Is corporal punishment in the home is an effective way to discipline a child?
Answer:
No.Hitting and teaching discipline have nothing in common.Hitting(no matter how it is disguised - 'spanking', 'consequence', 'discipline') teaches fear and violence.Fear while "The Big Bad Parent" is around.Violence - whenever he turns his back.Corporal punishments don't teach the child anything good.The short results are preventing the bad behavior - for the moment.Most people would like to prevent a bad behavior constantly.The long-lasting effects are these:
- the child will be afraid and will follow all other people's orders no matter who and what do they want from them (imagine someone offers the child drugs)
- the child will take risks just to spite you without considering the consequences from the risk (being afraid of a punishment doesn't make you afraid of the consequences of your behavior but just to try to avoid the punishment.And what when you grow up and nobody can punish you?)
- the child will become secretive and won't share with you anything (especially his/her mistakes) because she/he will know what will follow if you understand.
But if you want such a relationship with your child and if you want him/her develop like this,please,you are welcome to spank, yell, criticize, humiliate, etc. your child.But where is the discipline in all that?
NO
Yes, works for mine. They are perfect little angels and use good manners always. I never actually had to spank, just the threat of it being there was enough.
works for some people and not for others, you have to find the discipline method that works for your individual child. I personally do not spank, and my kids are very well behaved. just keep in mind that...
fear does not equal respect.
There is a difference between giving a quick swat on the butt or tap on the hand or just out and out beating them. When my son does something dangerous he gets a quick swat or tap on the hand. For other, less dangerous things he gets a time out in his booster chair in the corner.
The trouble with it is finding a good corporal. After Hitler and Napoleon corporals got a bum rap. In the military today you don't stay a corporal very long. They eventually become sergeants. You might consider trying a higher priced sergeant
I was spanked when I was younger; I've turned out fine.
My father used to beat the living crap out of me at the merest provocation, and, while he did it out of fanatical and misguided religious zeal, and he also went overboard in the actual spanking, I'm glad he did it, and I think America's kids today would be in a lot better shape if more parents did. Kids these days have no concept of consequences, what with the restraints placed on the parents as far as proper punishments, and the kids grow up expecting the world to coddle to their every whim. If parents were allowed to spank their children, those children would have a better understanding of the way the world works.
Corporal punishment isn't a pleasant thing. It's not supposed to be. But, used in conjunction with other methods of punishment, and used wisely in proper doses and for the proper reasons, it can be a valuable tool in teaching kids.
Yes along with other forms of discipline. I've found a quick swat on the rear works well when other types don't.
No, discussion as to why a behavior is wrong is the better way to go, taking a specific enjoyment like watching tv, being on the computer, whatever the child enjoys, is a good punishment if necesseary. Also, developing something enjoyable, like going out to eat, or a movie for doing chores that are assigned is also a good way to go.
This depends on what other tools you use (NO, no whips, chains or belts)
Do you have a timeout session with the kid? Do you have a system where he understands that if he does something bad, he will get punished?
Will he be punished accordingly (example, if the kid breaks Mr Wilson's window, than you can make an aggreement to send the child to work at Mr. Wilson's house and work the debt off)
Ask yourself these questions;
Do you punish humanely?
Do you punish out of frustration or anger?
Do you spank only because you know the child will fear you?
If you said yes to the following questions above, than you need to revise your parenting methods because you will cause him to rebel and you put his self-confidence at risk to bottom out.
Cheers
yes, too many kids today know that if their parents spank them they can call the authorities and their parents get into trouble. didnt stop me though, i still spank my kids. theres a difference in discipline and beating.
Corporal punishment should never be done in anger which excludes most situations in which a person might choose it to discipline a misbehaving child. Time-outs done properly are just as effective because the three main ideas you want to get across in disciplining a child are: what you did is wrong, the parent has authority over you, and that behavior leads to consequences. So after a time-out, a child might need to go further and apologize, clean up a mess, or lose privileges to an activity they appear unable to take part in without problems. After age twelve, time-outs need to be phased out in favor of groundings and loss of privileges such as putting a child on a pay as you go cell-phone when they run the account too high.
It all depends on the child.
I think my sister had buns of steel she would laugh when mom spanked her. Spankings didn't work with her.
Me, I would scream and cry they were effective with me,
mom just had to threaten one and I was back on good behavior.
Sure if your kid responds to it. It doesn't work with some kids. A few swats on the rear never hurt anybody. Just don't go overboard and never do it out of anger. That only leads to a mentally and physically scarred kid. As long as you explain why he is getting spanked and he understands why he is getting spanked then every thing is good. I don't condone spanking a kid on his bare butt or using implements on a very young kid. "Dropping Trou" is humiliating and you could hurt a small kid very easily if you used a belt on him. Bigger kids won't think anything of a hand spanking so I would use a belt-paddles are too hard. And yes I suppose there is a small element of fear associated with getting spanked-I avoided doing things I knew were wrong because I didn't like being spanked. I knew the difference between right and wrong and I also knew how much a spanking would hurt. I didn't get whipped as much as I probably should have been, but the times I did get "it" certainly kept me on the straight and narrow.
Not for everyone. People are different. It actually made me worse.
I believe that what works for one child won't work for another. Some children are fine with a firm reprimand or a look. While others need a swat to the behind. Spanking is not abuse if it is done appropriately and sparingly. Just be sure you aren't using corporal punishment for every little thing. Make sure you distinguish between willful disobedience and immaturity and honest mistakes. Spanking should never be taken to the point of abuse. If you feel it is crossing the line or stepping to close to t then don't do it. Spare the rod spoil the child.
I spank my kids but they usually dont' need one that often. They are pretty good kids. It all depends on what behavior they did. If it was something major they get a spanking if it is something minor they might get grounded or something taking away.
Works for my family!!
I also want to add we only spank on the butt....
Only as a last resort and all other methods have been exhausted.
It all depends on what the child did and also how old the child is.
For a child age 4 to 10, there is a lot to be said for a bare-bottom spanking for a serious infraction. Not a spanking that will injure them but several smacks on the bare-bottom will certainly cure them of making the same mistake again.
For older children, just take away privileges such as Internet, computer games, telephones, car, etc. They are too old for bare-bottom spanking as it will harm their psyche.
I was spanked and I am pretty mellow, I am not an angry person and I do still respect my parents and remember deserving my spankings.
According to the bible if you punish your child, you love him/her---
On the other hand according to ACS... its' child abuse.
I believe that if you are mad or out of control...you should not go near your child.but if you are relax...you'll know how to punish your child.
SIMPLE ANSWER: YES!
yes you have to set limits early or the child will grow up and find that they can not get away with anything, make it last
no, it's used with lazy parents who want to use fear it's a quick fix, take a class learn alternative ways, we don't even use that type of punishment for criminals, it's illigal
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