How do u make a 3 yr. old kid listen?!?
Answer:
First try to find out what the cause of his behavior is. If it's nothing more than an extension of the "terrible twos," then the only way to combat the behavior is with consistent discipline. Time out is a good option because he may be acting up to get attention. Putting him in a quiet area and ignoring him lets him know that you're not willing to dignify his behavior with your attention. Taking away toys doesn't work so well, because children that age don't have a very long short-term memory. An hour later, he won't remember why his toy is gone.
Spanking can also work, but it may give him the idea that hitting is the way to deal with someone who's irritating him. If you decide to punish his behavior, the punishment should be immediate and consistent, meaning the same consequence every time.
However, sometimes the best way to deal with tantrums is to ignore them altogether. As I said before, he could be trying to get attention, so turning your back and letting him shriek and flail around until he's tired of it will send the message that you don't care for that behavior. If he's doing it in the hopes that someone will desperately try to stop him, then he'll stop on his own when nobody seems to be fazed.
harder spankies
nanny 911
Discipline.
if you say something do you carry through with it? a lot of times if you say "I'm counting to 10, I will tell you one more time" parents make the mistake of not actually doing it so then kids outsmart the parents. If you ask him/her to do something you could start a chart where they get a sticker if they do it the first time you ask, etc. That's all I can think of, it's usually a deeper problem so hard to tell just by reading this much
Tell him he's adopted and that you don't give a darn killing him :)
Maybe he gets scared!! :P
i dont know. when u find out the answer to that then please let me know coz i think i gave birth to satans spawn. sorry i couldnt help you out.
Sounds like you need "supernanny" or something. You have to be patient and persistant. Find a plan and stick to it, plus he's 3 years old, you have to expect that kind of thing. He will eventually grow out of it.
Call Maury Povich
it sounds like you are trying only negative reinforcement (punishments after the fact). try positive reinforcement: set the kid up to easily do the right thing and reward them for the behavior. every time they behave the way you want, put a star on a calendar, tell them when there are 5 stars they get a candy or toy or trip to the children's museum; if they are bad then take a star away. a 3 year old should be able to comprehend this simple concept, and positive reinforcement works way better and longer then negative. if you are feeling overwhelmed then it's better to ignore the behavior and calm yourself down before resorting to spanking and other punishments that will make the child resent you.
Have you watched shows like "Nanny 911" and, umm, that other Nanny show?
What they say is you have to (1) remain calm (2) get down to his level (3) give him a warning (4) put him on the naughty chair (time out), 1 minute for each year of age.
Then you go and remind him why he was placed on the naughty chair, ask for an apology, give him a hug and move on.
There are books and books and books on these and similar techniques.
dont play with the kid all the time. be serious no matter what. try giving him a spankin in front of his friends or somethin
you obviously do not use the same spoon I do- my kid never acts that way-- but try not giving the toys back- get a bigger spoon and really wack his bum- try soap in the mouth when he is mouthy- or get used to being bullied by your 3 yr old
Lots and lots of patience! Follow through with all discipline helps as well.
the best way is with love, you try to reason with him. spanking des not do anything but create what you are getting now, so as long as you try to love him and just try to tell him that is not a good behavior to scream at the mother, with children that age, what you do to them, they either will turn it to you or worse to others so remember patience is a virtue remember who is the adult and who is the child
set ground rules
Using Caps on here means that you are shouting. If you are shouting at this 3 year old too then you are doing it wrong.all wrong.
Is this your own son? Because there needs to be praise with punishment and also patience and tolerance. Stop punishing this poor kid and start measuring out rewards for good behaviour. Also, remember that one of a child's favorite words is 'no' because they feel it gives them control. You need to listen and respond as well as punish, this kid is clamoring for attention so try some positive responses rather than negative ones.
A toddler will always rather be yelled at than ignored, sad but true.
not spanking, consistency
make him stare at a corner of your house
have him stay there for 10-15 mins
tell him not to move out of that corner
try it
Give him back. Sorry, I don't want kids for those reasons. Watch that super nanny show, it's very good. I did see on dr. phil you should never spank them. I know my dad spanking me made a terrible impression on me and was painful (emotionally), it contributed to me being scared of him until I was 20 and along with his yelling and other things gave me not even low self-esteem; no self esteem! Maybe that's why I don't want kids. But it's hard not to because I see how it is with my step-kids. Maybe you could find that info on his website, it was only some days back, I think last week. I'm thinking he's looking for attention, is the situation at home healthy or are there a lot of problems going on that he sees?
The child is crying out for attention. Try going down to his level. Give the child a little affection not spankings. Be consistent with the child. Get a schedule for play-time, nap-time, snack-time and so on and so on. Children need direction in their lives and you as the parent should provide all the child's needs. Have a little patience, and you will reap all the rewards later. I have raised 3 of my own and they have done great so far. GOOD LUCK!
Use a taser gun. that will put him in his place.
You don't make him listen, you teach him why he must listen. Talk to him at a time when things are settled down. Explain to him the reasons why he needs to change his behavior. Tell him certain behaviors are not acceptable in your home, and there will be consequences for such behavior. Make clear ahead of time what the consequences will be for each mis behaviour. i.e.(Toys will be taken away when they are not picked up. We will not talk to you unless you talk to us in a civilized manner.) Try as best as you can to ignore his bad behavior, reacting to bad behavior is a type of reward. At the time of the unwanted behaviour, remind him of the talk you had with him about unacceptable behaviour. Example: My 2 yr. old daughter throws a fit every time her grandfather drops her off back home after spending the weekend at my parents house. She doesn't want him to leave, and she wants to go with him when he does leave. After he goes out the door she throws herself on the floor, cries, kicks and screams. I let her go on with out giving her attention. I just make sure she doesn't hurt herself. After she settles down, I tell her the behaviour is unexceptable, and when it happens again she will not go to her grandparents house the next time. Explain it without using the word "you".
-Use "I" statments. ( I don't like it when the crayons are left out. - I don't like to be talked back to.) The consequences have to equal the behaviour and must be inforced and not just idle threats.
The process is called natural and logical consequences. It is based on mutual respect.
you need to lay down the law my 2 yr old cousin was the same way but not any more
Several tips:
Pick a set of methods that cover your problem situations, use them together as a couple, and give them a chance to work.
Your kids are watching you at all times! If you want a certain behavior remember to role model it and set a good example. Things like tone of voice, respect, manners go a long way. Show them to your kids, and show them to each other as a couple. You can even point it out to the child when you are doing it...
"Jacob, see what I did? I asked Mommy nicely for the beans and she passed them to me...wow, manners really DO work, huh? Mommy is happy to be nice to me when I don't yell at her!"
"Look, Jacob, I'm putting my stuff away before dinner!"
Remember that kids are smaller than you. When you talk to them, you can come off scary and intimidating. You might think that this is going to prevent acting out by children, and it may, due to fear, for all the wrong reasons. But have you ever flipped out under stress? I have. So when you talk to them, get down on their level, make eye contact. Be firm and authoritative with your expectations, but also kind and polite with your tone and use your manners. No yelling or begging, no arguing. Just give a polite direction, if you need to, remind the kid what happens if they do or don't do it and follow through.
"It's time to put your toys away, so you can get your sticker on your chart!"
Punishments never work as well as rewards. This is really important to know. The main goal of raising your child is to have good sense of right and wrong, and make the right choices for themselves. You can help a child do the right thing more by helping them understand how much easier and more fun life is when they are well behaved with rewards, rather than taking something away when they are poorly behaved. This doesn't mean you buy the kid's cooperation or never punish at all, it means that you have probably at least as many chances to give good attention, ie, thank them for their kindness, spend positive time with them doing something fun, as you do to criticize their bad behaviors. Make sure you use that as a tool.
SO. Try to catch kids being good...just out of the blue! They aren't naughty all the time! When you notice their appropriate use of manners, tone of voice, sharing, doing what they are supposed to do (with or without your directions) heap on the good attention! Kids look up to you, love you, and really do want to please you. They don't enjoy being punished, or having you be unhappy with them when the alternative is you being proud of them.
Something that strikes me weird, is that we expect kids to be rational in all ways except when they are at their most rational of all. Kids can't think very far beyond themselves. This in itself is pretty selfish, and not to be expected of adults who know that you can't just have everything you want...but when kids manipulate, they are being more rational than YOU are. They know what they want, and they do what it takes to get it. Is it their fault if they know what works with you and you help them repeat the pattern? So the place to start addressing your kids' behaviors is by looking at your own. Why is this working for your kid? What is he getting out of it that satisfies him?
You need to show him that you are the one that is in charge..not the other way around. If spankings do not work then send him to a corner for time out. Do not let your 3 year old dictate your role as a parent.
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