6 yr old daughter acting like teenager, what to do?
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you have a alot of work to do and you have to be willing to follow through. She needs consistansy!
When she is misbehaving or mouthing off you need to put her in an area where she can sit down and reflect on what she did where she doesn't have access to toys or distractions
Once you have found this area give her a set time to sit and think explain to her you are putting her here to think about what she did wrong. Ask her what she did and if she is willing to tell you you can say now I want you to think about it and think about how you make mommy feel when you say these things
When you have given her sometime you can go back to her and ask her if she did some thinking
See what she has to say and encorage her to apologize.
Keep doing the same routine everytime she does something. Don't give her chance after chance. She has no respect for you now. She needs to know that you are her boss.
Put your foot down, and hard. My four year old did the same thing with me, and I popped her rear end and sent her to her room. She came out long enough to go to the bathroom and eat supper. That's it. After a day of nothing but staring at the walls of her room, she's been a different child ever since. And I know all about the daddy not disciplining. My ex doesn't either, and it leaves me and my husband to be the "bad parents." At least, that's what her dad tells her.
Okay first off she will not keel over from a spanking . A good old fashioned spanking will suit her just fine sounds to me. I spanked both my boys and they turned out just fine. they have never been in jail ,they are both college educated and have wonderfull wives and they are both very well adjusted. so if you ask me you need to implement either a spanking or a time out chair I used both. Since her father is involved he also needs to implement these tactics as well. If he wont then I am afraid it will all be up to you. believe me when I say i think you will notice a change in your child for the better. good luck and god bless and happy thanksgiving.
She's pushing your buttons, big time!
If your current forms of discipline isn't working, change tatics. Make her stand in a corner, sit in a chair, etc... if this doesn't work, remove her toys, no tv, etc...
You have to be firm with her. Right now she's getting away with whatever she wants and you have to put a stop to it.
This is a battle of wills and so far, it sounds like she's winning.
She doesn't look at you as an authority figure and she needs to know you mean business, when you tell her to do / not do something.
I have a 5 year old that is pretty much the same, until she knows that I am upset with her.
You need to put your foot down. You need to be stern and strict with her. If she wants to act out, then send her to her room. Take away TV priviledges. If that doesn't work, try this method. It has worked for MANY kids I know.CLEAN OUT HER BEDROOM. Take away all her toys. The only thing you leave in her room is her bed, blankets and a few changes of clothes. And make sure she knows EXACTLY why you did it. That way when you send her to her room, she won't have a thing to do. And if she has things taken from her for bad behavior, then she will want to work harder to be good. As she gets better and better, give her one thing back at a time. And if she has a relapse, take it all away again and start over. It will work. It's not cruel, it doesn't hurt them, it's not physical. She still has all her necessities, just not the stuff she loves! Try it! It worked for me as a kid, and my daughter, as well as a few others I know!
Sounds to me like you need a time out chair..
let her sit there for awhile until she learns how to behave.
When she calms down let her off the chair.
If she gives you a hard way to go, I'm afraid a
spanking is in order. It won't be the end of the
word but with some children only a spanking
works.
Wow! That is crazy! I have a 7 yr old, and can't imagine her even thinking of doing those things! I really feel for you, but sorry to say somewhere along the line she got the impression that is was okay to behave like this! You have to be extremely Firm with her! You must show her you mean business! It' sad to say, but if you do not nip this in the bud now, she may get worse! I do not believe in spanking myself, never have done it with my own. But in this case, I would consider it. Did she get like this out of no where or has it been a pattern with her? Check into other things, like classmates and grades, maybe there is an issue there. You have to lay down the law, scare her into acting the right way! I hope that you have success with whatever you try with her.
1. Be consistent.
2. Follow thru on your threats
3. Praise good behavior
4. Set guidelines
5. A easy chore chart with rewards after a week of completing them for a feeling a accomplishment.
6. Give one warning and after that do what you said you would do, such as no tv tonight. (Make her read, etc.
7. Make sure you spend quality time with your child.
8. Don't give in.
These few rules helped me raise my 9 year old who is always complemented on her good behavior at school and friends homes.
My six year old daughter gets very bossy from time to time too,but she NEVER actually wins her battles. Mommy always wins.I don't let her have her way b/c the way she acts when she IS a teenager will reflect on how well I raised her and her other two sisters when they were little. I'm a very flexable Mom,I have three daughters ages 6,3 ,and 10 months old ,I let them all make messes and do some things ,but they do know that Mommy has her limits as to where how much Mommy will tolerate.
My six year old actually trys to keep my other two in check from time to time,b/c she doesn't want to see me angry.
She has brought home some bad attitudes from school b4 ,and I've talked to her about them and asked her where she's learned those attitudes,and being that I do keep up to date with who her school friends are and I make suprise visits at her class room door in the afternoons to see who she walks out with to see if those kids could be a factor in how shes behaving: it makes it a little easier for me to rule out a couple of things.
If your daughter is in school ,I would investigate on WHO her school friends are b/c kids DO pick up on other kids bad attitudes at school from time to time.
Good luck to you and your family!
Instead of you "can't" send her to her room for an entire day or you "can't" send her to bed without dinner sounds to me as if you WON'T do these two things. If you WON'T do what is necessary to discipline your child then don't whine about her behavior. The probably reason she listens to your boyfriend is that he actually DISCIPLINES her and is in control of the discipline. She is 6 years old and is going to do all that she can to get your attention whether it be good or bad, to a child it doesn't matter what KIND of attention they get as long as they get it and she has learned (or you have shown her), how to push all of your buttons. She's in control when you try to discipline her because you won't take control. Until you do you'll always have problems and it will soon start with your son as well.
I have been helping out in my 5 year old kindergarten class and there is a group of girls that are 5/6 going on 17. Most children do not listen to their parents. The only thing I can recommend is follow through with what you say.If you say no dessert if you do x and then she does x do not give in and give her desert.
Wow great question, and unquestionably good answers already. I don't want to repeat but I would like to add. I have the same issue with my 6 year old boy. And its almost hard to swallow, but one of the things I find really helps him act his age.is for me too. lol Play with her. Play dolls, board games, dance. Me and my son go outside and kick a soccer ball around and shoot hoops. I also have a 2 year old and a 4 month old. And its harder finding the time for the older one with such younger ones who require constant attention.
You need to discpline her better. Let her know who is the parent and who is the adult. If you don't nip this in the butt now, its going to get worse especially in her teenage yearsl Get some bass behind your voice and let her know you mean business.
Sounds like someone is in for a good old fashioned spanking.
I Definatly Know what you are going through. I also have a 6yr daughter who thinks shes Hannah Montana lol. She was born with spina bifida she walks good but we really never displined her much because of that. But i will say lately shes been getting alot of spankings, But she laughs anyway appartenly they don't really bother her . The only thing that works for us is i have to raise my voice (which i hate to do) Then she will behave. Also try the time out chair that sometimes work. We don't even bother sending her to her room anymore as a source of punishment she has so much stuff in there it doesn't even phase her, and its too much stuff to take outta there . 5-8 yr olds are so influcenced by what they see around them example school, friends ect .. or what they watch on tv its getting really hard to bring them back down to what a normal 5-8 yr old should act like .. Good luck to ya .
you need to gain back control. she could be acting out because your now divorced or it could just be a stage(i am sick of stages)but there is nothing wrong with not giving her supper or sending her to her room. at one point i got so sick of my seven yearolds mouth i sent him to his room no big deal he has lots of stuff in there he said so i thought about it and i said dude i bought it its my stuff. i took everything except paper and pencil and books i packed it all up and we started right than and there with him having to earn his stuff back any time he wants to act like he has no idea of what respect is he losses something it was hard and he was mad at first but he is almost 9 and has been behaving very well for the past year. i also do not let my son watch anything violent or to teeny same with video games only an hour a day and supervised. good luck these kids sure are good at challenging us arnt they
HELLO!!! wake up.. this is a call she is asking for attention...My daughter started doing the same thing...after I had my third child..It also took me a while to figure that out..but I started to spend more time at night before she went to bed. Just the two of us, read her stories and talk to her about her day and let her know how much I love her..and we take shopping trips just the two of us..GOOD LUCK
Sit down and tell her next time she behaves like this you are going to start taking her toys, stuffies, or whatever away. When she does do it, go in there and follow through with it don't tell her you are just start with her favorite toy and so own till she is willing to stop acting that way. Then make her earn it back you have to take control of her now or it will be lost forever.
Firstly, what is your child's outside influences? Is it the wrong tv programs? Is there anything new at all since this behaviour has begun?
You do need to enforce discipline and sometimes outside help works. Just don't seek any from the social workers from child welfare...stay away from them.
Overall, you have to show her who the boss is and not cave in at all.
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