Should a mother let her kids (7 & 8) play outside around her apart. complex by themselves?
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do not let your kids at those ages play outside by themselves especioly if you know there are secual preditiors in your complex. it is so easy for preditors to ubduct kids so dont let them have an even easier way .. watch them at all times or if you are bloth buissy have an older neibor kid who is life 16 or 17 whatch them for you that way you know they are safe ( juat make sure you trust the kid)
Well there's nothing you can really do about it thta's probably why you have custody. Did you play outside by your self wen you were little? i know i did, of coarse i was always to be with another kid like a buddy system. They have to learn at some age. good luck
It sounds like an unsafe thing to do to me. I wouldn't let my kids play out there by themselves, even if there were no known registered sex offenders in the neighborhood. That there are two that you know of should give the mother greater pause.
Try making it an issue with her again, or speak with the kids about "stranger danger" and staying in the house unless a trusted adult is with them.
I would talk to her about it and if she still continues to do it contact the friend of the court and express to them that you feel your children are not being watched over accordingly when she has them, and explain to them why, they should be able to do something about it
In this day and age this seems like a really bad idea. Look at all the kids that get snatched or assulted. To much of a risk unless they play right in front of her door and she can hear them or see them every minute they are outside. If she only sees them every other weekend you would think she would want to be with them and watch them play. Thankfully you seem to be the better parent and you have custody.
I would talk to your lawyer or also I would talk to her and ask that she not allow the kids to play outside unsupervisied, stating about the sexual preditors, and also many other issues such as accidents, anything.
I would also check with police and make sure that her apartment complex is in compliance with the laws for sexual offenders to reside.
If she does not seem to care and its obvious, I would go back to court to talk to your lawyer on how to best handle the situation.
There is never a thing as being too careful with your children.
You might be able to insist she move or have supervised visitation! Report to the police about the offender living around children! Ask your lawyer for legal advice!
These are your kids?? I don't think they should be allowed to play outside without her supervision...ESPECIALLY KNOWING there are sexual predators around. As for how you should handle it, I really wish I could help. Do you maybe have a lawyer?? Maybe you could write up a contract or something, being you are the primary care-giver. Or maybe a counselor you could ask for some advice?? Whatever you do, stick to your guns, go with your gut, even if you have to drive over there and sit in the parking lot and watch them yourself. It's a crazy world out there and something horrible could happen within seconds. Good luck and I'm sorry I couldn't be more help. ~CP~
If a sex offender lives in the building there is no way in hell those children should be left alone for any amount of time! If i were you I'd talk to Social Services about this situation and take their advice because even if she checks on them every five minutes, it only takes seconds for a child to disappear!
the world we live in is ******* ridiculous now days. When I was 8 I was riding my bike to my friends, now we have to worry about kids playing out in front of the apartment. Can she see them from where she is? They do have to grow up and not be watched every minute.Sure we would like to keep an eye on our children. Let them play and teach them to be safe. They are kids who want to play not prisioners, and they should be taught to be careful outside, but not scared to play.
NO...I am happy to see that most that answered feel the same way. I get a lot of grief from people because they think I am too protective of my kids, but I don't care what anyone thinks, we live in a different world now than when we were kids and played outside for hours without supervision. That is a very sad reality.My kids are 12, 11, and 7. Although I am more relaxed with my oldest now, she still is not allowed to roam the streets which most of her peers do. I see little ones playing alone in my neighborhood all the time and I can't imagine what goes on in their parents minds.
You should write down when and how long she allows them to play outside by themselves. As a mother of four I never let my children play outside by themselves and I have a large yard. Print out the information you found on the sexual offenders and present it to her. If she still ignores the information and swears she watches them you may want to go to your worker or whoever is handling your case and explain the situation, bringing your record of when she lets them out alone. They may recommend that you apply for supervised visitation if they think that this is truly not in the children's best interests. I doubt that anyone could think letting two such young children play outside by themselves with not one but two sexual predators living within a building or two is in the children's best interests, but I'm sure you know by now that everything has to be documented and go through the courts and all that fun stuff. I doubt that she would just agree to supervised visitation but that would be convenient if she did. Good Luck
If something happens to your kids sue her for child endangerment or something. No kids these days shouldn't be out alone by themselves at all with all the pedophiles, rapists, kidnappers, murderers, and psycho freaks out in the world now a days. What the heck is she thinking?
That's a hard one. I know this might sounds awful because I'd be just as a mess as you are about this if it were on my side of the fence, but you can't really do anything if it's her turn to parent them unless you take her to court and get supervised visitation for your children due to this incident and maybe other concerning incidents you have as the custodial parent. Much luck to you.
Its a normal part of childhood to play outside, thats how they socially interact with other children and learn the rules of the World. Its an apartment complex you say, so there will be other children playing out too. I would say that 7 and 8 are about the right ages that you allow your children to play within close range of your home.
The sexual offenders thing (well in the UK our sexual offenders are not allowed to live near children), does your partner know about these? You didn't say. As a Mum, I would probably want to know the severity of these two people's crimes and if they were serious enough I would supervise my children's play if this was the case.
Its probably best to voice your concerns to your partner in a calm manner. If you have custody, I would say that at the end of the day its your decision - your the main caregiver and if you don't feel happy with it you might have to review the situation.
Warmth and Smiles.
hi, I have a 3 year old and a 15 month. i do not let them outside by themself. and i would not let my kids at 8 & 9 outside by themself. Sit down with her and have a chat talk to her about how you feel and see how shes feels
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