13 yr old daughter keeps stealing my cigarettes, what do I do?
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there are a number of ways, but, first remember u are the ADULT, and u have to be in charge and tell her she CAN'T SMOKE. 1. she's under-age 2. forget that bullshitt about being polite, tell her straight up, NO SMOKING, when she has her own place and paying her own way, THEN she can smoke her brains out, but while she's living under ur roof, it's ur rules... 3. let her know there are consequences for disobeying u, take away the things she cant do without: cell phone/phone priviledges, cd player, tv, video games, whatever it is..make her accountable for her actions.. i dont buy into ur setting a bad example, ur the adult she is the child, simple as that... and if that doesnt work, i do like the one that says sit her down and make her smoke a pack of camels or winston, pick the most disgusting ones out there, and make her do it IN FRONT OF YOU if she's got the balls.. lighting one off the other..
Quit smoking.
1. hide them better
2. Quit smoking
but then u have that chance of your daughter tryin to get cigs off someone else. So now would be a good time to talk to her about it and get her some help.
Tell her when she old enough to buy cigaretts she can smoke, I have been smoking since I was 13 and I wish my parents would have put there foot down. can you hide your cigarettes.
Just find a good hiding spot, and give her some kind of consequence when you catch her disobeying. 13 is waaay too young to start such a bad habit.
trade the smokes for snuff . a little pinch will do ya
if you have had heart surgery and still smoke, how do you expect your daughter to stay away from it. maybe you and your husband should try to keep your cigs put up out of the way.
You want to break her of the habit? Give her a pack of Camels and tell her to smoke them. The whole pack. Right now.
She'll never want to pick up another cigarette in her life.
Hi ! What u can do is to tell her politely and make her understand that its her free will whether to smoke or not but what she need to do is to first be able(financially) to get cigarettes on her own and , that is to say that if she wants to smoke, then she should earn for it and for that she has to wait for some time to complete her studies or whatever. But, you should never order/force her to quit smoking as it will only add to her determination to smoke.
Stop smoking! that's how you will get her to stop! What's more important to you? Her health? or your cigarettes?
Just start buying her her own packs.
Got to teach my example, dear. She'll keep smoking regardless and I don't think that is a legacy you'll be proud of
Ummm..stop smoking. Children do what their parents do. You should not be telling a child that she has to earn money to smoke! You should never condone it. If you are not willing to quit for your daughters future health, then I am not sure what to tell you. I was once a smoker too. But, when I held that baby in my arms, I realized that I was responsible for another human life. I am responsible for how my children turn out. So, I was driving down the road and threw them out the window and have never touched one since. If you wanted to quit, you could.
Just QUIT!
Goodness what a stupid question. Do as I say not as I do. That is NOT effective parenting.
First of all, stop leaving your cigarettes laying around where she has access to them. Second of all, punish her! Don't encourage her by telling her she needs to earn her own money for cigs! Geeze...
My son's 15 and I would kick his *** if I ever caught him smoking or doing anything else he shouldn't be doing.
Very simple. All 3 of you quit. It is bad for you as you know. So stop. Get your selves into a program to help you quit. None of you need to smoke. So stop
You shouldn't just ignore your daughter when she's smoking. You need to make her see a therapist to make her stop smoking. Doing that on your own will not help. If you decide make your daughter take those pills to help stop smoking, they never help. My suggestion is to visit a therapist.
I went through the same thing, exept I was in your daughters position. My dad did two things. 1. He always put them under his pillow at night, and had them on him 24/7 during the day. 2. He told me do as I say not as I do, just because you and your hubby smoke doesnt mean she can. Shes 13 not even legal age to smoke, thats like saying everytime you two have a drink she can drink too...
QUIT SMOKING!
My sister did this to our parents when she was 15. They went to her with all kinds of info on why smoking is bad; she looked them in the eye and said "Then why don't you stop!?"
Chances are, if you tell her smoking is bad but do it yourself, she DOESN'T BELIEVE YOU. Even if you hide your cigarettes better, she will get them somewhere else. You need to stop smoking yourself and get her involved in whatever program you choose along with you. Then she will understand better, and also know that you care about what she does to her body. You have to be the example.
Quit smoking...
Seriously, as a family for safety and well being of your daughter, you as a family, relying upon each other for support. quit smoking.
It isn't easy, but your daughter is hooked on one of the most dangerous legal drugs out there, and she isn't going to quit just because she can't steal the cigarettes from you anymore. If you couldn't buy them, what would you resort to? She has resorted to stealing, what is she going to do next?
You know how dangerous it is right? So show how much you love each other and quit today, there is no better reason in the world to stop smoking then to save your daughters life.
OMG, Set a good example and quit. She won't have any to steal. Heart problems are hereditary. Unless you want to sit by her bedside when she has her heart surgery, I suggest you all quit. Put the money aside and go on a great family vacation in a year.
One day I was smokin' a J with some friends of mine and one of them played a prank on me. He rolled it with some chillies, Man that was an unpleasant experience. Maybe you could change brands and tell your daughter you wanted a change. Then hide some laced cigs around the house with the intention of your daughter finding them. If she asks you about it just say that's how the new ones taste. Burn her thoat badly now and not slowly for the next few decades.
Some hard love Ideas for you.
The best thing you could do for your daughter is to stop smoking yourself. As long as you have cigarettes available, she will continue to steal them.
you need to quit... it's as simple as that.
sorry, that's not what you want to hear.
Be a good example and quit smoking yourselves. Stop being the bad hypocrite parent and educate your child to make good choices just like you.
1) If you want her to stop smoking, and you know that is the best thing for your daughter, the lead by example and quit yourself. 2) If you have gone through heart surgery and you keep on smoking then dont expect her to stop anytime soon, because she is seeing that you havent learned your lesson and she wont see that smoking will kill you. 3) You should be ashamed of yourself, because you have been given another opportunity in life, and you keep on wasting it away with those fuc#!ng little life-killing sticks!!! 4) And no 13 year old should be told that she needs to earn her money to buy ciggaretts!!!! Your child should be taken away from you!!
QUIT SMOKING YOUR SELF. YOU COULD GO TO JAIL FOR TELLING HER TO EARN THE MONEY AND BUY HER OWN.
Quit smoking.
Alright, c'mon, are you REALLY this stupid?
All of this is your fault. YOU made the stupid mistake of smoking. YOU lead her into thinking that smoking is fun and cool and right. YOU are responsible. YOU made the choice to expose your child to that.
Put down the stupid cigarettes and help your child.
I cannot believe I am answering this question.BUT.if you are going to let your 13 year old smoke, then shame on you. Hide yours if she keeps "stealing" them. And you just said it yourself.you and your husband ARE setting an example for her. Quit being stupid and QUIT yourselves.set a GOOD example for her. And if you knowingly let her save her own money and buy them and smoke in front of you, that is awful parenting. It is your fault you had heart complications from smoking, don't be responsible for starting her on those problems too.
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