22 yr old son living with us who has a job, but wont help out financially, cuz he says his money is his money!
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Is he serious? :-o
Ok - well teach him a lesson... the food you buy is your food etc... make him buy his own food for a couple weeks... see how quickly he changes his attitude.
If he thinks he's in the "right" by not giving you anything to help out... well, tell him that since he's not longer considered a dependant, you don't actually have to give him anything, either. It will surely piss him off... but he'll realize pretty quick that giving you 50$ a week is a heck of a lot cheaper than buying all his own stuff.
change locks and dont give him key. if he were any other place the landlord would have evicted him a long time ago and he would be in court. he makes plenty to pay u a minimal rent (it doesnt have to be a standard rent.just a few hundred to show him responsibility and respect) and help out with the utility bills. also, if u are his parent and he is tight on money i would be wondering where it is all going bc it certainly isnt going anywhere responsible.
Call the police. Bye bye son.
Throw the bum out. Right now, he is getting free roo and board - see what happens when he is forced to pay his own real expenses.
He's 22!
Tell him to move out.
You are letting him act like a BRAT!! He sounds like a 4 year old.
Kick him out!!
Throw him out. Just because your his parent does not mean he can act like a child all the time.
Make him learn responsibilities, and cut him off from his grandmother.
Then I would tell him that the food you buy is YOUR food, and the water and gas and electricity are YOURS. Turn off the breakers to his room. Tell hiim that is he wants to use YOUR things that you pay for, then he needs to give you some $$ or leave.
that's easy... kick his *** to the curb and let him spend HIS money on HIS billls and HIS food and HIS shelter and HIS life.
Tell him to pay up or move out.
$50 is nothing, it still leaves him plenty to save for first & last month's rent and retirement.
kick his butt out! he will soon realise that it would be cheaper for him to give you the $50 you are asking for than trying to fend for himself!
If he is only making 1100 a month he is poor.
He should pay to help out.
Make him look at apartments and figure out what the cost of living is. It sounds like he is clueless about life.
no money no bed or food
give him the boot - time for sonny boy to grow up and become responsible.
Tell him he either pays, or he's out.
Give him a month, help him to find a cheap suite or apartment, and help him move. You can help him with the deposit, but that's it. Time for him to be independent.
Then tell him your house is your house and if he doesn't pay rent he has to move out.
Sounds like you need to kick Junior out of the house... Does he put his name on his food too? Draw up a lease, and if he doesn't follow it, evict him. Or move his but into Grannies house.
Your house, your rules. He can't abide by your rules he will have to go.
Would you like me to have a talk with him? Maybe he'll listen to me after all I am a total stranger with no influence on his life.
Go to your local court house and get the paperwork to legally evict him. Let him figure out what it actually costs to live.
Stop feeding him and cooking for him, stop doing his washing. Put a lock on the phone so he cant use it, and send him a bill for the electricity and see how he likes it. I personally would tell him to find his own place, hes all grown up now and you should be enjoying your life without having to contend with him.
You have the right to charge him rent after the age of 16!! This may seem harsh but if he doesnt like it he can move out and pay rent on a place of his own!! He knows that he will lose out if he moves out cos the rent will be more expensive and he will have to pay utility bills!
Tell him to give you money to help out or he can get his own place! His reaction will soon change!
Kick his @ss out in the street and tell him to go live somewhere else,The ungrateful little shite.Let him live in the real world for a while then he might appreciate what he had was not a god given right.Good luck
My Mom had this problem with two older siblings of mine. It came to the point where I had to convince my Mom to cut them off. It worked amazingly well for my brother, not so much my sister. My brother is very responsible and actually very tight with his money now. My sister is married with a child, almost 31 years old and still bumming money from my Mom. Tell him your money is your money and see how he reasons himself out of that one. He's an adult now. Perhaps its time he understands bills and responsibility. Best of luck.
Open the front door, put your foot squarely in the middle of the spoiled little brats backside and push!
My daughter is just shy of 20, lives at home while attending college, and works as well. She is required to pay $35 a week towards the household, plus help with household chores, and she pays her own car insurance and maintenance. It's part of being an adult - which evidently your monster doesn't understand. Kick his rear out to deal with life on his own with "his" money.
If you feel that strongly about him paying them tell him if he isnt willing to give you the $50 you asked for then, he can move out and pay his own rent,utilities,food and other bills. Maybe then he will be willing to give you that little bit you are asking for.
Show him what it's like to have to pay rent in the real world.
His $1100 won't go very far and he might think about getting a real job.
If he lives in your house...it doesn't matter what he says. He pays the rent you set for him - or he's evicted. You are doing him no favors by letting it slide. Honestly - I would make it $100 a week and apply some toward your bills but then also hold some in reserve that you can help him make a nest egg to have a deposit for a place of his own. Don't tell him you are doing that because he isn't mature enough to handle it yet...but hopefully he will in the future.
imo, he should give his share of the expense. he is old enough to live on his own so if he wont share the bills, better get out and live up to his word that his money is his, then his life is his, then he should live on his own cause all he thinks about is himself
Tell him to leave. My 17 year old pulled that and I wouldn't take it from him. Certainly all his friends are paying their rent, board and lodging. He's playing games and it's time he got out in the real world. Give him a warning and then change the locks.
I would kick him out. He has to learn how to live on his own. Tough love is the way to go.
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