I'm losing it over here!?
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There might be an organic reason for his "hysterics". has your pediatrician ruled out everything? Has he had a scan of his brain to make sure that there isn't a tumor or an abnormality? I am not trying to scare you but there is usually a reason for something this extreme. If your parenting skills are as good as they seem than it might be worth exploring the physical symptoms more. I have a grandson that had hormonal problems at age 7. This affected his behavior drastically. Just a few thoughts from a grandma.
lol, call supernanny!
p.s. he will definitely grow out of it, it just may take some patience.
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it might be attention seeking. when my son used to flip out i walked away mostly 'cause i didn't want to lose it. after a little while he stopped flipping out. good luck i know it' hard
Stick to your rules and don't back off at all. You have to have consistancy or else he won't take you seriously. Maybe he is acting out for some form of attention because he doesn't feel he's getting his share with having two other brothers. I have three boys myself ages 4, 2 1/2 and 10 months and I've been going through the same thing. Try spending some alone time with him.
It appears the 5 yr old is feeling left out. Sometimes this age feels threatened by older siblings and will rival for your attention. And bad attention is better than no attention.
Kids use bad acts to get noticed by those they care about namely Mom.
You have to catch it before it happens otherwise you enable his bad behavior.
Here are some suggestions:
Spend some one on one time with him, just you and him doing something he likes. If you have other kids at home get someone to take them for a few hours. Let your 5 yr old know that you and him can have special time only when he has good behavior. Then stick to it.
If your 5 yr old is throwing tantrums at the drop of a hat he does it because it works. He gets your attention. Turn this around by not showing him any attention or making a big thing out of his bad behavior, just walk away (no punishment no attention). As long as he can not get hurt just dont be in the same room as him. He will get the picture that his tantrums drive you away.
Here are other ways to calm him down. Like with the shampoo, he does not like the smell so therefore he gets none, just sit in the tub. Take the soap too. He will not be hurt without soap or shampoo a few weeks. Take any toys too out of the tub. He must bathe but no fun.
If it is over food, take the food away and now he gets none. It may sound cruel but it works and no child will croke from missing a meal. Once they get hungry they will calm down at the dinner table and eat what you serve.
So everytime he has a fit about something he does not like, take it away and offer up nothing else. He will realize that when he has a fit he gets worse, nothing. If you reward him for bad behavior then it works, right?
I have raised two fine young men and have read every book on parenting plus took parenting classes. These things worked for me and now I have two fine young men on there own. They are well-rounded and they have made me proud. I suggest you read books on parenting and even take a class, it is so worth it.
We would let our children have thier fits in thier room...so they could not hurt themselves or others...they would need to stay in there until they were finished and could join the rest of the family. They eventually out grew this stage. We also implimented a reward system...for good and bad behavior. We lived in the tropics so we would swim everyday. I placed the word swimming on the dry erase board. If you were naughty you got a warning, repeat then loose a letter. If when it was time to go to the pool, if you had a letter left you swam with the family...if not then you got a book and a place in the shade to read. Needless to say I can count on 1 hand the number of times that they did not swim. Just remeber to take a breath and count to 10 and if you need to..go outside for a breath of fresh air (without the kids) they will live and you will be happier. Good luck
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