2 baby showers is tacky... opinions please??
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I totally agree with you. A shower is for someone that has nothing. Not nothing NEW. A woman in our office had three children in 5 years, she gets one shower. The people who are good friends will get her a gift. Another woman in our office has two kids in high school and, surprise, she is pregnant again. We gave her a great shower.
PS, that baby was a true gift from God.
Honestly, I don;t think it's tacky at all. New baby=new shower. IMO
I think you are being jealous and selfish. This isn't about you this is about the celebration of your sisters new baby. 2 years is sometime. And if you actually could take your head out of your *** for one min you'd realize that you not going is gonna hurt your sisters feelings. If my sister wouldn't have went I would have been pissed. Stop being so selfish!
I don't think it is tacky! I have a 3 year old boy and just gave birth to a little boy 2 weeks ago. And I had a shower for my new born! Just give her a gift card. Show that you care. Each child is special!
PS: We are planing on a 3rd child in 2 years. And I will have a shower for this child too!
I have to agree with you. I'm pregnant with baby number two and due in June. My daughter will be 2 in March. If anything, I MIGHT expect a party of sorts after the baby is born but only for people who wouldn't generally get to see the baby.
Let me see if I can explain that a little better. When I was pregnant with my daughter, I naturally had a baby shower with family and close friends. After my daughter was born, my mother-in-law's close friend threw me a second shower, if you will, and invited women from their Bible study group and my MIL's church who would probably never see my daughter as we go to a different church and hardly ever visit their church. So, I wouldn't be surprised if another party of this sort were to occur with my second, but for someone to actually have another baby shower would just seem absolutely ridiculous to me.
My mother-in-law thought i was strange too for me to be having a second baby shower but my daughter is going to be 5 when the baby gets here...a 4 year age difference. I have nothing left from her except for the crib which may not even be safe and clothes that I held onto for sentimental reasons. She needs a 2nd shower..believe me
In bad taste, sure, but what does that matter? Go to the shower, play the stupid games, and at least pretend that you are glad to be there. If you can not afford to buy an expensive present, see if you could make the cake.
I don't think its tacky but I do agree with you about having 2 baby showers with different babys. In our family you only had one and that was with the first one. I never had a baby shower with my first. but thats okay. I did fine on my own. I would go and make an appearance .but If you don't want to you really don't have to go, and no one can make you. good luck.
say you will buy something when the baby is born but don't think she needs 2 babyshowers.
plus isn't tradition to only have 1 for the first?
I can understand 2 if it's her side of the family and then another for the fathers side of the family...but not just for a second child.
It is not tacky! I have a boy and a girl, and i needed clothes for a boy my 2nd time around. Even if it is just a diaper/wipe shower every pregnancy is just as importnant as the fist and they deserve somthing special too. Everyone will need diapers no matter how many kids theve had! Gving to someone whos having a baby is never tacky!
Sounds like you think its tacky because you have two kids and got one shower. Now she's having another child and gets another shower. If you are old enough to have two kids Im sure you are old enough to act your age. Who cares if your sister has more money then you, i mean you do not have to spend alot. Im sure she would understand but what she will not understand is her own sister not coming to her shower because she's pouting. Get over it and support your sister. It's bad her sister-in-law in acting more like a sister then you.
How is that tacky? Even if the new baby is 9 months from the first one, he is not going to wear all hand me downs. He still needs diapers. He still needs other "newborn stuff". A baby shower is a celebration of a life about to enter the world, plus a fun time for family and friends to be together. Stop being so complicated. How about this...go, eat, celebrate, but save the gift for later since you said you were going to buy something anyway.
I do not think this is tacky. I think that if the shower is thrown and people who are not family are invited there is nothing wrong with it. A new baby=a new baby shower. Even if the children are close together, when a person has a baby shower it is to ask for things they need. If they still have cribs, some clothes, etc, then they should not ask for another one, but it is their child and their baby shower so if they want new stuff I see no reason why they shouldn't get it. And if the baby's a different gender they will need all new stuff cause they wouldn't probably wanna put pink clothes from their girl onto their baby boy.
More importantly like I said, they deserve a new shower. Baby showers are to celebrate the blessing of a new child.
A full-on shower for a second baby when you have a 2 year old is tacky. But, a small intimate gathering with just close family and maybe your best friend to celebrate the new baby and give gifts is ok.
Oh, I 100% agree with you. A good friend of mine has 4 kids 10, 8, 5, and 2. She had a shower for EACH one. I just think that is tacky. Now I am pregnant with my third, my older 2 are 7 and 6. I am not having a shower. But grandma will buy tons. My neighbor is pregnant, she is having a shower, her oldest is 15. My sister and I get along great, so I would go with a small gift (If I were you)
I looked up baby shower etiquette and this is what I found:
1) 2nd babies and adopted babies - Although baby showers are most often thrown for first born children, it is also acceptable to have such parties for adopted babies and 2nd born children. There is nothing wrong with celebrating a new child's arrival.
2) If there are older siblings, make sure they receive a gift each. They may already be feeling somewhat left out with a new baby on the way, so this is a great idea.
Usually when you have more than one child and they are close in age typically the turn out for a baby shower is not that great. Although think of the shower for your sister as a celebration to the addition to her family I suggest you should attend to show support and generally she wont NEED to many things you should get her something pretty inexpensive that comes from your heart as an aunt..then it would be more special to your sister and will help you be more excited for her.
Lots of luck
Just remember it is a celebration and not just for gifts!!
Congrats on being a new aunt
no its not tacky.its a whole new baby.they deserve to be celebrated too. also if she got a baby book for her new baby what would she do leave the showers memories in the book blank just because its the second baby.
It isn't tacky. Usually a baby shower is thrown for every baby. If you feel this way, go but don't bring a gift but in return don't eat or drink anything.
It isn't tacky at all. There is nothing wrong with celebrating a new baby's arrival.
Will you be locked out with the door slammed in your face if you're not baring gifts??
Well, I would agree with you, BUT I had 2 shower thrown for me. I lived out of province when I had my first child and my sister threw me a shower for my side of the family (I had a boy).
Then when I had my second baby (a girl) my mother-in-law threw me a shower just for their side of the family. If I had a boy they woudn't have but I have no girl clothes. so it helped alot. So technicaly I had 2 showers but for two diferent familes.
When My sister inlaw had two showers thrown for her I didn't go to the second one cause I thought it was rude to ask for another present. It's not costomary (i can't spell)
I totally agree with you! Unless there's a huge age gap between the kids, a shower for any one past the first one is inappropriate. I would have thrown a "Welcome the baby" party after birth - gifts being an option.
i to think your being selfish.a baby shower is to prepare the mom for her new baby and to pamper the expected mom(don't you think she needs pampering right about now?)it doesn't matter how much they make(hell the celebs have baby showers all the time and they have money)be there for your sister.stop whining!
It is not tacky to have a baby shower for the 2nd or even 25th child. Each child is a miracle and should be celebrated with friends and family. It is up to each person who is attending whether they bring a gift or not. But the point is to shower the mother with gifts to help take care of the baby. My sister has 3 kids and we threw 3 showers for her and she appreciated it every time. It doesn't matter if your sister makes 10,000 bucks a day, the point is to celebrate in their joy of having another child, not seeing how much loot they get. It sounds to me like you are jeleous and spiteful. This is your going to be your niece or nephew, she is your sister, you should really go to the shower and help her celebrate, don't miss out on this just to be spiteful, you may come to regret it later. And, you don't have to buy her anything or buy her anything big to participate, you could buy a cute little outfit or layette set and be done.
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