My 17 year old daughter got mad because she wasnt getting her way so she decided to move in with her grandma?
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I agree with the previous poster. You need legal advice based upon the laws in your state or province. Have you talked to the grandma about the situation and about why she moved out?
Get an attorney. That's the most useful advice you will get today.
seems like your daughter is very spoil
she's 17 years old
child support only last till 18 and no more
isn't 17 old enough to be legally independent? fight it. go to court. if she wants to live on her own, let her support herself. tough love, my man.
Talk with your lawyer and sit down with your daughter and a moderator to work out your problems.
Maybe you should write her or her grandma a letter stating the way that you feel..and that won't give her a chance to scream at you or shout things at you. She may tear it up or rip it..but it's worth a shot. If that doesn't work, then maybe you should go to an attorney or a judge to maintain your custody rights.
How can the g'ma serve you w/ child support papers if you have custody? If you have full custody then the court will not grant her child support, unless and until she can prove that you are unfit, and then she will have to fight for custody herself. All of this will have to be done in a court of law, so you will have to retain a lawyer. I wish you luck.
If you have custody of your daughter, you don't have to pay child support to anyone. By the time any legalities would be finalized, your daughter will be 18 and on her own.
Perhaps you not helping her will give her the kick in the pants she needs to grow up. I just hope her grandma doesn't let her sponge of of her, or else your daughter is going to be a miserable person for a long, long time. Try to see if perhaps you can get her (or make her) go to family counseling. See must have some deep rooted issues to act out the way she is doing.
Good luck.
get hold of a good lawyer who can help you. you mentioned that you have full custody of her. therefore, a lawyer may be able to help you.
well she needs some on to talk to her and yopu will have to change some way if you want her back well you nsome to talk to her i won't mind talking to her just email ur phone no to me chulanmarapana@gmail.com don't think i wam bad but i am just trying to hel her i had a friend i knew in this msn she was having same prob i solved it now shes ok don't worry you can trust me i will get her back to you and send her message or tell her grdma to explain to her some like that will do
is there an abuse issue here? i ran off to my gramma's when i was 15 and did the same thing up until the court date when i severed all ties with my biological mother, it's been almost 20 years and i still have a standing restraining order on her.
full custody means nothing once the law sees your child can think for itself. i believe the age the child can make up its mind where it wants to live here is 13.
My daughter did the same thing but she moved in with her boyfriend. I could have took her to court and made her come home and that is what my mother told me to do but the peace I had after she was gone was priceless. I am not saying that is what you should do but know she is on her own and cries on my shoulder and tells me" momma you were right and I am sorry for everything I ever did to you" she will grow up and realize all her mistakes. You need to pray about what to do, if you believe and trust in God. Good luck and I will pray for you. Peace be in your home and mind.
Well since she is 17, and decided to move out herself, then i'd tell the Grandmother that your daughter should get a job and help support herself since she wanted to leave. If the Grandmother agreed to having your daughter move in then you may want to help her out a bit with expenses for food and utilities for your daughter but I'd tell your daughter to get a job (if she doesn't already have one).
If you have full custody of her, just go over to Grandma's and bring her back. Otherwise, consider the child support money well spent to keep the spoiled little cat out of your hair.
It may be a good idea. you have to pay one way or another, & Maybe you both can use a beak from one another. But her Language raises a Question about deeper problems. And can Grand ma handle it? Teens can be Tough !!
Until she is 18, she cannot decide where she wants to be legally. Her Grandma cannot legally seek child support when you have done nothing wrong (that is ridiculous!). Her Grandma should send her back where she belongs and inform her to pay her own way if she wants to act like an adult. All you need to do is explain that your home is still open to the child, and that you will provide for her within reason. Your daughter needs a thrashing, but, then, I guess that's against the law. I had a son who ran away from home, and I finally got him back home and following my rules after he had exhausted his efforts trying to live elsewhere. Grandma, needs to back off and stay out of it and giving her a crutch to use against you. Your daughter is rebelling and Grandma has seceded with her. Good luck, but legally, they can't do anything (I can't believe a lawyer even took this on - unless there is abuse involved, and they would have to prove that).
I suggest mediation (the act of bringing in a third party to settle differences) maybe if you could have someone else talk to her for you, you could get her to see things your way. Also the grandmother is entitled to nothing you don't have to pay child support cause you have custody if she wants to argue that then you can simply take your daughter back. 17 is still a minor and until she hits 18 she is in your care. I hope you get things straitened out.
I agree with Nana. There is more going on here than an indulged child. I think you need to come clean with yourself and others, Dad, as to how this situation developed. And the only thing you're concerned about is possible child support? That speaks volumes, doesn't it?
I would get a lawyer first off. If you think about it when she turns 18 you will no longer have to pay the support unless she continues in school and then she is going to have to get a job unless her grandmother is planning on supporting her, which I do not think will happen due to her asking for support. It sounds like your daughter has some really serious issues that need to be dealt with asap or she is going to find herself in some big trouble later. If I knew more about what she is pissed about I could try to give you some advice. Good luck.
You need a lawyer. If you have custody then you don't have to pay anyone child support. If grandma wants child support she'll have to sue you for custody. You definitely need a lawyer.
The fact that she has left the house and she's 17 , she not very cleaver. Your daughter has one more year before she is on her own legally. She has left on her own and you are not responsible. Tell her to go on welfare and have her grandparents get support that way. (OK that's harsh)
Do not say anything to her regarding, her birthday turning 18 years old and then considered an adult.
Put your foot down and make it clear to her grandparents where her home is. Inform them that she can not stay there and if she does it is of her own free will (refuse to pay).
- By the time this goes through the courts, your daughter will be old enough to take care of herself. I believe the age in US and Canada is 16 years old.
If you find a good lawyer, he will give you the same advise. But you don't need a lawyer, go to court without one. They will give you TIME to find one. You can also request mediation with your daughter because of her age( birthday is right around the corner).
This experience requires tuff love, so stand your ground. She has shown you she is not grateful and she doesn't respect you and your rules. With no place to run and someone to stand up for her she will realize the path that she has made for herself.
It will be short but sweet.
You should not be legally bound to pay child support because the grandmother is not obliged to support the child. Still, if the grandmother is assuming your obligations you could consider yourself morally bound to pay the support of the child. As to how to improve your relationship with your daughter, that is much more complex. I suspect that there is something deeper than she didn't "get how own way" but that is all you mentioned, as though she was entirely unreasonable and you had no part in it. If that were true, all you could do is wait.
Well first go to her grandma house and then tell her you promise that you will let her get her way but tell her you will buy her anything she want`s but not what cost a lot of money.
She decided to move to her grandma's? Gees, who is the parent here? Why are you letting her run all over you? Why haven't you called the police? If you have full custody, you MAKE her come back. You are not a friend, here, you are her mother! Take action!
Get a lawyer and get one now. Regardless of the advice you're given today, this is going to be the most sound. I promise you. Make sure they practice family law.
Go to grandma's and tell her to come home right now if necessary call the police. Tell Grandma that you will not pay child support for the brat. Grandma is encouraging her and it doesnt sound like she needs much encouragement. If the police will not make her come home then leave her there but give her or grandma no money no help at all. If she wants your help she can come home and behave herself.
She is still a minor and you have custody. Why did you let her move out? Why did grandma let her move it? Sounds like some serious family issues. Call the cops and get the kid back in your house.
Although from the sounds of it, why would you want to? I'd suggest not paying any support since she will be out of there soon anyway (or at least 18 and not eligible for any support).
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