Please need help from single moms regarding new husbands ex wife?
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why have you been asking the same question 6 days in a row ?
Didn't you ask this question yesterday? Anyway, that IS her family. Even though it sounds like your husband needs to grow some ba!!s, at the same time don't butt in.trust me on that.
There is nothing more annoying and irritating than a jelouse ex-wife! Im sure you love your husband and all but you still shouldnt subject yourself to this torment. Your husband should stand up to his ex and be by your side. If he is threatening to leave you over this then maybe your better off. The stress in keeping the peace will be almost impossible if your the only one doing all the work. Your husband should be ashamed of himself. He is being selfish. He shouldnt allow his ex wife control your relationship with him. You should talk to your husband and give him an ultimatum. Things need to change or leave. Good Luck.
The three of u all need to sit down together & talk about this, as hard as that may be. Agree ahead of time that this is not to become a screaming match, as there are kids involved & nobody wants them to get hurt. Just because she was his first wife, does not mean that u don't count for something now. Everyone needs to agree that this is going to ruin two families, not just one. I can understand your husband not wanting to mess up his time with his son, but he needs to speak up, in a calm manner, & tell his ex that it isn't good for their son to see her treat you in such a bad way. Then he won't be happy staying with you. Explain to her that you don't want to be his mom, but you'd like to be his friend, and someone he can trust in case he has a problem & your the only one around, he needs to know he can count on you in his mom & dads absence. Ask her to explain why she dislikes you so much, tell her you're interested in clearing up any suspicions or negative opinions (true or not) that she has about you. Just make it clear you would like for everyone to get along, most importantly for the children's sake. But she should know how it feels to go through a divorce, & should not be deliberately trying to ruin your marriage. (Maybe she has secret hopes she can get him back?) And you need to have a serious talk with your hubby, if he is serious about your marriage, he should not let this tear u apart. It is not something to be fighting over, it is something everyone involved, as adults, should be trying to resolve. And definitely do not (either one of you) feed the fire with his ex by letting on your personal business. This is not a 3-person marriage, she is not intitled to know everything that goes on between you & your husband. Don't argue in front of her, it just gives her more ammunition. But don't jump down your husbands neck about it, that makes him defensive, if you act the more mature adult, & come to him about it in a reasonable way & talk calmly, there is nothing anyone can say about your behavior, therefore there is no reason why you shouldn't get an honest answer, & hopefully some results. And as far as her "being what she is" & all, your husband (not you) should explain to her that, again, it will not be healthy for their son to go through another divorce. I'm sure it hurt him seeing his mom & dad break up, but it won't be good for him if his mom ruins a good, stable relationship that his dad has with you. If his marriages keep falling apart (i hope this doesn't happen to you), it only creates more instability for the boy. Hope this helps in some way, hope you all can sit down & talk & fix this. Best of luck. (sorry, i know this was a long answer, but I wanted to try to help)
and why do you WANT to deal with her insecurity problems?
THINK about WHY she is doing this....
she is only hurting your husband and their kids by hurting you and it's worth it to her.
you can't deal with a sick mind
I predict you will have a baby together and then get divorced.
he will then have TWO ex wives and you will gang up on him, bankrupt him for alimony and start a lezzy love nest. Am I wrong?
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