Twoweek old needs to be held and gets fussy when youput her down, what do I do? New mom needs help!?
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try swaddling you can bie a proper swaddling blanket from mothercare and most other baby stores no folding nessesery comes with full instructions on how to wrap your baby comfortablely worked for my baby sleeping was no prob when i got 1
99% of the time when they cry, they are hungy, so don't be afraid to feed her even if it's between schedule. Also, have you tried swaddling her to put her to sleep?
Try a swing. We like the cradle swing.another option is to let her fuss it out..but in my opinion shes a little young for that.
You can't spoil a baby in the first three months. just hold her.
You might try wrapping her tightly in a blanket and laying her on her side. This reminds her of the womb and she calms down.
Babies cry for three reasons. Hungery, wet, and scared. Everything is new to her so she is scared of being alone.
My three week old now sleeps four hours at a time.
Have you tried "swadling" her in a blanket. Like they do in the hospital. For my middle son this was the only way to get him to feel comfortable and make him calm down.
make sure the baby is burped.you may have to buy a swing and put blankets on the sides and half way in the front of the swing to make sure the baby doesnt fall forward.
One thing I found is that my babies would love to be swaddled in a blanket if I wasn't holding them. I had the same issue with both my kids, and especially with my 8mo ole son. I do try to always remember that it's not such a burden to hold them so often, but a blessing. I love that they wanted to be close to me. It comforts them to be close to us and feel warm, safe, loved. One day when they are older, they won't even want a hug in public. That's how I get through it. You may could also try a swing. My babies loved the movement and sometimes would nap longer if they were in the swing.
Swaddle her. Babies love that safe and secure feeling of being wrapped up tightly - not too tight though. It's really easy - just wrap her up like a little burrito - not the head of course. Here are some detailed instructions if you need.
1. Fold one corner of your blanket down. (A receiving blanket works well.) Place your baby in the middle of the fold with her head above the edge.
2. Pull the left side of the blanket snugly across your baby's chest, making sure her right arm is wrapped close to her body. Then lift your baby's left arm and securely tuck the blanket under her body.
3. Bring the bottom of the blanket up and either fold the edge back or tuck it into the first swathe. Then pull the last corner of the blanket across your baby's chest, securing her left arm near her body.
4. Tuck the blanket under your baby's back as far as it will go. Keep your baby snugly wrapped as you pick her up.
TIP: Don't be alarmed if your baby wiggles her arms out while he sleeps. Some babies don't like having their arms confined. Try keeping her arms outside the blanket while you wrap it. Your baby might prefer this more natural position.
Ahhh. I had one of these, and she STILL wants to be held (at 7). I totally agree with the "hold them" camp, though, and found some wonderful books by Dr. William Sears that were especially helpful.
The best things I did were to buy a couple of baby slings at a used children's store so that I could carry her around with me and still have the use of my arms and to sleep with her so that both of us could get some rest.
The upside of this personality type is that they are dynamic, full of life and love and usually very smart. You really can't hold them too much until they are older (around 18 months or so), but I'm a firm believer in letting them pull away from you rather than being pushed away *by* you.
That being said, having a baby like this is physically, emotionally and mentally draining, so be sure that you are doing what you need to do to take care of YOU. I hired wonderful sitters to hold her while I took a walk or a shower or whatever I needed to do. Good luck to you, hon. Your babe will benefit from the attention you give her now and later you'll be glad you did.
p.s. my daughter HATED the to be swaddled (still does). Some babies really love it, but just because most babies do, doesn't mean yours will. It made mine angrier, and I'd just end up holding her until she fell asleep. Then, if I put her down, she'd wake up screaming bloody murder for the next hour, so we ended up just sleeping together. Do what works for you and good luck! I also second the poster who said that babies usually fuss because they're hungry.
You really should hold your baby! She is only two weeks old she is not going to be spoiled if you hold her!Baby's want and need to be held by their mother so you can bond with them. It is okay if your baby falls asleep in your arms. You should look into "wearing" your baby in a baby sling which is a long piece of cloth with a big ring on the end. You wrap it aroud your body and over your shoulder and put your baby in it sort of like a kangaroo pouch. You can hold your baby close to you while having your hands free after you are up and about more.
Enjoy this special time as it will never come again and they grow up fast!
First make sure she has a clean diaper, fed well and she is warm. Swaddling is a great idea and so is the swing. Have you tried a soother? Some babies don't like them and some love them. Don't be concerned about getting her hooked on it. Cross that road when you come to it. I know you must be tired and frustrated but just stay calm and know that right now she doesn't really know what she wants. If you get too frustrated just leave the room for a minute and take some deep breaths and try again. This tough time will pass and before you know it you will have a schedule in place.
Don't believe that old myth about spoiling a newborn. It's impossible to... and even if it was true, spoil your kids. You're the only mommy they have and they grow so fast. You blink and they're off to college.
Swaddling will keep her calm. You have to understand that she's spent most of her life inside your tummy. She's used to hearing your voice, your heartbeat. It's nice and warm in there and anything that gives her those same feelings will make her happy.. like the swaddling. Also did you smoke or drink a lot of caffeine when you were pregnant? If so, it could be withdrawls for why she is cranky. Think about how you'd feel if they were suddenly taken away from you if you use them.
Hold her even if you fall asleep with her. All mother's do it lol.. we're exhausted and we need sleep too. Just don't put her in the bed with you if you're a heavy sleeper but most of the time, that instinct is there and you wake up easily if she moves.
It won't take long before you know what her cries mean. For now, when she's fussy try checking her diaper, seeing if she's hungry or needs to be burped.. try changing her position she's laying in. We get tired of laying the same way all the time too so move her around. Get a baby swing and a pad like is used for car seats (for newborns) and let her gently swing sometimes. Invest in a rocking chair if you don't already have one and rock away.
This is the time for bonding and the newborn years can be the best. Don't stress and remember, she's not crying to annoy you. There is something wrong and it's your job to figure out what it is and fix it.
Good luck and congrats on your baby girl.
Tiny babies like to be held, hold her.I have one right now too. If you don't have a swing, GET ONE!! It's the only place mine wants to be set down.
Tip: soon enough, she will want nothing to do with you. Enjoy this while you can.
first of all she is to small to have you doing what ever she wants.
You have to teach the baby that she cant not be held all the time.
How? try to keep the baby as much as you can in her crib.Only pick her up when you have to give milk, change diaper, or take a bath.Besides that try to have her in her crib until she get`s use to the fact that she will not be held all the time.You need to do it soon before it`s to late. Once there bigger it`s harder to train them.So take advantage and do it a head of time.
She's only 2 weeks, this is the lonliest time of her whole life and she doesn't know what's going on, hold her and comfort her as much as you can! You'll miss it later! You can not spoil a newborn baby. I held my baby ALL the time. She constantly had someone holding her and she is now 6 months old and does not have a problem being put down and loves playing by herself. If they're fussy it's probably time to eat. My baby only cried if she was hungry and now she only cries if she's hungry or sleepy so just keep trying different things and you'll figure out a few things that will calm her down easily. Try singing to her. When my daughter is fussy I sing her the ABC'S and she always stops crying by G. :D
my baby was the same way. just experiment to see what comforts her. i went by the four S's: swadling, swinging, sucking, and sushing. swadling worked the best for my daughter when it was time to sleep. the swing was great for when i had something i had to get done, like take a shower or do some laundry or cook. sucking really helps to calm down an infant. try a pacifier or breastfeed her. there is no such thing as putting a baby that young on a feeding schedule. feed her when she is hungry. and sushing in a way that sounds like a heart is calming. over and over: shh, shh, shh, shh, shh. swadling, swinging and sushing all imitate the womb, her comfy home for nine months. you cannot "spoil" a baby until WAY later, so don't worry about that. she will grow out of needing to be comforted when she learns how to comfort herself. she just needs mommy's help right now.
Newborns do cry a lot. Mostly they are hungry- each child has their own "schedule", don't be afraid to feed her more if she seems to need it. Holding her is always good, it improves the bond between mother and child.
Sometimes a warm bath can calm crying babies, or swaddling them up is a newer finding that even made national newspapers here. There are websites about this topic if you are interested. (eg http://newyork.urbanbaby.com/ub_daily/02...
If the crying persists, you can always still ask your doctor for advice. Maybe she has gastro-esophageal reflux or bowel cramps. A lot of kids grow out of this, some may need to be treated for it, but I would say because she is only two weeks old she can use some extra time. Be patient and let her get used to "life outside the womb" :)
Are you nursing or bottle feeding? Some babies can't handle milk products, if they're on formula, and they get gas bubbles and stomach cramps (colic). In that case, you may need to switch to a soy-based formula. If you're nursing, it may be something you're eating that is upsetting her stomach. However, the crying from colic (caused by pain) is entirely different than just being "fussy". You might try feeding her and seeing how she reacts to that or you might try swaddling her (a nice secure feeling). If she is colicky, you can also put a pillow on your lap with a heating pad on top of it on the low setting. Put a towel over it and lay your baby on top of that, on her tummy. Then pat her bottom. The heat and the patting helps dislodge gas bubbles and will give her a lot of relief if that's her trouble. Best wishes on your new baby!
If she is crying you have to rule out hungry, winding,need nappy changed. Once you know it's none of these you know she's ok. My boy is a very clingy child and was worse when he was a baby. I had to swaddle him quite tightly when laying him down. The other thing I found helpful, and I know it sounds strange, I wrapped an old fashioned alarm clock (one that ticks) in one of my worn t-shirts. The idea is the baby can smell you on the t-shirt and the ticking reminds them of hearing the heart beat in the womb. The other thing I found that settled my boy was white noise, static on the tv or the hoover on in the next room. At two weeks don't worry too much about holding her too much :-) it's when they get bigger the problems start. Hope it helps.
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