Are parents ever disappointed by their children?
Answer:
Yes - of course
As a mother of two: yes AND yes!
ooh all the time but thats what kids are there for same as parents are there to be embarrassing
Maybe by some of thier actions or judgement calls, but never disappointed by the child. I would look to myself if that were ever in question.
i don't think i could ever be disappointed by my kids, but i always felt that i was a disappointment to my father, but that's mostly because he had unrealistic and hypocritical expectations of me.
We may be disappointed with their actions or decisions, but not with them. We can still love them through the disappointment, because that is what parents do.
Disappointment isn't the same as unconditional love. You can love your child unconditionally and still be disappointed in by their choices or actions.
well I am sure parents feel disapointment with there children when the make really bad choices,, but a parent should not bring them down for this.. people make mistakes and they should help them learn from them.
Love and disappointment are 2 different things. Every parent has had the experience of disappointment. Some examples of why a parent might be disappointed are a bad grade, a bad decision, stealing, lying, being mean to others etc etc.
no i don't think a true parent could ever be disappointed by there child. they may not agree with some of there life choices but they will learn to find away to make it work. no matter what happens a parent should always love there child and be happy that they are who they are.
they will get dissapointed in their kids trust me i never go through a day without getting that look that shows that their dissapointed in me but parents will never stop loving their kids, even if they do something really stupid like start taking drugs they will be dissapointed that they gave into peer pressure and that they might have destoyed their whole future just to fit in for a couple of years but they'll never stop loving them.
I disappoint my parents all the time and I am classed as the black sheep. But i think they still love me
im pretty sure it has happened but that doesn't mean that they still don't love them. if my daughter did anything that made me disappointed i would probably lay the smack down. but i would still love her.
sometimes...im a kid so id know.parents just believe u r so sewwt and when u grow up they get all " u wheer s uch a good kid be4">=( but i guss its just in the parents find it pissaponiing when the children take their first steps into the real world
I think it's inevitable occasionally, although it's usually when a child goes against what the parents have taught them to believe, or what the parents firmly believe to be right. For example, a child breaking out of a religious upbringing and becoming an atheist.
When the children are young, I think it's probably going to be on the occasions when the child misbehaves, especially if that causes the parent to feel embarrassed by their child. It would be common then to feel disappointment in your child and their actions.
However I think disappointment in your child as a person, who they are and want to be, is rare. After all, your child is part of you and a lot of what they are is down to how you've helped them to grow. So it really would be counterproductive to be disappointed in the way they've turned out.
A sensible parent takes everything in their stride and has to realise that their children are not minature versions of themselves, but people in their own right with their own feelings and choices. If they respect this then, even if disappointment rears its ugly head, they can soon find acceptance of the unique person they have created.
An interesting question though, thank you.
Yes, my son son sometimes disappoints me but that doesn't mean i don't love him. I love my partner to bits but he sometimes disappoints me, its part and parcel of life I'm afraid
yes, they are, as you probably disappointed your own parents !!
Constantly, he he, but that doesnt stop you loving them does it. Bet you dissapointed your parents in some things you did or didnt do growing up. Thats the joys of being a parent.
All you can do is your best and hope they achieve everything THEY want to achieve and not what YOU want them to .
As a father of three I can honestly say that I love my kids unconditionally, but there are times when I see them doing the same things that I did and wondered why my parents were upset.
I think that every parent wants the best for their children but seeing potential going unfulfilled is of course disappointing.
That's life.
PS....the grandchildren are great!
I feel that I'm a constant disappointment to my parents, I make disappointing choices in boyfriends, jobs and friends - but I think this is just because they want so much for me! I think at the end of the day you are occasionally going to be disappointed by the ones you love the most.
Are parents disappointed by their children? Yes, frequently.
Do we tell our kids that we are dissapointed in them? Sometimes, if it will make a difference in what our kid is doing. Not all the time; however because at times, it will not accomplish anything.
Does that mean that we don't love our kids? No. Although my kids frequently diappointment me, it does not mean that I love them less. Their behaviour or thier choices can break my heart and make me very angy but I still love them.
Just part of being a parent I guess.
Parents are disappointed by their children all the time. We may always love them, but sometimes we don't like them, or we are upset with the choices they make. Doesn't mean they are "bad" kids, or that they are destined to be a "bad" person.
Sometimes the children they hang around with influence them, but we have to remember that all children have brains and the option to say yes or no in any given situation. Telling a child that you are disappointed with them is okay, as long as you tell them that it doesn't matter what they do, you will always always LOVE them. As parents, we have to look back on their lives and see if we gave them the good start that all children deserve. Did we teach them right from wrong? Did we teach them proper consequences for wrong behaviour? Did we instill good morals and good judgement? If you can answer yes to these questions, then you've done the best you could with what you had. Doesn't matter if you had money or not, illnesses or not, that is all irrelevant. Unconditional love is very important to kids and they should be told often that they have yours.
Their choices will be theirs and theirs alone, and they are the ones that have to live with themselves. Not you.
All I want for my children is for them to be happy with their choices in life, whether or not it's what I want for them. I would love nothing more than to have my kids be doctors or lawyers etc, but I can't do that. They have to decided that on their own, and as long as they're happy, what more can we ask?
Of course you love your children even if sometimes they disappoint take me my 8 year old daughter is sometimes shy and sometimes just plain rude and has a habit of ignoring people which drives me mad as we've always encouraged her to have manners but as a parent sometimes you have to accept their annoying habits and you don't love them any less.
of course! It is normal.
Sometimes we all do thing we are not proud of doesn't mean we stop loving them!
Yes but disappointed in what they do not who they are. There is a fine line there. Worst words for me as a kid to hear was I am very disappointed in you.
When my child tries her best, I'm never disappointed with her or her results. I am disappointed when, I know she hasn't done her best.
My children are never a disappointment...though their behavior may disappoint me. There have been times that my children have behaved contrary to what they have been taught, and that is when the BEHAVIOR disappoints me. It is important to make a distinction between unacceptable actions, and labeling a child. A child isnt BAD who may make poor choices. Just gotta continue guiding them in the way they should go! They always have my unconditional love...
Yes there is people out there I am one of them. When I had Jaymie who is now 4 months old. I really cared for her, a month later I felt like I despised her. I hated when she cried I used to put her through the house and let her cry, I did not want to be alone with her and I still feel the same about being alone with her. I have postnatal depression. If you feel like this I would advise seeing someone. They are very good and wont critise x
No.
For why?
Because it is ONLY our EXPECTATIONS which are dashed.
And if you read Kalil Gibran's The Prophet you will see that we should not pin our lives on those of our children.
Personally I feel that if I were to be disappointed in my child or my mother in me then it is the person who is disappointed's problem (not fault- but it is their problem).
:-)
Because are children not what we make them? In terms of what we WANT from them in return, I mean.
Never. We spend a lot of time with our daughter, we speak to her and listen to her, take her to interesting places and enjoy her great sense of humour and her thirst for life. As parents you have to accept the fact that your children are separate individuals and not mini you who are going to do the things you never got to do. You have to accept that they'll make their own mistakes despite your best guidance.
I am a mother of 3 and yes I feel disappointed with my children but I still love them with all my heart.
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