How to encourage young teen daughters not to have sex or engage in sexual activity?
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teens are all about experimenting with the unknown because its like being a "risk-taker". My parents taught me all about sex,stds,pregnancy, aids, and even homosexuality when i was 9 yrs old, and i actually didnt have sex till i was 19 which is considered pretty good in today's world. I think by then being honest and upfront with me on everything, it took away that thought of curiosity and wondering what its like. if they want to have sex just because then thats their choice and they will suffer the consequences, however if you show your support and also your concern, they might realize that sex isnt everything that people make it to be.
tell them the consequences
There really isn't a way for encouraging not to have sex. It is natural!dummy!
Enroll them in a lamaze class or another birthing class-the education would be really good plus they can get a feel for what it's like to be the youngest person in a room full of adult moms and how uncomfortable it could be.
Are you actively invloved in your children's lives? Such as enrolling them in sports that they enjoy? Going to their practices just to support, going to their games/meets/performances? Do you sit down with them and help them w/ their school work and projects? Are you consistent in your parenting approach? Or do you only see them in passing and at dinner? It makes a big difference when you are actively involved in their lives! -Janet
First of all, you need to be involved in your children's lives, teens who have parents that listen to them, and have a genuine interest in what they do, are less likely to go out and get pregnant... 14 years old and pregnant? Oy Vey!
Kids need to learn about sex and relationships long before they are pre-teens. Talking to them often about it is there body and how boys like to seduce you and that it can be for there own pleasure and nothing more. You must repect your body and not give it away so freely. Girls have to have good self-esteem. The less they think about themselves the more they turn to boys and sex to solve their problems and to feel love.
It is very important to give your kids physical love, if you dont they look elsewhere for it. What I mean is touching, kissing, and kind words. My sons are men now (22-25) and when we get together I still rub their back and hug them tight and plant a kiss on them. They crave affection and they love me as I do them. They are even affectionate to their father.
Also if girls grow up without a father or father figure they are more prone to look for love and feelings of attachment.
It is not too late to talk to them about the consequences of sex. If you are getting nowhere get them to a counselor. Sometimes they listen better to someone else especially is this counselor is young.
Teen sex can not only cause STDs and PREGNANCY it can cause stress and mental problems for a long time. Kids have a hard time recovering from some of the things that happen to them as teens.
Get them help.
Once they've already engaged in sex, it's difficult to tell them to not do it. The best you can do at that point is to explain the consequences of unprotected sex and insist that they care for the one and only body they will ever have! This includes consistent use of a condom each time & treating their bodies with respect by telling them that sex is a very personal intimate activity for two people who have great trust and respect for one another. Maybe you can explain the differences in how young girls often view it as an act of love, where the guys are typically just in it for the release, so to speak.
Now, if your daughter is pregnant, maybe some counseling to help her understand the difficulties of being such a young parent. Many times it's the grandparents who end up doing the majority of parenting to the babies of these teen-moms, and that's just really not a fair thing to do. Honesty, from my perspective, if it's a much older guy she's having sex (and getting pregnant by), I would also consider having her move to one of the teen-mom homes where they teach them what they need to know to be responsible parents and they live with counselors and other girls in their same situation.
There is really no way to stop them, but I will tell you that I have talked to my daughter about sex since she was nine yrs. old. I have let her know all the consequences. I have always said to her I am always here and she can talk to me about anything. I have also said I can tell you not to have sex, but that doesn't mean you will listen to me. So, If you decide to make that choice please be careful on who you chose and be safe. She is now fifteen yrs. old and has a boyfriend is seventeen. She started asking me if she could stay over at his house. I spoke with him, then with his mother. I asked her if I could trust her. She told me I could. We agreed on one night there. About a month later my daughter and I had a talk and I asked if she would agree to get on birth control. She said she would. We went and seen the Doctor and believe this or not,but my daughter is still to this day a virgin. THIS MAKES ME SO PROUD!! I say that maybe more parents should try this method and show TRUST instead of SHAME!
A book with pictures of STD's.
it sounds like you are good parents. It is very hard to tell them not to have sex. the only other way is get them involved in a church youth group or some type of activity. if that does not work the only other thing is put her on the pill so she does not get pregnant but try to express what can really happen if she continues. she can catch very bad infections and dieases. i know i went through it. good luck
the most important thing is to be there for them, but make them take responsibility for their actions..is your 14 is pregnant, remember she will be the mom, you the grandma..help her but don't ever turn you back on them
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