How to give the big "sex talk" to an eight year old?
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That's extremely early. I didn't hear it until I was 10 or 11.
8 is very early. Keep it simple and not too graphic.
it's too early...give it at least till they start questioning it..maybe 12 11ish
i would wait a year or so. make sure he knows it before the sex ed video ( i got that in 4th grade). so like 9 or 10?
8 years is way to young for the sex talk.
I think it is a little too early, My mom and I had the talk when I was 9 and had gotten my period. I did not understand any of it, could not comprehend at such a young age the complexity of it. I just knew that for some reason all females eventually start this thing called a period and it happens every month. I was 9 for goodness sake. 3rd grade. It was way too early. I would suggest at least another year or two. Why do you think it is time to dole out that information? Is he asking about it?
No it's not to early to begin talking to the child about sex. I did with my children, I was very honest with them and I had some ligature to support what I was telling them, and I didn't use words like weenie or tu-tu. I used the correct terms for the body parts. And when they turned ten I reiterated the talk to see if they remembered what I said 2 yrs ago. I hope this helps
Eight is a little too young...especially for a boy. However, you sometimes have to find the balance between him being curious because he doesn't know and wants to find out and experiment, and him knowing too much and getting himself into trouble. Keep it as simple as possible, doin't go into detail that would hurt him. Make sure he knows that it is nothing to mess with. Good luck that is a tough situation.
I think i was probably 11 or 12 when my mom had this talk with me. I think the best thing you can do is simply tell them without it being weird. Alot of the time it's weird for the parent to explain things to someone so young, but simply be honest and do it in a way that is comfortable for you and your son. This is a very normal part of life and as long as he knows you are open and honest it will go just fine:) Good luck.
Yeah, I think 8 years old is too early. My son is 10 and I think that is to early!! OMG!
You should have the "eight year old" sex talk. Don't give him too much information or it will scar him for life. I know someone who over did the sex talk and now the kid thinks his dad is a monster whenever the bedroom door is closed and she is in there with him. Get age appropriate materials and ask him if there is anything he wants to talk about or confirm anything he's already heard at school. It's not too early to give him some information. Nothing too graphic and the parents should agree on how and when. Check at the local library for books and information on how to talk to kids about sex.
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Good Lord let the kid be a kid. I know it's cool to think kids are little adults; he doesn't need to know that at all at this age.
(1) No, it's not too early.
(2) It's not your job.
I have an eight year old son too and I just could not imagine telling him about this now. My oldest was ready closer to ten, but 8? If you really think it's time, you need to explain about the body parts and how men and women use them to reproduce, they have wonderful books for this at the library.
Good luck.
Its not too early if he is ready for it. Wait until the question comes up, and then answer. This "Where do baby's come from?" thing is a process that kids should start learning the moment the question comes out of their mouths. A 2-4 year old should be told as much of the truth as they can fathom (for instance "from a mommy's tummy"). By the time they are 8 they should know that ADULTS have sex, and what occurs when ADULTS have sex, and that the result of ADULTS having sex is pregnancy and babies. (If you didn't catch it, the word ADULTS should be emphasized) Withing a few years this young boy will be going through changes that he will either expect or be scared to death by. and its probably best if he knows what the results are before he gets a chance to try them.
There is a book out there you can probabley find at a book store in the mall, but it is a cartoon book that clearly shows and reads very easy words for kids about sex and where babies some from. I wish I could remember the book and I have it at home but I am at work. I kept the book all my life and handed it to my 2 boys when they were ready and could read good. I think it is called, "where do I come from?" not sure but like I said it is a cartoon book which shows body parts and how babies are made. I highly recomment it. Good luck
He is NOT too young if he is the one bringing up the subject or asking questions about it. Obviously don't get into graphic detail, but a simple explaination using correct terms should suffice. My daughter was seven when we had a talk because I became pregnant with her sister and she was curious.
It's way too early to talk to a eight year old about sex, that child wont understand what you're talking about. Just wait until the child is at an age where he/she can understand.
I just wanted to add in here that all these folks who are saying how young 8 years old is are right, but I don't think they are thinking about the world we live in today either. An 8 year old needs to know more than we did when we were that age. If there is anyone on FeelBaby.com who has never seen a teenage mom I would be surprised. Girls are getting pregnant commonly by age 16 now a days and I have personally known a few that were between 11 and 14 when they got pregnant the first time. My friends 9 year old daughter has hit puberty and has been having her period for 6 months now, Open your eyes, waiting to talk about any sort of sexual issues until a kid is 11 or 12 is stupid and irresponsible.
Don't get me wrong, I don't think you need to go out and start buying condoms, but I certainly think that this kid should know something. Hopefully he already knows the proper names for genitals, and should probably know that babies come from a man and a woman being together (though he probably doesn't need to know exactly how that happens). He should know that love and caring are important parts of a relationship, but I would leave it at that along with a much longer talk about respect for himself and others.
On a further note, talk to mom before you bring this up with the son, let her know what you intend on telling him and listen to her is she thinks some things are too much. Also make sure you are prepared to answer any questions he has, and also prepare for him to have none at all. Good luck.
he doesnt need to know about the birds and bees yet, he is only eight. but if your fiance thinks he should know there are some books out there just for kids, it tells how animals mate etc. but try to let him be a kids for abit longer, and not confuse him with sex.
8 is too early for a "big sex talk" for a boy
Just let your bf answer his questions as they come up naturally. Don't be graphic just give the information he needs.
A baby is made when sperm and an egg get together. Sperm comes from the same place as urine etc.
just be real and tell him the truth not telling when he will start going to have sex so u need to tell him knowing the world out here now kids r having sex younger and younger each day but keep is simple so that he will understand
There is a wonderful book called Raising Sexually Pure Kids. Its by Beverly LaHaye, I think. It recommends that kids should know the basics, by or shortly after their 8th birthday. Worked well with my daughter.
1-too Early.
2-let his mother or father do the job.
3-let it be there head ache.
It could be too early for this kind of thing
it shouldn't be a talk, it should be a series of talks. whenever someone comes up pregnant and is unmarried, we would talk around our kids about how having sex before marriage risks having a baby with no family. over the years, the information increases.
when he's askingn questions, just answer his questions. very sparingly, because they are often not asking what we think they're asking. give a little detail to response to their question, ask if that's what they wanted to know, and move on if it is.
answer all questions honestly and with real words, not baby words. include your values, like no premarital sex, where it is appropriate in the answer.
how are you his step mom and his dad's fiance? if you're living together and not being married and he knows you are, you are messing up his sexuality big time.
Just answer the questions that he has. This is the first phase of him getting to know the birds and the bees. Children will usually ask questions at this age that they usually can understand. Don't give too many details as not to confuse him...just start by saying / asking him what he knows and what kinds of questions he has before jumping right in!
I have to agree with some of the other comments as far as it is not your place. Let his Mother or father teach him this, unless both of them agree with each other that you, the stepmother, should be the one to tell him. This could really cause a problem otherwise.
Less is more at this point.
ETA: He is your fiance', definitely let them handle it!!
wait until he is older or dicuss with him a few details it doesn't have to be graphic you start a dicussion on sexual body parts first and see where that leads
answer honestly w/e he's asking u and don't be afraid of being graphic. he'll know this stuff eventually.
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