Strangers think I'm starving my child?
You know, I have been on both ends of this, because when she was younger she was really pudgy and I had to hear comments like, "WOW what are you FEEDING that child?!" Um twinkies and mcdonalds? No, its just BREAST MILK for gods sake lol. Now I'm being criticized for her being too "small." Shes 21 lbs and about 29 inches tall. Last I heard that was considered pretty normal.
Everyone gets criticism it seems, from nosy obnoxious strangers. What are some of the worst comments you've gotten about your children?
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JUST IGNORE THESES COMMENT'S PEOPLE CAN BE RATHER NASTY JUST FOR THE SAKE OF IT. STOP WORRYING YOUR CHILD IS FINE ,AS LONG AS YOU ARE DOING YOUR BEST FOR HER THEN SOD THE REST ENJOY HER WHEN SHE IS THIS AGE AS THEY GROW UP TO QUICKLY AND THE NEXT THERE AWAY LIVING THERE OWN LIVES. DO WHAT YOU ARE DOING GOOD LUCK KIARAKITTY
everyone gets critisized. it is life... as mothers we tend to get nastier when our children or parenting is critisized, but people odn't stop
My son was premature and came home on o2 and at our first outting which was to get diapers we had someone make a comment about our parenting skills. They said that if our baby is on o2 then we have issues. I was confused and lost but offended none the less, that and people would whisper and point as he was also on an apnea monitor. He was home for a month before we even took him anywhere other then the peds. office and he was already 3 1/2 months old.
Yeah everyone always has something negative to say. My daughter she's one years old also and she had pulled a kitchen chair on herself. I was in the kitchen cooking supper and didn't think she could pull this chair down...there stronger than you think I'll tell you that. Well anyway the chair hit her just right and she had gotten a bruise on her cheek. Everywhere we went people looked at me like I beat her, when in reality all children fall and get bumps and bruises. They give you that look and are like, what happened to your baby? your like NOYB. It is annoying or when you have your little girl dressed in all pink with a pink bow in her hair and people come up and ask if you have a boy or a girl and this always happens when the baby is first born and in the carrier all in pink.
I never got remarks from strangers, but I had a couple of neighbors and a relative who used to imply that my gentle, very slender, delicate-featured, little boy (when he was like four or five) was going to grow up feminine and wasn't being taught to be a "man".
For some reason, the fact that this little, tiny, kid was pretty seemed to irk the heck out of a lot of men, whose business it wasn't anyway because they were either neighbors or inlaws!!
You'd think I was the one who somehow made his features delicate by choice and who gave him a narrow build by choice!!
Anyway, he's a grown man now; and he's as masculine as they come; and he has a build that would make someone think he's a fitness trainer. Too bad I moved away from those neighbors a long time ago because - now that you've brought up this issue mothers have - I wish they could see him now.
Your daughter sounds very normal and healthy to me. Maybe you are smart enough not to start her on solid food until she is a year old. My second daughter was 18 pound at 12 months of age and cute as a button. She grew up to be a healthy intelligent adult. With my first daughter, she didn't walk until she was 17 months old. Talk about rude comments!! At age 34, she can walk just fine and is also very intelligent.
Forget these people . They are just bored and do not need to be in your life.
If some stange person has to glawl to ask you what you feed your child, look them dead in the eyes and say "what I got to feed her"? " I knew I was forgetting something".
Then walk away.
I once got a comment from one woman that I was ridiculous for putting a wig on my daughter. My daughter was born with a full head of hair, she actually had hair past her shoulders! She had her first haircut at 4 months. We were in a Toys R Us and this woman kept following us around, when I finally got tired of being stalked I asked her if there was something I could do for her. She yelled at me for putting a wig on my daughter then proceed to try to pull the "wig" off...Store security came and escorted her out of the store...
Hope you don't mind a dad posting on this one...
My daughter is the same way. She's about 30 inches long, but only ways about 25 pounds, and will be 22 months in February. My wife breast-fed her until she was six months old, and only stopped because her health wouldn't allow her to continue; she had to get back on her prescriptions, and you can't breast feed when on the stuff she's taking. Anyway, she'd eat like a champ, but being in daycare with lots of other kids, she's very active...And once she took to table food, she'd eat fine at daycare, bur really wouldn't eat at home, even over the weekends, until about three weeks ago for some reason...But she'd eat her food, and occasionally steal food off her teachers' plates, at daycare just fine.
My nephew is like that; very small for his age...His problem is, he's a very picky eater. His parents feed him; he just doesn't usually choose to eat more than a few bites; he'd rather play.
People are rude. Try to ignore them and know that you are doing what's best for your baby.
I had really chubby breast fed babies too and got an endless amount of critizism from family and strangers. Just ingore them or tell them to mind their own business.
i have twins. The worst for me would be Double Trouble. They are not trouble and I would get sick of people implying they are. Then I just got used to the fact that some people just don't know what to say and would say this. Or there were the comments about where I got a hairdresser to perm my daughters hair. SHE WAS 2! She had natural ringlets (think Shirley temple), like a 2 year old would be getting a perm. Many I don't think believed me it was natural. I even heard a woman wonder to her husband during a Christmas pageant how they got "that little girl" to wear a wig. I explained it was her natural hair, she was stunned. My daughter soon began to hate her hair as complete strangers would walk over to touch her hair. One day at the age of 2, 5 people in 3 min. did it. By then she could give looks that could kill. It was then I told people to not touch her hair and began twisting it back in rows with little butterfly clips put in. It would take 10 min. and people were stunned she would sit for it. But she learnt people didn't touch her hair if I did it and I think she would have sat for an hour if needed.
Try telling people when they make these comments "and your really big for your age" think of some smart ar*se comment. If they want to be rude then give it as good as them.
If your child is outside the range of "normal" the pediatrician will tell you so. Until then? When people make rude comments like that... just smile and nod. So she's petite? So what? There are worse things in life.
Those people are probably really insecure about themselves and their children. Don't listen to them.
When I was little (I was premature) my mom and dad used to get "wow ur kid is very tiny" from a lot of people.
Just ignore them and try to avoid them, they obviously are very rude and not nice to be around
My daughter is 22 months old 33 inches and 24 lbs the drs say shes healthy the next time someone says something tell them her grandmother is very petite.
assuming that your doctor thinks everything is OK , ignore those people...my response was always "are you always this way, or is it just today"..that usually made them shut up
some ppl criticize you because they were brought up in a diffrent way.she is pretty normal for her age and sometimes people are just nosy :) but of course i dont want to offend those who give help to new parents..btw u are not starving her :) and the worst comments they gave me were terrible even worse!!
they called me a whore eventhough my 5 kids come form the same father and have 1-3 yrs of age gap
they called me a wasted woman because i leaved my job for 1 yr until my youngest is of course 1 i have 9 months t go though before i can come back to my clinic
my divorce is already in process so that makes me m a bit joyful...my husband was a drunk,smoking abusive father he shouted at my youngest for crying,and does not acknowledge my 3 yr old daughter
i hope u get over this though..gud luck
my oldest daughter was 27 pounds by her first birthday, very big girl. my middle daughter was 17 pounds by her first birthday...very petite. never once did people stop and stare or make comments. are you so preoccupied by her size you are imagining things? i couldn't imagine commenting on the size of a person's child! this seems insane! the only comments i received from strangers was that my children were beautiful, i'm sure that's what you hear too. i myself tell strangers their babies are beautiful. lets focus on the positive and ignore the negative. if someone ever made an inappropriate comment about the size of my child, i'd put him or her in their place.
That sounds like a very healthy child...Dont listen to what others say as long as she eats well and is active.
As long as your child is healthy and happy, Don't listen to other people. My son is 2 and is on the shorter side of the chart and middle for weight, but people still say things to me, like "oh, he's gonna be short and fat". As a mom it hurts! You don't know what a child is gonna be like as they grow. Don't worry some people just have no sense to keep their opinions to themselves.
Don't worry about it, I have always heard that "you choose what your kids eat, they choose how much"...if your in the United States, people are just so used to seeing everyone a little heavy consult your child's doctor as long as they are ok about your child's weight that's all that counts!
As long as you know she's healthy and happy, all is well! Being a pudgy baby has nothing to do with what a child will look like as a toddler. Once those little ones start walking that pudge just melts off.
What you need is a snappy comeback. You know something like, ask the adult who is critisizing a question back to effect of what's your age and weight? is that normal?
Girls usually are tiny.
two people have said .your baby looks like a newborn at four months. She is in the fiftieth percentile for her weight and height so I just smile and say nicely...'she is pretty average, shes in the fiftieth percentile". But if I were in your situation and people asked how old she is I would tell them and if they stated she was to small id say something like "oh really she seems small but shes actually an average size for her age". And they can argue with that but if it got to that point id tell them to mind their own business.
People are constantly bugging me because my son is "really skinny" but in all actuallity he ways exactly what he should for his hieght and age. but oddly enough he does look skinny-its just his build. so i guess you just have to ignore people.
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