How do you get a 5th grader to bring his homework home and ..?

He does not seem to care if his grades are bad. He says all the time that he already done it or forgot it. He comes home calling himself a loser or that he is dumb. He is always getting dententions for not doing or handing in his homework. I don't know what is wrong, he did great last year and he is in special classes. I always tell him I believe in him and that I know he can do it. But he always wants me to do his homework. I am at my wits end, I am crying all the time, and very stressed out. I don't know what to do anymore. I tried to have a talk with him, but it doesn't work.Answers:  

up with his teachers and find out how he interacts or not with his class peers. He may be bullied or he's ridiculed in class - nothing shoots the confidence down faster than some other kid in your class laughing at you or making rude or insulting remarks to you when your are trying to work.
You will need to work with your son in this situation - punishment may only make the situation worse.

If there are no obvious negative issues in his class then you may have to look at his school work. How is he progressing through the lessons? Can he understand what is expected of him. Is he able to cope with the lesson/study loads? Problems in this area may indicate a learning difficulty - education support units at the school would be able to assist in this area. Avoid doing his homework for him - he will not learn or gain anything from this.

There is an old Chinese proverb: The journey of 1000 miles begins with but a single step." This is a journey; a challenging
one and everyone involved in your son's education must be willing to be there for the "hard-yards" no matter what.
Bottom line: this boy is in very real danger of falling through the cracks in what your country's education system is if he is not caught now and something is done to correct whatever it is affecting him in this fashion.

I'm not talking about punishing for a bad grade. Nobody should be punished for doing their best. What I am talking about is punishing for not doing his work when he's expected to.

Call up his teacher or have a meeting with her at school. Ask her to make sure he brings his work home each night. He will have no excuse this way not to bring home his work.

If he refuses to do his work, start taking away priveledges. Take away the tv, video games, computer priveledges, etc. each time he doesn't get his work done.

When he does get his work done, reward him. A small reward each time such as 5 extra minutes of tv time or a special treat at the end of the week if he gets all his work done that week.
Sounds like there is something going on at school. Either the teacher is a butt or some of his classmates are picking on him and calling him stupid or dumb. And if they are and the teacher is not handling it you may have to go to school and sit in on one of his classes. Have you had him tested...his eye sight. He could have dyslexia. What kind of special classes? does he have difficulty with comprehension? There are places and programs that can help with this. Do some on line research. Nip this in the bud now before it gets too far.
Some kids dont bother with homework.My daughter says alot of boys in her class cant be bothered doing their homework.Boys dont care.The teachers throw their hands up in despair.What about the teachers?Are they saying negative stuff which does not really help.You should try praising when he does do good things.There is no easy answer to this.IMaybe its time for a teacher conference and you might need to look at picking up his homework yourself.I have had negative stuff said to me.You just need to have faith in your son.Perhaps there are other isssues going on.Work can get harder as the year goes by.I hope and pray that you find a solution to your sons problems soon.
talk with his teacher, make a plan with her a sheet he must bring home daily that tells the homework, and it must be signed daily also talk with the teacher about your frustration, she will most likely have great suggestions
Maybe you will have to go pick it up yourself.
talk to his teacher and make sure she can try to check his agenda or homework folder and near bedtime ask him to show you his homework and now you can also leave lil notes for his teacher.
You and your son need to get into counseling. Both of you seem to be depressed. They can help you with your depression. Once you come out of depression, other things will fall into place with a counselor who knows you and will help you. If you're already seeing a therapist then give it time or find someone else that you or your son can connect with. You may need to switch to different therapist at some point. Some are especially talented with helping pre-teens and teenagers. Please contact your doctor or school to get a therapist as quickly as possible. Good Luck!
I know how it feels I bet if you walk in his shoes a day you will find the kids pick on him, hes got a low self asteem and hes not challeged enough in his area of needs. try to find a class to interest him. have the teachers look for your name on each home work assighment. find a different type of schooling for him it might help too.
DEAR IT SHOULD BE HELPING THEN IF IT IS NOT THEN I JUST DO NOT KNOW IT IS TIME FOR A TEACHERS COFFIRECE AND SEE WHAT IS REALLY GOING IN THE CLASS A SURPRISE TRIP ALWAYS HELP. MEET WITH BOTH TEACHERS THERE ARE TOO BE A TEACHERS AID TOO THE PRINCEAPALS BOTH OK TAKE CARE I HOPE THIS HELPS YOU OUT I WAS IN SP. ED. TO

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