What is a parents rights?
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Well, unfortunately, liberals have taken away most of today's parents' rights? My parents disciplined me in ways, that still seem innocuous to me, that would get them thrown in jail today.
When your 14 year-old pulls a knife on you, you've already lost the battle. It sounds to me like you coddled him too much. Perhaps it's time to put him up for adoption again. I hate to say that, I know that you care about him, but deadly-force assault is pretty serious. I take anyone threatening me with a weapon seriously, and would not allow someone that dangerous to remain in my house.
Personally, I would shoot ANYONE holding a knife to me, including someone in my family. In my family and in the families of everyone I know, you just don't assault people with a weapon. I know a jury wouldn't have much sympathy for me after shooting a 14 year old, but kids younger than that have killed their parents before. At the very least, I'd break the arm holding the knife and make him sorry he ever did that.
If it happens again and you have to get physical with him, DO NOT TOUCH THE KNIFE, and don't allow him near it again. That way you can back up your claim to the police that he was threatening your life when they find only his prints on the weapon.
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Euro lady, when someone threatens your LIFE, it's time to stop worrying about being a parent and time to start protecting yourself. If he is 14, he can at least be put into foster care. However, where he REALLY belongs is the juvenile detention center because he is a FELON. There ARE truly bad people (to the contrary of your touchy-feely utopian idealism), and unfortunately, bad people are once kids too.
don't give up!! he is calling out for attention, for one reason or another. i would take him to a family counselor. i wasn't violent at 14 but i started doing drugs and acting out and i went with my parents to counseling for over a year and then things were great!! he's angry about something, not necessasarily at you, and he obviously doesn't feel comfortable talking to you, so don't wait for the court to tell you to take him to counseling, take the initaive and just do it.
he is a messed up child. dont worry about him. he has no love for you. you should've taught him better when he was very young. so just doin't worry, and let him do what he wants. life's over for him already.
"I help you"(2nd person's answer), your answer is very wrong! I agree with the first person's answer. Don't give up, please. I know this sounds nearly impossible right now, but he does need you for further guidance in his life. No one is a truly bad person, especially a child his age. He's crying out for something, and this is his way of expressing it. He needs counseling, possibly with the whole family, to find the cause for his behavior. When a child acts out, even when adults act out, we're really trying to say something but we don't know how and we often don't even know what. Sometimes we all need help. A child education teacher once told me: " The children that are the hardest to love, need the most love." She's right. Love is a very powerful tool. He has to feel your forgiveness and continuing love for him in order for him to be able to move on and forgive himself. Please don't give up!
As for "osteoguy"'s answer, you can't just "put him up for adoption again". You are his parent. You are his mom. That's what you promised to be when you adopted him12 yrs. ago. He's not "something" you can just get rid of! What kind of answer is that, "osteoguy"?!? I agree that he can not remain in your house, because he is a physical threat and you have another child to protect as well. Nothing wrong with that. However, you are still his parent, whether he lives with you or not.
Lieing gets u nowhere.Always be honest when dealing with a child. You never help them by covering up for them.Good luck
wow, i feel nad 4 u keep on trying
a parents rights shud be
curfew
who they see(but u cant be so strict)
and basically a couple of other lil things. 14 is kinda yung
Set up hidden cams in your house so that next time the incident(s) occur you'll have proof. You can buy inexpensive webcams for your PC, or you can get the kind that look like a clock, VCR, flower pot, etc. These are widley used to cathc babysitters abusing chiildren and will without a doubt hold up in court. Right now it's your word against his nad they will, as you found out, believe him first.
I suggest putting them in the living/family room (or wherever the behavior generally occurs), one in the kitchen so he can be seen getting he knife - bascially every square inch of public space in your house (not bathrooms or bedrooms, so you don't get nailed for voyuerism). Once you're armed with evidence the story will change.
You NEED to do this for everybody's safety!! Contact a private investigator or a lawyer to find out your rights before you do anything.
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