38 weeks pregnant and needing Advice?
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It doesn't matter if you were married or not. The fact is he is the father and has rights. If you go to any solicitor they will tell you the same. He can go for access rights but if you are worried about yours and her welfare you can allow him rights to visitation through a centre run by others, like supervised access.
That way she will be safe and you wont have to face him. Its well worth looking into. With regard to Child Sipport he haas to by law pay something toward her upkeep. Badger the CSA until you get somwhere, other than that you could always take him to court.
First ask yourself...why? After so many years of no contact...I would be cautious and if she knows her daddy as daddy, I would leave it at that and tell him that when she is old enough to want to know / need to know him then you will tell her. I am assuming you get no child support from him and if his name is not on the birth certificate...then he hasn't a leg to stand on! Let her be happy and deal with "the drama" later on in life!
If you have full custody and have no legal responsibility to give him access then I would suggest not giving him access you and your daughter and your new baby dont need that stress.
You need to go with your instinct on this one..I would not let your prev partner around her if you were saying that you left because he was hitting you. I would contact some sort of legal services to find out what rights he has and what rights you have.
I wouldnt let him see her just like that,if he's serious tell him to go through court,he lost the right to friendly access when he didnt bother for 6 years.
If he's doing it on a whim it should put him off by having to go through court.
You see ,you could go through all the hassle of preparing your daughter to have to see him and then he doesnt turn up again for years.
It would be a good idea to explain to your daughter at this age that your husband is not her real daddy,in case the real one is adamant he wants to see her,they accept things better when they are little.
I'm confused, first you're saying you are 38 weeks pregnant. then your saying you have a 6 month old daughter. Now your saying your daughter is 6 years old. Which is it? Sorry, just confused.
stick to your guns girl.
regardless of the law stating he has rights cos hes the father,no court in the land will go against you if you have proof of his violence.they couldnt take the risk of the child being harmed!
Just dont let him see her, let him take you to court, and when he takes you to court explain to them that he walked out many years ago and there is a man in her life whom she knows as dad and show them all the proof you have and tell them how he was abusive towards you. They will probably give you complete full custody of her. But in the meantime, refuse his calls and when he calls hang up and if he wants to take you to court let him pay to do so :)
Hi I from experience can hepl you to decide what is the best way around all this. First I want to wish you the best. I too have delt with men like this Now if you feel that the 6 yr old is in a good enviroment when with dad you should definetly consider giving him visitations but with restrictions you are the mom and you can do that remember the child is with you most of the time and with his past you could go to court and get this straightend out. if it is possible with out court than you may want to consider it that way. Every child should know their dads as well as their moms but if he is harmful to the child than let it be said he's no good for the child. Maybe you could set up supervised visits by his parents... Good luck! ttcdnbttteot@yahoo
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As the biological father he does have legal rights! Since he has hit you in the past, and he abandoned the child, without paying anything towards her up keep, you would be in a very strong position to lay down the rules. Since it's obvious that his parents doen't really care too much about your well being or that of their grandchild, I suggest you contact a social worker and try and set some ground rules. Remember if this matter does go to court, he could win access rights. So if you play first, and tell him he can see your daughter twice a month for starters, with supervised access! You are giving both of them a chance to get to know one another! I know its a hard thing to have to do, but once your daughter gets old, she will ask more questions, and you will never be able to keep the truth of her biological father from her. She herself will see her birth certificate soon enough! Six is a very young age to go into the full details, but perhaps you should start the ground work by mentioning that her 'real' daddy didn't want her, and that this daddy loves her to bits! You know how to word this for her mental acceptance, and then see what she says. Little ones are pretty perceptive and you will be suprised at how much she can absorb and understand. The truth is going to be your best policy and together as a loving family, seek the guidance from a social worker, who will give you valuable information! Good luck ... and good luck with the new arrival!
if everyone is happy with ur new husband then dont let this other man come back in to ur life.if he has denied that hes not her father then why does he want to see her for? stay well away.
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