My 5 year old seems to have temper troubles..?
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Some children are perfectionists by nature. Your son clearly worries about failure and prefers to avoid any possibility of failure. You seem to be very aware of his struggle, and you are doing the right things, by trying to encourage him and talk to him about the importance of trying, regardless of the outcome.
I think it's important to make sure that his teacher and school environment are equally supportive of children's efforts. If you haven't done so already, talk to his teacher to make sure that her expectations for kindergarten are in line with yours and that the focus is indeed on hard work, rather than merely the result.
A few ideas might be to model appropriate behavior to your son, for example by choosing to do something you're unsure about and talking to your son about it, eg. you might try a new recipe, a new hobby, or a new route as you drive somewhere, and focus on the experience, hopefully that you learned something new and had some fun while doing it. Pay attention as well not to take away the opportunity of your son to do something, because it would be easier / faster for you to do it, eg. tying his shoelaces, buckling his seatbelt, cutting his pancakes. Of course, there are times we are in a hurry that we do have to help our children along, but in general, it's a great idea to build in some extra time into the daily routine that allows our children to have time to try to do these activities themselves. You might also want to choose a new project together, with your son's input. For example, if he's hesitant about starting a new sport, you might want to actually try doing it with him. My children, for example, are in an aikido class that offers "family classes" for parents and children to do together. It might give him some encouragement to have his mom right there with him. Or the new project can be something like setting up a lego toy together, or side by side, and of course, really focus on the attempt, how he is working hard and concentrating etc. You could try a sticker chart, as a motivational tool, for a specific task. For example, if he avoids reading because he is finding it hard, try setting a daily goal of 15- 20 minutes of his reading aloud at home, which can be tracked with daily stickers. After a few stickers, he might earn a little prize or a special outing. Another idea is to remember to use his own interests as starting points for new activities: if he loves dinosaurs, you can find a dinosaur puzzle that is challenging, yet excites him (you can even enrich the activity further by suggesting he draws his favorite dinosaur from the puzzle after it's complete, or you might read him a book about dinosaurs).
I hope these ideas help. Good luck with everything. I think your son is very lucky to have such a dedicated mother.
i think you should send him to a counsler
Consult a child psychologist or consult a counselor. Or Maybe its time for one of those mom to son talks.
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