My 9 year old son forged my signature on a paper. Can you suggest some good material about responsibility?
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Material...for him to read? Or to get some ideas on what to do for yourself? Honestly, I don't think you need either. You just need to have a good conversation with your boy. Really talk it out...why did he do it, how it made you feel, what the consequences will be if he does something like that again. And then ground his butt!! I worked for a long time in parent-child communication (more around sexuality topics...but if you can teach about that kind of communication it's all easy after that!) and I really think opening the door for trust and honesty on both sides is crucial so that he'll continue to come to you in the future. But again, don't think that means you can't give him consequences for his actions. *Sigh* Kids, gotta love 'em.
Please tell him it is wrong to forge someone else's signatures without permission and that if he did in the near future, he would go to prison for forgery.
Check out a book from the library that speaks about honesty. If you belong to a religion seek out information from youth pastor.
Just help him feel good about doing what you think is right and honest.
How about giving him a spanking and sending him to his room. Worked for me when I did something stupid as a kid.
now legally by law your son is actually to young to sign your name on anything you better go find out what can be done because he is not legally of age to do something like against you
tell him the next time he does it then you'll put his *** in jail (;
I haven't had to face this one yet, I have a 5 and a 7 y.o boys. I know if I would have done something like that as a kid, the only material about responsibility I would have gotten was the leather material of my dad's belt across my butt...three licks. The first one for doing something that bad, the second one so you didn't forget, and the last one so you didn't get any other ideas about it. I got spanked a few times, but never for the same thing twice.
I can tell you that I never forged my dad's name on anything.
I think if you had a friend at the police department, they might talk to him about the weight of what he did and can explain what happens to those folks who do those kinds of things.
My boy's did call 911 a couple of times because they learned it at school and just wanted to use the phone...it was the only number they knew where someone answered! The second time, they couldn't call back as they just left the phone on, under the couch, while I was in the bathroom. The doorbell rang and there was a policeman. I knew what was up as soon as I saw him. My kids were hiding and I made them come out and tell the officer what they had done and that it was a mistake. He explained that it is not something to play with and only for emergencies. He also explained that if they were wasting time at my house for fake 911 calls that they would not be helping other people who's 911 calls were real.
Not only did it scare them to death to talk to the officer, but they never forgot it, and we've not had any 911 calls for the last 2 years.
Boys at that age do not understand concepts like responsibility or how people feel about this sort of thing. You'll need to use authoritative punishment with him. If spanking is not your thing then he's old enough to ground, or you can still give him a time out, but grounding is a better punishment for this type of thing.
I would make sure he understands what he is being punished for, and simply ground him. And let him understand that if he does it again, you'll ground him again. Fathers are good for ensuring the punishment is enforced.
Having him write is pointless discipline-that's just feel good discipline for you and avoidance of your responsibility as a parent. What you need to figure out is why he was trying to hide the paper from you in the first place. That means sitting down and asking him what he was trying to hide and what negative consequences he was trying to avoid. Then you need to think it over-was his concern legitimate or not?
Spanking a 9 year old is about useless at this point-it's temporary. I would get to the bottom of it and then impose some serious school related discipline, like making him pick up trash on school grounds for 3-4 weekends, work to raise money for a school cause, etc. I would also make him apologize to the teacher/administrators for this transgression IN PERSON. Good luck!
Did you at least sit him down and explain it was wrong?
I'm sure at his age he already knows.
I would of grounded him for the weekend.
And promise a stiffer punishment the next time.
Your hand on his ***?
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