Shower for adopted baby?
Answer:
We recently adopted a child from Guatemala and I would recommend going ahead and calling the event a Baby Shower. That is, in fact, what it is! The last thing you want to do is make the mother feel like adopting is second best to being pregnant.
We had this included in the invitation, "Keep in mind that (insert baby's name) is 14 months old and is currently wearing (insert baby's clothes size). As a suggestion, many adopting parents are under huge financial stress because of adoption expenses so creative ways to give money are helpful.
We played the "What did baby eat?" game. The one where you put baby food in diaper and everyone guesses what the baby ate. You can play most baby shower games, just not the ones where you guess the baby's birthday, weight, etc.
that would be really sweet...i know if i was in that situation it would be a thoughtful gesture. she is a NEW mom no matter what!
I would do the traditional baby shower. As for normal, I think it is, you are celebrating your friends new baby! Have fun! :)
but it can be a normal baby shower...just because it isnt her's biologically, doesnt mean that she has to do anything differently, so i say have a regular baby shower for her, that way it can truly feel like her own. i really hope this helps...
It IS a normal baby shower. Just because the baby isn't biological doesn't mean the party, gifts, games, or guests should be any different! Honestly, I think it would be incrdibly insultingif you called it anything else besides a baby shower - the baby's a baby, and you're going to shower her with gifts, right?
By all means, still call it a baby shower - on the invites just include something about the fact that your friend is welcoming a 14 month old girl into her family. And please - avoid all the weird games and stuff that typically goes on during a "normal" baby shower!
Normal is relative. Call it a baby shower. Just buy bigger clothes.
Call it a welcoming shower. The girl is still a baby though.
Welcome to the family Theme. not only is the baby part of her family they are part of the office family. That is so wonderful that you would throw a shower for her. alot of people take these parents for granted. They are saints.
My family had one for us, when we adopted our baby.
They waited until the baby was born, however...since anything can go wrong with adoption...
I suggest you all do the same thing, and arrange a last-minute event as soon as baby is home with mom.
It IS a baby shower in every way...there is no need to differentiate anything. Adoptive parents are very sensitive about feeling "different" from other parents..just make it a regular baby shower, but since it is "after the fact", you don't even need to deal with the "pregnancy" aspects of it.
Namaste,
--Tom
Just because the child was not conceived by her does not mean she would not love to have a baby shower! The people you invite will know of the circumstances - just add a line such as "Baby shower to welcome (baby's name) home". Some babies grow under our hearts , some in our hearts. The mom to be is still a mom to be. Congrats. Now just play all the silly games and have a great time!
You can pass out innovations stating that so and so is expanding her family she is a 14 month old girl lets all celebrate this glorious event. that way people know what size to buy her.
I think you can still call it a baby shower.
As for activities -- why not do a version of pin the tail on the donkey ... pin a flag on Guatamala Get a map and outline the country on it. Make little pink flags and see who can get closest to the country. This will help everyone to see just where the little girl is coming from.
You might try to find some food from that country to serve --maybe a dessert.
You can throw a normal baby shower for EVERY new mom, including an adopting mom. Just be sure that the guests are all aware of the baby's age so that they will shower the new mom with age approriate clothes/toys/etc. BTW, Hallmark stores actually sell baby memory books that can be used for adoptive parents, so this can be a good gift for the shower :)
A Welcome to the family celebration maybe. Since this is her first child, she would probably be thrilled to get to have a shower!! Welcome to the Family, or welcome home, or something of that sort could be appropriate to call the shower. Tell her congrats!!
You could always call it a toddler shower. ; )
It's just going to be for the coworker, right? I think it'd be a little stressful for the kid to be at a party when there've been so many huge changes in her life.
A Welcome Home party is what we are calling ours and our baby is coming home from the hospital with us.anyday! Yeah!
You can still call it a baby shower and do what you would do for any shower. But since the baby is 14mos. I would suggest adding that to the invitation to avoid getting newborn gifts.
The answers post by the user, for information only, FeelBaby.com does not guarantee the right.