from getting home to their parents on time in order to go out of their way to get your grandson home. If his attention span is so bad maybe someone from home should take him and pick him up from school until he learns which bus he needs to be on. If YOU don't like the town you live in you have the option to move. I doubt very much someone in that town is holding you hostage and FORCING you to stay there.
I'm getting really tired of schools having "one size fits all rules" that are supposed to cover everyone from innocent five year olds to sixteen year old gun-toting hoods. What ever happened to teachers and schools having some compassion and common sense?
Assuming this is the only time he's ever done something naughty, suspending your grandson from using the bus over it is overboard.
He's only five years old. Five year olds get distracted, have trouble paying attention. And sure, sometimes they get fidgety - that's why there's supposed to be recess, to run some of that energy off! I'll bet he didn't even really understand that he was doing something naughty. He may not even understand that the different buses go to different places.
I'm not sure what you can say to a teacher who's that inflexible, other than the truth: he's only five. He didn't understand. Let's give him another chance, and then if he does something naughty, we can talk about appropriate consequences.
Otherwise, if the teacher won't listen to the voice of reason, it may depend on how far you want to pursue the matter. I might be inclined to chat with the principal of the school, and then perhaps even the school board and local newspapers. You hate to blow a small issue up out of proportion, but you also hate to see a kid treated unfairly.
As a teacher, it seems to me that suspending him for this is excessive, especially considering his age. However, I also know that you weren't there when it happened, and you most likely did not hear the whole story. I'm sure there was a lot more to it than just that. I practically have to scream bloody murder to have a student suspended for far worse offenses, so I can't imagine a principal taking the time and going to the trouble of suspending a kinder for what you said happened.
As for his hyperactivity, have your son request that he be tested. If a parent requests testing, the school is legally responsible for providing that testing. There's no sense in your grandson struggling through school when there are ways to help him (plus knowing one way or the other is super valuable for parents and teachers alike).
Best wishes. :)
That is ridiculous. Any body could board the wrong bus. It was the teachers responsibility to make sure the kids get on the right bus. It is the teachers fault! I would rip it up the teacher for not doing there job properly. If they don't think the teacher should do it - why do they have one there at all. He is five - five year olds care about friends and getting home to eat - not which bus line they are in.
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