Is it right for "adults" to dismiss an opinion or exclude an individual because that person is a "child"?
Answer:
It's never appropriate to dismiss a child. There are situations where children should not be included, and it's important for children to understand that, while they are just as important as adults, they do not have the same rights and privileges. If a child gives an opinion that an adult decides to dismiss, that in itself isn't bad, but it should be explained to the child why the opinion was dismissed. Role modeling doesn't mean "treat equally", it means "teach by example". Kids need to learn rank and order, they will deal with it for the rest of their lives.
I think we should speak to children as if they are adults, and give them the same attention and respect we would give an adult...they are people after all.
Children should be seen and heard and believed.
no, it isnt right if they dismiss it right off the bat and dont explain why. what an adult SHOULD do is say something like "well, lets think about that." and then put forth reasoning as to why the child is wrong or not. that way they learn deductive reasoning and make fewer and fewer wrong or misguided assumptions.
A " child" is a small person, with thoughts, and feelings. They should be heard and respected. An overbearing "adult" should see a therapist.
Although a child may not have the same legal rights or life experiences as their adult peers, it would be total ignorance to disregard their oppinions and ideas as worthless. Often the best ideas come from the inexperienced for being the most daring. At the same time they also make the biggest mistakes so one must use their better judgement.
children are smarter then people realize...and innocence does not really excised anymore.with the Internet and news only talking about negatives...kids are learning at a much faster rate then ever before, don't be surprised if your child is as smart as you are or smarter...you should include your child in discussions.you might just be surprised at what they say and or know.also it will help them learn as you discus there opinion with them
If the kid has a good opinion or idea I would be willing to consider it. But most kids only just repeat what their parent tell them or share the opinions of their parents. I would hope that parents would take the time to try to encourage their children to think for themselves.
no, it is not, some of the best ideas i have ever heard came from my children
Adults have more experience in life than children and the older you grow the wiser you become. This however is no reason or justification for excluding or dismissing a child's opinion regardless of whether you agree with it or not because this will only lead to the child resenting you and also dismissing your opinions and advice. The best approach would be to logically reason with the child by showing him/her the pros and cons of both opinions. Where you dont agree with the child, let him/her know that you have heard and understood his/her opinion but you think otherwise and you've made a final decision. When (s)he grows up (s)he will understand why you made some decisions that appear unfavourable to him/her but are actually beneficial to them.
Adults should not discmiss children. Children need to be trained to be decision makers and to feel their opinions are important.
HOWEVER, adult people should not allow children people to rule the roost. They are children. Parents need to give children choices about things, little things (do you want the blue cup or red cup? Do you want brush your teeth before your story or after your story?) so they learn that they count and that they are important. They should not be allowed to make major decisions or demands and order the adults around.
There's a line ... cross it and the child becomes a demanding, self-important, jerk without consideration for others.
No it is not right. Children are people too. Think of how terrible you must make them feel by dismissing thier opinions or excluding them. Not only will it cause low self-esteem,it may also cause them to grow up believing, that thier opinion doesn't matter to anyone and that they are unworthy to do things with other people, if you exclude them from things all of the time.
Well, it is very easy to, especially if the adult does not like or agree with the child. Some adults do not know how to separate their emotions from the subject, and so they get very defensive. And the child is not going to win in that battle.
Most kids aren't able to be articulate, knowledgeable, and convincing about their stance, however. So with that, they can be easily blown away.
You are right, but sometimes a parent or adult has to just say no without having to explain. Especially if the decision has been made and the "child" is still going on and on about it.
I believe that what is 'right' is a personal opinion. I believe that the only way a child can become truly independent is to have their own opinions and beliefs based on their own experience and reasons. I would start asking their opinon from the beginning as soon as they can hear their first sounds, they may or may not understand you, but it becomes part of their foundation which allows for more growth. They kind of go hand in hand, along with the role-modeling, from the time they came to being it should all be started. The key to all of the above is RESPECT for all things that exist and self-confidence. Life is about learning, growing, and experiencing whatever you want to, from your first day to your last. If there was only one opinion for everything life would be pretty pointless, not to mention BORING! We can always learn something from anyone, and the only way to learn new things to listen to the opinion of others, really listen. This even applies to the bridge between adults and children (figuratively and literally), life can either be a one way bridge or a two way bridge. I myself would rather use a two way bridge, with people coming from different sides because their is twice the variety, twice the visions to share, if I get a little scared I can always turn around and maybe I can learn something from where others have been. The ultimate goal of course is the same, reaching the ultimate prize is on the other side and to look back and be proud of your experiences along the way. What the 'child's' opinion is could be something an 'adult' would never think of in their position in the journey. You might even learn some thing about yourself that you couldn't see before. The key to all of it one more time is RESPECT for all. This all of course is my opinion and I can't wait to read other's opinions. I enjoy learning as much as can as often as I can.
In my opinion, the only reason (there are exceptions to every rule) someone would want to exclude anyone else would be if they felt threatened in any way by the person they wish to exclude. I would be curious to read other's thoughts on this topic. It also the only way you will succeed in getting to know someone else.
Peace.
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