2 week old baby won't let me put him down?
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Well I would say his problem is probably that since he's use to being so close to you (cradled in your womb) he is having seperation anxiety like most babies do. It is not really anything to worry about and it will get better.someday. I would give him periods of time to cuddle and periods of time to lay down. When you lay him down, stand over him for awhile and talk to him or even wrap your arms around him, but do not pick him up for a few minutes. This will help, but I'm warning you.you are going to need LOTS and LOTS of PATIENCE. That's the most important thing at this point in a mother's life. Hang in there and know...THERE IS LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL!
this may sound weird but... get mom's shirt and wrap wee one in it like they do at the hospital w/the blankets..BUT make sure theres NO milk smell/ formula smell on it. do not use dryer sheets.. just make it smell like mommy ... worked for my three clingers =))
I SO know what its like to want to put the wee one down.. you want to get dishes done, you want to take a SHOWER ALONE or go potty ALONE. im not saying abondon you child but when it comes to him sleeping on his own ~ try the tshirt thing.
Get a sling - and hold on tight.
These young days fly by SO fast.
You know what?
When he's 7, you're going to say "why won't he give me hugs anymore"?
He is a baby. Comfort him. hold him. Spoil him.
One trick. When a baby is "sound asleep", lift his arm up a little. If it flops back down, he's out.
If it slowly goes down, he's still in light sleep.
Just hold him.cherish him while he is so innocent and sweet as he will be a teenager before you know it. This time won't last forever. Savor every sweet moment!
Don't let him cry he's only 2weeks old. Try a warm blanket (warm it in the dryer, not to hot just warm) wrap nice and tight and do a little bounce for a min or 2 then see if he'll lay down. it worked for me so i hope it helps.
that must be tough to always have to hold him, but they say a newborn can never be too spoiled. they need to feel that security that mom is there for them. when they cry they have to be comforted. so i guess just wait it out and hopefully this stage will pass soon. best wishes.
The baby is getting quite comfortable to your hands and begin to recognise when he is not in your hand, dont be alarmed it is natural for babies to behave like that.
Invest in a sling. They are amazing. None of my kids wanted to be put down and that was my saving grace. I couldn't deal with listening to them cry and felt guilty about letting them cry it out. But you only have two options, let them cry or keep holding. There really isn't an in between for this.
My daughter did the same thing when she was a new born and I didn't put her down for the first month or so, finally she got over the stage herself so I suggest just riding it out for a while. Trust me, you'll miss it when he stops doing it. My daughter is now nearly one and won't cuddle with me hardly at all, she gives me hugs and such but she wants to be on her own so much and I miss the days when she just wanted to sleep on my chest. Cherish it while you can.
my son does the exact same thing. you son probably is the type that always on the go. some babies just get so frustrated with the fact that they can't move where they want. or they want to see everything and lying in one place isn't doing that. i have two slings (one in the house and the other for going places). my son hates the baby seat and stroller. so i just use the slings. it carries him everywhere, he can see everything, and i have a free hand. i suggest you give that a try.
Ah yes, this is common! I've had a few of those type of children myself! =) Don't worry it won't last forever! In the meantime, get yourself a soft carrier that you can wear and put the baby close to your body. He'll relax and you'll get use of your hands back. My other suggestion is before putting him down to sleep feed him really well and wrap him in a swaddling blanket called "waddle me" it's available at any BabiesRUs for like 9.99 and that will help him feel hugged and sleep instead of the wake-up and scream. Oh, and sometimes if you have a spoilie baby like my 3rd one, you might want to take a heating pad and warm up the crib mattress before naptime and remember to remove the heating pad from the crib before putting baby in. I hope some of this helps!
You are right...don't let him cry! At this point he is still adjusting to life outside the womb...keep in mind that for months he was always warm and being "held". Have you tried swaddling him in a blanket? It is fairly normal for him to be this way, he just needs to be near you...maybe try sleeping w/ one of his baby blankets (to get the smell of mommy on it) and swaddle him with that blanket, also I used the "mommy bear" its a teddy bear that makes womb sounds (like a heart beat sound) that helped my babies sleep. I know it is probably tough on you right now b/c there are things you would like to get done, but at this point he just needs to feel close to you...if possible have a family member come to help you out around the house! He should adjust to all of this soon, just hang in there and enjoy your son while he's cuddly...it won't last long! Congrats on your new baby!!
Wrap him up tightly in his blanket. It is called bundling and it simulates him being held and creates a feeling of security for the baby similar to that of being in the womb. He probably wishes he could crawl back up inside you where it was more quiet and really warm all around him. Be careful not to spoil him by holding him too much. It is easy to do because babies are so precious and we want to just watch their little expressions and talk to them so they know we are there for them to make them feel safe and secure. There may be some information on bundling babies on line somewhere. Or ask a nurse who works with babies at the hospital about it. That is where I learned what I know, when my daughter was in the hospital nursery.
when they are that young babies just like to be close to their mothers. I went through the same thing with my son. if you can't hold him, try a Snugli or a sling. and try to put him down by himself for at least a few minutes each day. stay close and talk or sing to him so he knows that you're still around and then pick him up again after a couple of minutes. it's not good to let them scream, but if they cry for a few minutes it won't hurt him.good luck!
i have three little darlings. 5, 3, 3mos. i have been there. what is importand to remember is that babys are people too. does your baby live in a noisy house? some times when you bring home a baby you tip toe around it. try tuning your radio on a static station. swaddle him/her up and dress him/her comfy but not hot. look up the 5 S's. i cant remember what the guys name is but he is a life saver when it comes to calming down babys. call your hospital, ask about the 5 S's. they show this video to new moms, its wonderful and can help you a lot. good luck. dont forget, take care of yourself too.most moms put themselves on the back burner but youll take care of others better if you take time to take care of yourself.
My son is like that too - STILL at almost 4 months. My friend told me that her ped. said boys in particular need to "check in" with their parents more often when they are little. I don't know why. Thankfully, I can now put my son down at night (but he refuses to sleep in his crib), our solution for now is a vibrating bouncy chair. The vibrations soothe him to sleep, and then once he's knocked out we can turn it off and leave him to snooze. When he was a newborn, I just slept holding him in our oversized chase lounge. It seemed justifable that we both needed the rest, and it's amazing the positions you can fall asleep in when you're tired enough. My day-time solution when he was that little was a baby carrier that you snap right to yourself, and put him in. They hold up to 20 pounds, and you can nurse him while he's in it. I still nurse our son in his, while running around the house cleaning up on those really hard days. Good luck! And like everyone else said, try to enjoy it! It's frustrating, I know, but it really does go by fast!!
wide awake is ok. If he is crying, try laying down next to him and playing with a toy. Gradually get him used to watching the toy - like a crib mobile or toy you can attach to crib, a musical one may work too. Then gradually move farther and farther away, but let him focus on the toy. You can use this with a swing too.
I never felt comfortable with a sling, but I loved the Baby Bjorn carrier. I wore my daughter A LOT, because she hated to be put down and I wanted to get things done. I could vacuum the floor with her in the carrier. When they're really little, have him facing you and when he's older and has good neck strength, he can face out and look around. Good luck. It won't be long and he'll be squirming out of your hugs.
Your baby is 2 weeks old and he has been used to being inside of you,so now that hes out its left up to mommy to comfort him in her own way.I have two and one on the way and they had to be comforted different and Im possitive my third will,when you gave birth instantly your mothers instint set in,I mean you've figured it out so far.
Have you tryed a sling. If you are breast feeding just feed him with the sling aroung him and burp him with it around him and that may make it feel like you are holding him all the time.
Vacuum around him on the floor I did that with my daughter when she got frausterated.
Also get one of the womb sounds bears or CDs. My caughter had colic and i got the CD of the cars going 55mph that's 60 minutes long it helped, I know you said he wasn't colicy.
You shouldn't just let them cry until they have worked out their trust issues around 4 months.
kind of early for that kind of behavior. you must have held him so much the first few weeks. Youare robbing him of the sleep he needs probably. You have 2 other children, haven't you learned by now.
I never had this problem with my babies, but my brand new nephew is just like this.
My sis-in-law bought a sling.it's awesome, but if you have other things to do it's not always convenient. Also she tried music, her little babe loves Michael Buble and he'll sleep to it. Not kidding, if I hadn't witnessed it myself I would not believe it. Last, but not least she tried a little bouncer chair that vibrates. It really calmed him down sometimes, but not always.
Hope that helps you. Get a sling, try some music, and get a vibrating chair. Good luck with your little one and your other kiddos too.
I loved my sling for my clingy little guys.
I have a mei tai now, but I loved my maya wrap when my guys were first born.
For sleeping, try co-sleeping. My ds sleeps the best that way.
My baby also like this before that..this is a short period only. when my baby after one month, she already ok and will sleep in the swing. So just hug he when he needed. He still not confortable for this new life only. Be patient.
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