Can You De - Register Your Father?
im 18 and i live with my mother and my father lives on his own but anytime i ask him to help me with something or a lift anywhere its a no but friends or neighbours he takes them everywhere whenever they need to go
hes never given me financial support either whenever me or my mum asks him to put towards something for either myself or the family its no cant do it
too busy but the other thing is hes unemployed and there was one occasion
he stole my passport and denied having it til the day we where due to leave on holiday he came to the door first thing in the morning with it
and i just officially want this man out of my life for good because he is obviously not a true father and obviously doesnt care about his son
Can Any of You Assist please
Answer:
No - you can't deregister him as your father - but you can stop asking him for things and stop seeing him and then he can die a lonely selfish man.
well I don't think so, but you are 18 now and you don't have to put up with him, just pretend he dosen't exist to you anymore lol I'm sorry but that's the best I can come up with
Learn from the past. There is no one making you continue to ask him for support of any kind.
At 18 you should be well on your way to making your own life changing decisions. Look out for yourself and move forward with your life. No one is going to do it for you.
You cannot de-register him as your father, you can change your name by deed poll to your mothers maiden name, and the only real reconition of him would be on your birth certificate where it says father. But blood doesnt make a family.
Do you mean you want him taken off your birth certificate? If that is what you mean, then no. Official registrations of the father of a child relate to the biological father. They don't take into account how good a father a man has been and whether he gives you lifts to the pub.
I believe there was a trend in the US a number of years ago for children to 'divorce' their parents but I doubt you would have much luck going down that route.
No. he might be living up to the responsibilities of being a father, but when you were born, he was your father and always will be.
If he doesn't care about you how about stop asking him for stuff or thinking he will come through. That way he is out of your life.
join the ranks of many. Just pretend like he doesn't exist and safe yourself some grief.
You can not legally de-register him unless you can prove someone else is your real genetic father and that he is not your blood parent.
You don't ever need to speak to him again, you could even get him an ASBO if he keeps hassling you.
Well you can't de-register your family, but in some countries you can divorce your parents... like in America. I think Mcauley Culkin did this.
Sorry about dad... mine is useless and cruel too. You're not alone!
No, I'm sorry to say that you can't de-register your father. However I can empathize with you to some extent, my daughter has gone through similar heartaches with hers, having never been there for her except when it was convenient for him.
The only recommendation I can give you is to simply tell your father that you want nothing to do with him and tell him specifically why. Then ask him to stay out of your life and not to contact you as you won't be there for him like he wasn't for you.
This is double-edged sword, however, because years down the road, you might have a change of heart and decide that you want to talk/see him after all. You only get one set of parents, you just need to learn to accept them for who and what they are, not what you want them to be. It's not always easy, but if you can do this, you'll be better off not carrying around all the excess baggage of resentment, hurt and anger.
Your story is a very sad one and I wished there was another solution. You can disown your father.
First, change your name by deedpoll. You can get a solicitor to help. Then invite your father, all your relatives and some of your friends to a gathering. You do not have to tell them for what. You can serve some refreshments if you like. When they are all gathered, get their attention and announce what the gathering is for. Tell you dad that you are disowning him and do not want to be his son. Announce your new name to all. Thank everyone for coming and leave the place quickly. You may not be able to reverse this, so think carefully about it.
I hope you'll find a better way of sorting the rift out.
just don't have anything to do with him. don't see him, don't talk to him, dont' have any contact with him. if you "divorce" your dad that would be very costly in money and time. and besides you are 18, i don't think at eighteen you can "divorce" your dad in court. i would research it on google. ask a lawyer what to do.
no you cannot de-register him since it is an official record of 'truth' and, therefore, the truth - even when it is unpleasant - cannot be changed.
You're of an age to choose the people who are good in your life, and remove those who aren't. Clearly the breach between you and your father will never be healed so it is up to you to break the communication and just have nothing to do with him. However, before you do so, ask yourself: does he own anything? Are you his only child? If so, it is possible that you might automatically inherit all his possessions upon his death - now that is something that you might want to consider. Would you be happy to have nothing to do with him in his lifetime, but be happy to accept his house and money after his death? Is that hypocritical, or just commercial common-sense. That's a question for you to think about and decide on.
he may be a crap father but at least you have one. why is it so important for him to give you lifts and money?! some people would do anything to have two parents, or even one.
OK so he is unreliable - don't rely on him
wont give you lifts - get your own car
doesn't give you money - get a job
stop being so ungrateful
no you cant-- sorry
Unfortunately you can pick your Friends but you can not pick your family! If he is as useless as you have said and he subjected your mother to domestic violence your probably best off forgetting him, and if I was in your shoes I certainly wouldn't want anything off the loser get up tomorrow and see it as you have officially divorced him!
i tried... you cant... there is no way of getting a name of the birth cert... but.. i think you can divorce your parent.. wasnt there a case of a child doing that a few years back and winning?? not sure but have a hunt round the internet and i am sure you will find something on it...
good luck!!
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