Spanking Children?
~~Nao
P.S. I don't want to offend anyone by this question; I'm simply curious.
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I view it as appropriate in certain circumstances, such as the child is doing something to put their life or limb in immediate danger, or if they are caught doing something that is otherwise criminal such as stealing. The only time I was ever spanked was under such circumstances. Needless to say, it definitely reinforced the idea. Sure, you can tell your kids stealing is bad, but when they find out that you're gonna warm their butt for stealing, I can guarantee they'll never steal again if they have an ounce of sense. I certainly haven't done it again.
I really doubt most of us that grew up getting a spanking once in awhile for seriously out of line behavior learned that hitting is ok or that violence is ok. I don't go around randomly smacking people or shooting people up because I was spanked, and I'm pretty sure that's how most of us are. There's nothing anyone can do for overly emotionally sensitive children and adults - if it's not the spanking that traumatized them, then it's taking their favorite toy away that traumatized them. The world isn't sunshine and rainbows and trying to represent it to a child that way is setting them up for failure in the real world. You're going to have to deal with consequences for your actions - If you're nasty to your boss, expect to be fired. If you go and flip someone off for no reason, there's going to be retaliatory action. It's no small wonder why my boyfriend is such a push over, I guess. He was raised in an time out instead of spanking for seriously out of line behavior household and the world just walks all over him, and he thinks he's entitled to everything. And oddly enough, he's more prone to angry outbursts than I am.
Using it just because you're having a bad day and your kid is having a bad day isn't ok, it never has been and never will be ok.
No normal or sane parent wants to spank their child, but sometimes it gets the message across better than words or other action. A couple of swats on the bottom is enough if the situation even warrants a spanking.
A child's behavior ISN'T in their control. It's in the parent's control. It's up to the parent to teach a child how to behave. Without the parent teaching the child what is and isn't acceptable, the child will grow up not knowing how to behave.
Spanking is appropriate at times. It requires good judgment.
Well, I'm not sure because I've never really had to dicipline my son before. (Knock on Wood!!) I've only had to do time outs or take things away and that usually works.
I think it is ok to spank as long as you don't do it out of anger. And of course you don't hurt them. (leaving bruises, marks) I feel like the government is getting too involved in America's household. I think the punishment should equal the crime.
when i was coming up spanking was a way of life..but now a days if you do so and happen to leave a bruised you could find your self in a lot of trouble..i believe that is why so many children now a days are in and out of trouble.. even so i would and have just simply took there things away.. toys.. computer...bikes ..phone .. etc...i perfer the time out method for small children.. although how do you get a child to sit still in one place for very long ... like 30 minutes.. a life time to a small child..sometimes that swatt is the only thing they will understand..if all else fails than i would swatt the behind with my hand and not a belt.. at least with your hand you know how hard you are hitting
I personally have only "spanked" my child once. I feel that if you instill good manners, judgement, etc., into your child and stick to it, then it's usually not neccessary to have to strike them. I have a very well behaved child, though. Who knows if I would feel the same way if my child were wild!
They are different levels of spanking. When spanking with a belt that is called abuse. Spanking anywhere other then a belt is called abuse. There are no other way to explain to someone that if they don't spank there child they would be a wild teenager and run a way a lot. So if you decide to spank a child on there butt with your hand behind close doors there is no problem with that. Now if it happens in the public people can take it the wrong way and there might be consequences.
I think light spanking to a child's hands or bottom are appropriate in some instances -but a good long time out can also be a good tool for discipline.However some children(even some I know of) see the time out as an easy out and still behave badly, because they know all that will happen is a painless time out-so like I said a little spanking is appropriate sometimes.
There's a big difference between "spanking" and "beating."
Sometimes a kid just deserves to have his/her butt warmed.
i think to some extent it could be child abuse but some children simply do not learn by making rules setting boundaries and making off limits some children do need a small swatt on their behind but if someone is leaving marks on a child or spanking them for something small they should try other ideas i hate seeing a child spanked for just simply picking up something off a self at a store yes its frusterating for parents but no need to make them cry over something as simple as no and not all children understand no i understand that but you can also do other things.
I think it is a tool which parents can use. It does build up barriers and I think that it should be used as a last resort. My children don't hit each other, so it is nonsense that it is teaching children to be violent.
There are other ways to discipline your children and I think the importance is in being consistent. If you teach your children how to behave, then the battle is more than half won.
I don't allow rudeness or cheek. My children don't swear at me, they behave. Their teachers never complain about their behaviour. They are well behaved.
But your children need to feel they are loved, secure and appreciated. A good sense of humour is important, too. And understanding your child.
Spanking is fine...as long as you are not angry at the time you do it.
I think it is a necessary tool. I HATE it though. Any parent who WANTS to spank their child really needs help. But sometimes it's just what has to be done. In our home it is a last resort. There are time outs, there are things that get taken away, places you aren;t allowed to go, groundings...There are rare children that parents never have to take this step with and still grow to be happy, healthy, producitve members of society. And there are those that spanking really will not teach anything to. most children though fall somewhere in the middle. For children that respond to this question, please know that I can GUARANTEE you that your parent cries too when they've had to spank. I know I do EVERY time. My children may not see it, but I do. If we allow them to see that part of it then it's no longer effective as a method of discipline.
It does require some sense to use as there is a very fine line that many, many, MANY times is crossed. And NEVER shoudl be done in anger. It's always better to wait until that is all it;s abotu is a spanking. Noone is angry(either party), it;s just what needs doing.
Well, I got my share of spanking of as a child and I turned out fine. I work everyday, spend time with my son, manage my money well, am not strung out on alcohol or drugs, and according to what other people tell me, I am a pretty nice person. I was not abused as a child, just taught right from wrong, and disciplined well. That is what is wrong with kids these days. Parents just let them run wild, afraid to discipline them, or take it to the extreme and are abusive.
my parents spanked us
they never used a belt or anything else
but there hands
useally one smack
they aslo out us in the corner
i think its up to the parents to decide
what kind of punishment is best for there kids
this is a touchy subject, when i was young i use to get spankings,,and real good ones too, now kids don't get them and we have shootings in schools and bomb threats,when i was young we didn't do that stuff cause we knew what we would get. I think that is why we are having such a hard time with some young children, we don't need to spank but they need some discipline some where. They say you stop crime in the "high chair" not the electric chair
Well I think there is a big difference between a spanking and a beating. SOme people think it is abusive , But i feel that its ok to an extent, I mean don't sit there and hit them hard over and over. Obviously, My daughter, it doesnt work becuase my husband messes with her so hard when they play, It doesnt bother her, It bothers her more just to be sent to her room!! So You are the parent, Listen to your heart.
what does spanking teach? nothing, you humiliate the child into behaving, i want my children to do the right thing because it's the right thing not because they are afraid.so many times i hear parents that hit there children to stop them from hitting, doesn't that just sum it up, there are thousands of alternatives why then must we abuse our children, would you like it if you messed up at work and your boss said bend over and spanked you? that is how ridiculous it is
yes i believe children that step out of line should be spanked. A great example that warrants a spankin is if yr two year old climbs on top of the counter and touches a hot stove. Are you going to sit there and say" No honey, no no." and hope he or she doesn do it again? or are you going to give the child positive reinforcement, a spank to relate the incident to the reason he can not touch the stove? Spanking is a tool taht connects the offense to consequences. This nonsense on super nanny doesn really work! Its a croc. A child can very easily jump off of the time out chair and sendin a child to his or her room when there are so many forms of entertainment in there, a tv, video games etc. I mean come on...pat pat denotes a good behaved child in the long run...
As a parent of two children -I honestly believe that spanking your children at times is appropriate and then times it is not-The problem with out society today is there is not enough parents that have used that logic and end up wondering why their children grow up treating the parents horrible and the kids are out of control-you do not always have to spank your children -but parents need to be parents and be responsible for teaching thier children the differnce between right and wrong
i think it depends on the age, where you are spanking them on their body, why you are spanking them. i will not spank my son who is 18mo for any reason. the only thing that is teaching him is to fear me not to listen. children are inquisitive by nature they go through stages of purposely NOT listening(like my son right now) i probably won't spank him when he is older either i just believe that teaching to hit and hurt won't make them behave it will only create emotional problems for your child
I believe that spanking is humiliating and is teaching children that hitting is okay, as long as the other has done something you don't approve of.
Spanking creates aggressive behavior. It the easy way out trying to teach what is right. Take the effort to put more time in talking to your kid and using a non violent way.
There is nothing wrong with using physical means to discipline children... to an EXTENT. Some people go overboard and well.. that's called child abuse, not spanking!
i dont believe in spanking i think they are other ways to teach our child right ad wrong, i believe it sets a bad example. as child will react the same way when the get angry and someone does something worng to them..
Spanking teaches children to deal with their problems through violence. Consistency, sterness, and taking away everything they love in life is far more productive.
For me it depends on the situation. I DON"T want to spank my kids but sometimes it is the LAST resort. But if I found myself getting angry then I give myself a time out to cool down.
But one thing to keep in mind is EVERY child is different what works with one kid in one situation my not work with another kid in the same situation.
Spanking, when done properly, is a very effective parenting technique. People seem to think that parents who spank enjoy doing it. I get sick of seeing people say that it is abuse. It is not. It is discipline. Every parent should have the right to discipline their child.
I spank my children to get their attention. I don't leave marks and I know it doesn't hurt them. I would rather have a child with hurt feelings from a spanking than one that gets run over by a car.
We use spanking as a last resort in our home. This is a sensitive subject, i strongly support my right to use such tactics, as others strongly support a ban (or strict limitations) on spanking. We always want to have spanking in our back pocket to use when all else is failing. We don't use spanking as a reaction, but a consequence for misbehavior. Their is a difference. We don't haul off and swat our children, but rather have a talk, do the spanking, then talk again. It's all done calmly, and hurts us as much emotionally as it does them physically. We can't argue with the results, once things get down to spanking, nothing works better.
Good Luck
Very appropriate and very useful. Children learn from it.
Spanking should be administered in a loving and controlled manner. I have always approached spanking not as something I want to do but as I have to. Now my kids try hard to be good not for fear of being spanked but as a acceptance the parental authority.
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