What would you do if 2 other students?
This one girl was putting her french fries in her pudding and this girl and boy when and said that my child and the other child was saying ulgy thing..and the teacher believe the two kids that was lieing...and I call the other parent and told her to ask her child if she heard my child say anything and she said no.she didnt do anything and I was the one putting my FF in pudding...they had to go to office and the Prin. said she will have to figure out what there dis. would be...where the other parent is bad as hell, cause she said her kids never talk like that and my child has never talk like that either.Both of these kids has lie alot on other kids to...So me and the other parents are going to school in the morning..
What to you think should be said or done?
Answer:
This is the classical he said/she said. My daughter went through hell last year because this one girl was jealous of her and made up a bunch of lies. I trusted my daughter and believed what she told me. It took a while but finally the school administration and staff finally saw what this other girl was doing. She even told a lie about my younger daughter when she realized she couldn't get to the other one. She told the Principal that she even had a witness that would back her up. Well, this girl's witness went in and told the Principal the same story that my daughter told and my daughter had 10 other witnesses that were with her at the time that the incident allegedly occured and they all said the same story that my daughter said.
So you need to let the school know that if they are going to discipline your child on a he said/she said with no other proof, they should be waiting for a lawsuit from you. Stand your course, don't back down, and fight it all the way.
I tell my kids that as long as they tell me the truth, I will go in and fight for them. If they ever lie to me and make me look like a fool, then they are on their own. So far they have always been truthful. I have taught them how to stand on their own first and then when they feel that the school is not listening to them, I will get involved. So far I have not had to get involved very often. They are usually able to work things out themselves. But sometimes the parents really have to step in.
Most kids work things out themselves as long as the adults stay out of it and by adults I mean the school staff also. But there are just some kids that are simply rotten and get pleasure in seeing others in trouble and being hurt. When this happens than the parents and adults need to step in.
Good luck and I would like to hear how everything works out for you and your child.
I think you're making a big deal out of nothing! You may want to get an education yourself while you're there though!
Let the kids deal with it.
I say DEMAND that the cafeteria NEVER serve french fries and pudding again!!
It's hard to say since you weren't there. Don't automatically believe everything you child says. Your child probably does many things at school she doesn't do at home (we all did).
Finding the truth may not be easy, but try not to pull innocent people into it, who probably weren't around to see anything anyway.
I think you should stop spending so much time defending you kid over something so silly. Of course the other parent is going to say "my kid would never do that either.. its a conspiracy". Its one thing if your child's life is in danger, and a student threatened him/her. But there is no need to get involved and so upset over some kid making up lies, and you as the parent, dont even know the truth any way. Kids can make up lies all they want, you can't do anything about it. You can only tell your child to stay away from nasty school kids and hope that he listens. You have to stop fighting your kids battles, wouldn't it make you feel stupid if the other kids ended up being right all along, and you went through all this trouble to defend your kid and he lied to you because he was scared? If the principal decides to punish your kid because his friends made up a lie about him, he needs to hang out with a different crowd. If you want your kid to grow up being self richeous and doing whatever he wants all the time, then your on the right track. He needs to learn on his own with out your spending all your time defending him. And when you go to the school in the morning, you need to tell the principal that you are going to enroll in some english classes because you can't type a paragraph worth sh*t!
Just go in and let the two kids talk to the Principal. There is no guarantee that he/she will listen to your kids, but it is worth a try. Have them calmly explain what happened and if anyone else witnessed this, get their names before you go in. That way the Principal can always ask someone that was not involved.
First of all you need a grammer class. No wonder..you are probably one of those parents who CANT believe their kid would do something wrong and will defend them until your blue in the face no matter what.
Get all the kids in the same room. Talk it over
Big deal if she was eating french fries and pudding. And maybe she said something ugly. Sometimes kids say things because they think it is funny or want to impress their friends. As long as you don't see a lot of this beahvior I would not worry too much.
Now about the school, if you are sure your child is not lying and you trust her they I would defend her with my last breath. Firmly tell the principal that you will not accept punishment of any kind for your daughter based on the word of other students. If there was not an adult who overheard this talk then you demand your child be given the benefit of the doubt. However, it may come down to the fact that punishment is given no matter what you say, and if that happens I would just say to your daughter that sometimes life is not fair and we are punished for something we did not do. But we still have to be respectful. So you believe her and there will not be punishment at home for the trouble in school, and you wil fight for her, but she will have to accept whatever the principal says.
That is one confusing story to follow but if you really are an adult writing this then you stick by your child and stand up for her if you believe she is telling the truth. But seriously you write like a 10 year old, so it is a bit hard to believe
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