Could this quote explain MOST parenting issues?
Do you hit when you don't like something? Are you rude and smart mouth with your kids-talking over their heads? Do your feel entitled to run your mouth even when you know no one is listening? Do you feel like you are OWED? Do you fight and argue with your spouse all the time? Do you curse and scream and act like a spoiled brat when you don't get your way? Are you an impatient driver? Do you ignore you kids because you have "more important" things to do? Do you apologize to your children when you act like a jerk(even when you think they deserved it)? Do you blame your kids or spouse for the way you act?
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I honestly believe that quote. I try my best to not do anything I know that my kids will mimic. When my kids go with their father to visit his family or takes them out shopping or whatever they come back in a hateful/mean mood since he usually yells at them for no reason(we are divorced). When they are with me, they are angels. Not getting into much trouble at all. The kids saw us fight all the time when we were married. I wanted to stick around for them but I knew in the end they would see that this fighting would make it alright for them to do and I didn't want that. I got out.
Also another good quote: "for every action there is a reaction."
Yepper, I think so. thanks for such an insightful post, hopefully it will help someone.
I used to yell and kick stuff when I was mad. I wish I would have cleared up all that crap before I had my kids. The good news is that my kids see how unhelpful all that stuff is, and they're working with me to form better habits.
For those who do it, apologizing is the best way to break the habit. Once you can admit what you did was wrong, it's the stepping stone to more peaceful and respectful parenting.
I believe that quote. But to answer your questions...No. I do not hit my child. No. I'm not rude or smart mouthed, No. I don't run my mouth when no one is around to listen, No. I do not feel I am OWED. No, I don't fight with my spose and if we argue it is not in front of my son. No, I don't curse and scream when I don't get my way. No, I'm not an impatient driver, but I do wish people would go the speed limit...Especially when I'm in a hurry. LOL No. I don't ignore my child, there is nothing more important than him. Yes, If I felt like I was out of line I would apologize. No. I do not blame anyone for MY behavior. Hope that helps.
I definately agree with that quote kids are going to act how they see their parents act because they think it is ok. We have a situation at home where my step kid lives with us but visits her mom and her mom says "do as I say not as I do" we try to show her by acting the way we want her to act such as asking please and thank you and giving her a little money when she does chores not interuppting and things like that actions speak way louder then words
in away, i belive its where the quote "do as i say, not as i do" comes from.
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