Prepubescent Teenager?
I know it has been really tough on him lately as a lot of the guys his age have girlfriends. He has a few friends his age, but not many. Most of his good friends are actually closer to my middle sons age.
Yesterday he had a friend over that is 15 and i overheard him making fun of my son because he still plays with Legos. My husband was 16 before he started to grow so I'm expecting the same with my son. My oldest still gets accused of being 10 years old all the time and it drives him crazy.
He is a really good kid and I don't know what I can do to make him feel more comfortable. Does anyone have any suggestions?
Answer:
It's okay and very normal. If you talk to him about it it'll make him uncomfortable. You may want to give him some more privacy though.
Some kids just don't care about being "cool." He's probably not wrapped up in the whole "cool" scene yet which is a good thing.
As for his physical maturity. Who cares? I mean, really it's not that big of a deal. If the doctor had concern s/he would have mentioned it to you.
Trust me, he'll grow up here in a year, when he does you'll be wishing he hadn't. He'll be too cool for you and into a heck of a lot of trouble. Just be happy with the way he is!
I guess the only thing you can do is assure him that all these are normal and some people grow faster than others. Tell him that all these won't matter in the future and he's just going through a difficult phase in life.
Tell him that his physical maturity is the result of genetics and that there's nothing he can do but accept this. You might be able to speed up the process with nutritional aid though. There's a boy in my school that's 16, but looks and sounds like 12, so remember, there will ALWAYS be GREATER and LESSER people than YOU out there!
try to get a trusted adult to talk to him ( under your DIRECT ) supervision to let him know that there is nothing wrongwith him.
Growth and development are generally linked to genetics. Genital size also tends to be genetic, as does the age in which a child will physically,mentally and emotionally mature. Your husband was an average bloomer at 16 (some will do it at 13, some at 19) and therefore it is likely your son will do the same as his father. His physical growth may not be complete until he is 19 or so.
Unless he is coming to you or your husband wanting to talk about this specific issue then I would say nothing. It could make him feel anxious when there is really no need.
As to him playing with Lego..there are grown men, captains of industry, still keen on Lego, model aircraft, model trains etc..and will spend thousands supporting that hobby. If he is a normal boy then I am sure when he is ready he will do away with his childhood things.
You sound like a really loving mum, so just continue to love him and I am sure you will make it through these strange teen years.
Wow, Your question really brings me back. The day I started High school I was 4'11" and 95 pounds. It's a little scary going to school with kids that are a foot taller than you and are all ready growing beards. Like your son must feel, I didn't think I would ever grow. But, guess what, I did. By the time I graduated I had grown about 7 inches and put on about 40 pounds and still kept growing for another 2 years. Just do your best to reassure him that it will happen. I can remember complaining to the doctor that I was never going to grow. He estimated by looking at my parents that I would probably grow to 6 feet. That gave me a little piece of mind. He hit it right on the head.
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