24 yr old still lives at home?
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kick him to the curb and let him rough it out and start himself a new life. or send him to jail and when he comes out hell be a new man
Pot, the great de-motivater. Just talk to him, tell him you want space and that you think its time for him to give living by himself a go. The door is always open if it doesn't work out. Doesn't have to be a drama, just both be reasonable.
Time to put the pants on.. KICK HIM OUT!
Other than kicking him out I wouldn't know what to tell you.
my brother is 28 and still lives at home. Maybe a girlfriend will motivate him to move out. the right girl anyway.
u have to be strict...dont let him see ur weak let him know that u dont want him there anymore...good luck cya
kick him out. my sister was one of those who didn't listen to my parents, smoked pot, came home whenever, and took money all the time. it wasn't until my parents kicked her out that she wised up. and my sister was 20. your son should know better-he's 24! it may be tough but kicking him out may be the wake up call he needs and you're doing it because you love him. how else will he learn to grow up and make it in the real world? you need to do it.
Move. Find yourself a new ONE bedroom apartment and tell him he has no choice and needs to find some where to live.
change the locks. you said it yourself- you are enabling him. unless you are serious, he will continue to walk all over you. millions of people have rough childhoods, ut he is an adult now, so that's no excuse.
you may not want to be harsh to him... but tell him the way it is. you raised him and now your raisning is over he isn't a child anymore. he needs to get his own life. cuz you have put your life on hold for him. yeah right now it may not look like the best thing to do is to get him out but in the long run maybe some where down the road he will thank you... he should realize he is lucky... some parents kick their kids out at 18. help him find a appartman and a new job thats better if he needs one... tell him advice about how to survive in the real world but if he doesn't take your advice then atleast you tried. good luck!
I think that you should tell him and express to him how much you love him. It's hard, but talk it all out. Also let him know your concerns and why it is you want him to get an apartment. Tell him that you want him to exprerience REAL life, like you said, and explain to him what you mean by that. It could really change a lot of things by just talking through everything and getting to the root of the issue of why he acts the way he does, etc. Be willing to both talk AND listen. He may be upset and angry, but just calmly listen to what he has to say, and then respond with gentleness. I know you want the best for him, and if is willing to change, maybe living at home a little longer would help him get ahead. Just a thought. I'm 24 and I live at home, but I work and pay my bills. But it is also helping me save money without having to pay rent, so that one day I can be more financially secure to move out and live on my own.
Tough love can be tough! Get some counseling for yourself and find out what options are available for him. You need to be strong for yourself so you can be strong for him. You have to draw some boundaries and stick to them.
We had a similar situation and offered our son the option of a 3 month program where they live and work together 24 hours a day or he could walk out the door and don't let it hit him in the butt. It was TOUGH! It is 2 years later and he is still clean and actually doing well. He got his HS Diploma and is working and going to community college.
Good luck!
Yeah he's gonna have to go, or he's going to be living with you as long as he can. He's not going to leave on his own, b/c he has it too good with you.
yes its time to put the cup down set a day for him to move if not while at work put its in stored and give him him the key and change the lock aswhile i know its hard but its was harder being a alcoholic i know i was one as while good luck remerber one day at a time good luck
No offense but your son needs help. If he is 24 years old, smokes pot, drinks, lives at home still, and coming home at all hours of the night then there is something wrong somewhere then. Even if he does pay his share. If you haven't already then try talking to him about it and tell him that he has a certain amount of time to find his own place and if not then he will be living on the street. That seems to be the only option with your description that you gave. I was 18 when I was out on my own and I had my 3 week old brother to look after too because my mum died and I have and I still don't have any family to help out or anything but here I am 4 years later and I am perfectly fine and I have a wonderful girl and our daughter. So if he really wants to or if you make him get motivated then he will wise up and find an apartment and you will have your life back again. But you have to be serious about it and tell him that and whatever you tell him then you have to do. Like for example if you talk to him about it and tell him that he has 3 months to find an apartment and move out and if not then he will be living on the streets. And when the three months are up and he is still living at home then get is things put them outside and tell him that here you go I have you the option and you didn't follow through so now you have to deal with it. If he has the keys the the house or apartment then you might have to change the locks so he can't get back in. I hope this helps you out a bit.
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