Worried about step daughter?
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ABSOLUTELY NOT you are not over reacting! This is a serious concern! It is a very good idea that she is seeing a psychologist, and extremely proactive on your part and the part of her father. The typs of behavior that she is exhibiting indicates that she has been molested, whether it be by some older kids, or an adult. But the damage has been done, and it is time to get down to the bottom of the situation so that you and her father can know where this stems from! And also, to help protect her from further situations, she needs to be reinforced about what "good" behavior is and "bad" behavior. You are doing the right thing! Good luck! -Janet
Sounds like a pretty messed up little girl. Her behavior is way to sexual.... some experimentation is normal, but she seems to be beyond that. You need to speak to her psychologist in private about her and get that girl some help.
Sounds like someone did something to that little girl some point in her life. Maybe seeing this psychologist will help answer some questions. It really is sad and I hope for her sake that someone will be able to get to the bottom of this before its way to late for her. No you are not over reacting. Best of luck.
Hell no your not over reacting. Shoot i would take my *** to school and be riping some ***. You probably should be in full contact with her school about what is going on. I would get her involved in a extracurricular like sports or dance she needs some girls that are her age 2 relate to also 4 examples. i sorry 2 hear that cuzz that sucks.
No, you're not overreacting. Something MORE than little boys pushing, touching & teasing has brought this behavior forth. Tell her doctor about ALL of her behavior. The doctor knows how to find out the truth behind it. Don't wait. Say something now. I didn't find out that my own daughters stepfather was molesting her until she was 14 (it had been happening since she was 8 but I believed the "stories" she told me as to WHY she acted certain ways). She didn't want me to find out because HE had told her he would go to jail and then her little brother wouldn't have a daddy. Just imagine the guilt a child would feel if they thought that THEY were responsible for making another kids dad go away-especially if the other kid is their little brother. Good luck :)
There are a myriad of possibilities but here is my take on it.(I am not a psychologist but do have a degree in counseling). First, is she the only one seeing a psychologist? It might be a good idea for all of you to see someone as a family AND individually. Usually when a child is involved the family has issues to deal with whether they be root (cause) issues or issues of coping with the behavior of the child. Bottom line, mom and dad need support too and a psychologist is a good place to start (family therapist may be appropriate just make sure this person and the child's psychologist communicate!)
Second, how long has she been seeing this psychologist? What does the psychologist think/believe? What type of psychologist is this person? Are they a child psychologist or just a generalist? You may want to call your school district and ask for a list of qualified child psychologists (if not the schools then call your local hospital). The fact is, not all psychologists are effective with all children. If you do not see something changing within about 6 months I would consider talking to the psychologist and finding out what is being done and then consider a second opinion. Also know that, as the parent of a minor, you OWN THE RECORDS. These records do not belong to the psychologist or the child but they belong to you. At any given time you are allowed to request a copy of her medical/psychological records. Do not let them say no and if they do either threaten to report them to the state certification board or consult an attorney about your medical rights over your child.
Third, you should have your child (if you have not yet) examined by her pediatrician. Mom and daughter should go into the office and mom should tell the doctor of her suspicions and of the counseling (the more in tune her medical team is the better). Let the doctor do a thorough exam of the child to make sure she is ok and to determine if she has been abused (even over time they can check and determine things...they can tell if the hyman has been broken and how forcibly it was broken. Really it is amazing what they can do to find medical evidence of molestation!).
Fourth, if your husband was military he still qualifies for military benefits. I would talk to the base psychologist as a mother and father and see if this is normal behavior for a child who misses her daddy. You know, Freud would say she is acting out of fear of losing her daddy and she is acting the way she is now to entice him and show him she loves him (I do not agree with Freud but many people do!).
Ultimately you are doing the right thing you just need to take a deep breath and get you and your spouse counseling help too. It is a family issue and needs to be treated that way (I am not saying it was something the family did but it is something affecting all of you!)
good luck, God bless, and I hope things work out .remember it will take time.
You are a mother, a step mother, but a mother no less. We mothers have a second sense for these things. By you writing this, it shows me that you are concerned. If you are concerned, then do something. She is acting like that to make it OKAY. Just being touched is BAD but adding the behavior makes it okay in her head. I would sit down with her and explain what appropriate touching is and what is not. Ask her if there is someone that is givng her bad touches. Be prepared to report someone to CPS (Child Protective Services). You MUST act now and stop this. If you dont, she will live a life of thinking this is okay. Take her to a dr to get her checked out and call the CPS.. there is NO time to wait. Please hurry! Good Luck and God Bless!
no your not over reacting
little girls don't just say that stuff
there has to be a reason
and the pickin at her skin thing
i do that(im 15) its how i calm myself
down when im nevous,in pain,or scared
You should call social service and you dont even have to leave your name just them the storie ! If some one been doing this to her you should do everything to find out what is going on.
I'm 21 and I pick my skin alot, I do it subconciously. I don't know how it started but like another person said, i do it when i'm nervous. You cannot underestimate children. If you have ever heard of Sigmund Freud, then you will know about a theory he created called "penis envy, and Electra theory; The Electra complex is an ambiguous psychiatric concept which attempts to explain the maturation of the human female. It is said to be the female counterpart to the Oedipus complex in males. Its name comes from the Greek myth of Electra, who wanted her brother to avenge their father Agamemnon's death by killing their mother Clytemnestra.
Carl Jung proposed the name Electra complex for Sigmund Freud's concept of the "feminine Oedipus attitude" in young girls. According to Sigmund Freud, the girl is originally attached to the mother as well; however, when she discovers that she lacks a penis during the phallic stage the daughter becomes libidinally attached to her father and imagines that she will become pregnant by him, while becoming more hostile towards her mother. This is due mostly to the idea of "penis envy": that the girl is envious of her father's penis and wants to masturbate it so strongly that she dreams of bearing his children. She believes that the pregnancy would replace the missing penis which she envies and would allow her to gain equal status with the father.
It sounds crazy but many people believe Sigmund was a genius.
this is something i would check up on this is not normal for a child that young and about the had in the pants all kids do that but the other things is a big red flag
no you should be worried now i dont kno wwhat to do in these sitches but all we can do is pray.
I would bet there are two issues- one is her psychiatric stability and the other is that mixed with something that has exposed her to sexual behavior. If it were me I would take some time evaluating when she has been alone with men. How else would she know about rubbing his penis? Makes me wonder... Also, has she seen you and your husband making love? Its possible she would want that same attention as sick and twisted as it sounds. When the father is away for long periods of time it changes the dynamics of the relationships.
Good luck.
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