8 year old son is making me tear my hair out?
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children are extremely hard work and can leave you feeling mentally and physically exhausted. I would try and distract him by filling his day. Send him to after school clubs or have his friends around to play. Spend quality time with him to bond and praise him when he is good. If he is naughty give him one warning. If he continues then send him to his room to reflect on his behaviour but tell him why he is there. Remove his favourite toy from the bedroom so that he is not having fun in there at time of punishment and create a reward system for winning his toy back. He is craving for attention as i also feel that maybe he is a little bit bored and needs more to occupy himself.
Suggestion 1:
The first problem is that you can't let him get you angry. He is controlling you. If he knows he can make you angry by his behavior, then he is in control. Stop letting him get to you.
Suggestion 2:
Call Nanny 911
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thats YOUR hand on HIS butt!!!
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Yes that sounds like an 8yr old fancy taking mine aswell?
At this time the "Belt" is needed.
Take a deep breath. I know how difficult it is, I have an 8 yr old too. They are testing boundries. Keep calm, and in control. Do not tolerate lies, or bad behavior. Send him to his room and straight to bed, the min he lies. Make him think about his behavior
send him off to a military boarding school. try to not get too involved he is possibly the real damion, son of satan.
my son is 8 yrs old and tries to talk back and argue but realizes it gets nowhere but in trouble by losing what he likes the most his video games, the tv, watching wrestling on fridays, you must take things away until he starts respecting you.
We have a pocket money scheme in our house, its a tick system and they loose a tick if they are naughty, depending on how much there pocket money is the tick equates to an amount of pocket money like a fine..
Obviously give a warning (you speak to me like that again and you will loose a tick etc)
It works for us good luck xxx
Give him extra chores when he acts up. Give him a box of baby wipes and make him clean the baseboards. You will have the cleanest house in town for a little while, until he straightens up.
send him to boot camp,it may destroy his life but at least you can get some rest.
That's one of the problems, you've been ignoring the bad. First thing's first, be consistent with your punishments! When you tell him he can't do something, leave it at that. Don't ignore any of his behavior, because it sounds like he's simply craving attention. Continue to speak calmly and when you punish him and he gets upset about it, don't budge. If needs be, put up a chart with stars. When he's bad, subtract a star, when good, he'll gain one.
He's actually a lucky kid, when I was growing up, Mr. and Mrs. Belt straightened me up! And my cousin had to sweep the floor with a tooth brush.
Take him to the counselor and see what is going on with him and why he is acting the way he is.You should not let this happened because it will make his life in to a bad one maybe he is hanging out with friends that are a bad influence on him maybe he is doing o men may be drugs:( try to talk to him but if not go take him to see a counselor or something I hope this helps Good luck and God Bless Oh one more thing if he lies or does his bad behavior I know this sonds cruel but take him to the cold shower and then send him to his room without no towel.
Its your bed you made it!
what about therapy? somtimes that helps. or u can have him in his bedroom until he calms down? As my husband always tells me...if the kids are becomming too much maybe you should just take them to the park, and they can play there while you can site there watching them play and at the same time you get a breather. You can even see if there is any programs for kids like him. I am sure they do. they always have something.
Well, this is where "Spanking" comes in handy. I am all for not hitting kids and all that. But lets face it..How many american kids do you see with absolutely no respect for their elders and parents...as opposed to minorities (blacks/asians/islanders) where spanking is very common. Many comedians joke about this type of thing, but with comedy comes truth. Now i'm not saying BEAT THE LIVING *&*( out of your kid. But you gotta keep in mind..sometimes you can't talk to your kid like an adult and expect them to act that way...the fact is..they are not. Really a spanking here and there is a quick way to enforce discpline..if you are using it that way and not in anger. Cus then that doesnt make you seem like a leader, but an emotional person who cannot control your anger. Honestly..Spanking..I have to say go with that..just be calm with it, and tell your kid (even when he/she says they hate you afterwards (but we alll know it's not true)..it's for their own good..and its hurts you more than it hurts them..they may not understand it at first but they will..Hell I did. How many minority kids do you see disrespecting their parents..almost none. Not saying the discpline style is better, but for certain behavior things work better...again..it's a spanking..not child abuse im talking about.
Lastly, if you're REALLY worried about hitting your kid. Try this..get a room..Take absolutely everything out of it (computer, phone, TV, radio, books, pens, pencils..anything that sparks creativity)..I mean Everything..and put ur kid in it for timeout for 10-30 minutes..he/she will probably learn a lot from that boredom.
yeah kids will do that to you.. you have to make him understand that your boss and you are serious.. letting the anger out on the kid isn't really going to solve anything but hurtful tears.. Try sitting down and talking with him, let him know how you feel about his attitude, try doing some family time.. just let him know that your there for him and that he needs to treat you with more respect.. Good luck and have tons of fun.. it'll all work out..
Everytime he messes up , send him to his room for 20 minutes.If he comes out before he is suppose to send him back in and add 10 more minutes.I have recently been dealing with my bf 7 year old son.You just have to put your foot down and be firm.If you say your gonna woop him if he lies---woop him if he lies.If you let him get by one time but not the next he will always take a chance that he might get by with something. Sending him to his room really has seemed to help with my little "problem".Good luck!!
OK the don't pay attention when he does something, DOES NOT WORK. I did that with my first child until age 5. She is now on anger management. The worst thing is to ignore it, I learned after wards at age 5.when he does something wrong, punish him, every time.Corner ,room, time out. 40 min time out Take him to the Dr. if it that doesn't work he may have something wrong with him like ADHD. IS he a problem at school?
Grab him by the arm and tell him with your most stern voice that you are not going to accept his behavior and it had better change and if you keep lying, the next time I'm going to put a bar of soap in your mouth (make sure you do). And he isn't too old for a spanking, preferably by someone with a stern hand.
You have not used reverse psychology yet
react in the same way he does to you everytime, it will stump him
If sane responses dont work, insane ones stand a good chance!
Gd luck
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sounds like an ordiary 8 year old to me. stop making a fuss about it and it will die out anyway (until he hits puberty then god help you).
The only thing I know about parenting is CONSISTENCY. Have the same reaction/punishment/reward over and over again. He's testing the waters. What ... when... how... can I get away with ____ is the thought process. Just like he did when he was 3.
Tell him upfront "when you do this... I will do that... " and then DO IT and don't skip a beat. You might try the age old adage "Praise publicly, condemn privately." Leave the room, go outside, pull the car over and talk to him on the side of the street... You can add a little emotion to the situation, which works VERY well with my highly argumentative son. I tell him "when you say that, it hurts my feelings. Why are you talking to me that way?" and then I shut up and let him work it out.
Good luck. No one said it was guna be easy!
If you need parenting advise this serious your in the wrong place. Think of how screwed up you would be if your parents learned how to raise you by asking strangers.
basic learning is a journey of literally nice and nasty experiences - in order to help your son through his 'journey' he has to have clear boundaries - and both parents/carers and your 8yr old son must rigidly follow them. rewarding ( or positive reinforcement) should be applied when your son has followed these rules or has displayed socially acceptable behaviour (as the parents you will know what reward is best appreciated by your son). punishment (or negative reinforcement) should be applied when these rules or boundaries are abused again only you will know what is best suited as a punishment..e.g. telling your son to go to his room for the rest of the day may seem like a punishment to you ,but, if he is enjoying a marathon session of uninterrupted gaming on his playstation, then you have failed. clear communication is vital and its vitally important that both parents/carers act as a team - following the same method. good luck and remember it normally gets worse before it gets better - this is normal, it will be your wills' against your sons'. if you are consistent you will prevail and your son will grow to be the man you dreamed he would be.
I know this sounds terribly over simplistic but try spanking. When done consistently it works wonders. I was converted from being an anti-spanker to a strong proponent by a similar situation.
A lot of us younger parents are going back to spanking. We are just sick and tired of all the spoiled brats and the Nanny 911, etc. nonsense. The no-spanking social experiment of the 1950's has been a dismal failure.
I actually spent some time looking at all the research and literature that spanking will "destroy your child and society". It is deeply flawed. And there is actually a lot of good research showing spanking causes no harm and is the best way to get kids to comply with their parents wishes (we just never hear about it in the media or from the pop psychologists). I reviewed and discussed all the spanking stuides and research at:http://blog.360.yahoo.com/blog-ggifacyzf...
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Sounds like the application of your hand or belt to his rear end would be the best advice. He hasn't had any formal punishment and a good ole fashion whuppin will get his attention. Once you have his attention then keep it. You need to be consistent though and try other means of discipline along with the spanking. Leave the spanking for disobediance, defiance, lying and never punish out of anger-no matter how you discipline him.
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