Help? my 4 years old son beats his friends at school?
Answer:
explain to him that beating is not okay at school
it's a stage...he will grow out of it!I have two boys one of them has already gone through with it.
quit beating him at home
You need to tell him interesting stories, to gradually put the moral-thought in his mind, that friends are not for helping him to ptactise martial arts! Never ever tell him straight, directly, not to beat friends! That won't work: play games with him (pretend-games) to feed him the principle very smoothly that beating friends is no good! But, certainly, the child will anyway grow out of the habit!
Ahhhhh!! you have a little Mike Tyson..seriously just explain to him that he can get into trouble if he keeps it up and tell him how he should treat others. then reward him at home if he has a good day at school without hitting anyone
tell him to knock that garbage off and if he dont give him a taste of his own medicne.
he will get the picture soon or later and if he dont he maybe just one of those asshole running around whose parent did not do what was nessecery to correct their child
Sounds like you have a little bully on your hands. You can't assume he'll grow out of this. He won't. Once a bully, always a bully, unless you deal with it.
He doesn't know how to express his needs, wants properly. Sit and role play with him. My husband and I would act out these scenarios for our children when they were younger, and say "We're going to show you 2 different scenarios. You tell us which one is the right way to handle this issue, and which is wrong and why." We would do one bully scenario, and one light hearted scenario, to show them how to have humor and a good attitude about things.
most children beat up others because someone was beating up on them its learned find out who and why first
he is 4 you can sit him down and talk to him he will understand what he is doing is wrong let him know he can be punished at home for what he does at school so many kids act up at school because there is really nothing the schools can do any more they either put them into some kind of time out or kick them out for a few days maybe you should try going to his class 2-3 days a week to watch what is going on there
why is a 4 year old at school? my guess is it is due to immaturity. You need to get with the teacher and make a plan to change his behaviour. If you don't do something now then it will only get worse if he thinks he can get away with it. Next thing you know your son will have a bad name, no friends and not be invited to parties and you will be up at the school all the time dealing with his anti-social behaviour.
Sorry if this sounds extreme but if it was your son that was being beaten up you would want something done. Put yourself in the position of those he is bullying and ask as their mother what you would want done
you had better not let him to go to thath sckool and transfere him to another sckool
Figure out who TAUGHT him this behavior...where he has seen it and learned it.
The teacher needs to give him an immediate consequence.
IF she makes him sit away from the class till he is ready to behave it will indeed work.
Unfortunately our kg teacher would not and simply said
" oh hes just a baby"
She insisted he needed held back in school.
First grade teacher at a different school di just that and he only had 2 instances the whole year.
Is he being bullied? or he bullies other kids? What your kid needs is love and attention and probably change in diet (no red meat, sugar, etc). Find out what is the real cause. Try not to accuse him of anything and listen and talk to him without judgement. Reason with him. Even though he's only 4, he'll understand.
get a random of another child about 4 years old and put pictures of him in frames around the house. When your son ask you who the boy is tell him it was his older brother. When he ask you about what happened to him you tell him that he used to do what he's doing to the other kids in school so you had to get rid of him.
Teach your son this..."You treat others the way you would want to be treated." Maybe have some of his friends over after school so you can evaluate his behavior yourself and correct his actions before he seriously hurts someone and before he turns into a dreaded school bully.
I would find a therapist in the area... not just a therapist but a Play therapist... research it and find one and get him in!!
I know exactly why this is happening! You want to know why? You beat him at home and the only way to fix this problem is to never beat him and give him attention and love! Tell him you will buy him something if he stops bullying!
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take things away from him. his games, his books,anything he may love. and make sure that he knows why you are taking them from him.
It news is his braveness do not worry
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