How do I teach my son neatness and cleanliness with his uniform and school bag?
Answer:
Sometimes, punishment and yelling arent enough. I know it's going to sound crazy initially, but maybe rewarding him will work (trust me... read on).
If you are about ready to go insane over the dirty clothes and mess, perhaps a reward system will help.
Maybe a chart that says "I WAS CLEAN TODAY!" with a series of happy faces in different stages (serving as cleanliness from 1-5 or 1-10 or whatever you want) for him to come home to each day and discuss with you (with appropriate praise each day he comes home cleaner than the one prior, etc) how clean his pants are, giving him examples like "see how clean kyle's pants are today? If you can come home tomorrow with your pants only that dirty, you'll get the super smiley!" or something to that effect, so he can SEE what it is you're trying so hard to make him understand.
At the end of each week, you can count up his smilies, and show him what sort of special things he earned for his efforts, this way, he can also have something to look forward to for trying to be good for mommy.
You can set a point/smiley system that you pull out and show him what he can earn (a rented movie with mom, his favorite afterschool snack, 10 minutes up after bedtime, etc). Special mom time is usually a really good reward for a kid his age, and it doesnt have to cost a cent!
Eventually, you can turn this chart into a chore chart using the same sort of guideline, and further in helping your son to try to learn how to be more responsible for his messy little self!
Children learn what they live. Continue to be an example to him.
Being dirty has nothing to do with overall cleanliness, he is a boy. Let him be a boy. Some boys are just naturally like that and you should want to love him and kiss him all over just because he is.
He is going to grow up far too fast. Stop scolding him and injuring his self esteem and love the child and accept him as he is, a boy!
Next time you scold him and next time you tell him the consequences of being untidy look closely in his eyes and watch them drain with every word.
I am sorry, but I totally disagree with you. I raised a boy, he is fourteen now, he never was one to get dirty, but some of his friends did and I thought they were just as adorable as he was clean! And every single one have grown up to be presentable young men. Boys are all different and boys will be boys if you let them.
Maybe if you backed off a bit and stopped scolding him he may back off a bit and meet you halfway without him even knowing it.
just show him what is right and wrong. sometimes we assume that all kids not what is good and bad. give him encouragement on being clean. reward him for doing a good job...this will make him want to do good. good luck
every afternoon when we get home i have my oldest son to take off his uniform and neatly place it on my bed. put his socks inside of his shoes and place on my bed as well. all papers in his backpack has to be homework papers or else it goes trashed. i understand what you want to instill in him and you, being his mother, is the rightful one who should do it. I DO IT AS WELL. my oldest is 7 and in the first grade, he needs to know how to maintain neatness and cleanliness. when he does well, i let him know. cleanliness is next to Godliness.
Mom of B & D
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