Hitting your children with a wooden spoon?
i feel that any sort of hitting is wrong .. but parents believe its the right thing to do if their child misbehaves.
what do you think?
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Nah... Just go with a traditional spanking. It works, especially if you get your hand watery... That really stings. They'll learn not to do it anymore.
I agree. Kitchen utensils are not the right tool for the job.
I don't know about hitting them with a wooden spoon, that's more like abuse. But i do believe in physical discipline, just spanking on the but. I'm not for hitting my son just wherever handy or just because of something minor. If he runs away from me I might smack him on his but and then lecture him for doing such a dangerous thing. Sometimes that's just the Last resort.
I am personally against spanking, hitting or any other kind of physical punishment for children. But I know there are some kids out there that may need it. No object should be used when striking a child only the hand!
This can work on one condition. The child has to understand what it is they have done wrong and why they are being punished. Sometimes a quick smack helps to jolt the child out of a disobediant mindset and allows you to resolve the situation quickly. This is distinct from belting a child, which I am very opposed to. As long as time is spent explaining the situation to the child afterwards or even before the punishment this is, to me, a decent form of punishment.
i was threatened with the spoon! got hit once and then NEVER AGAIN :)
firm believer in spankings
I think it's a practise that should not be used
most of us were brought up thinking it's ok to smack but now we know better we all must change
I have noticed the more "Disapline" the worse the child becomes.
Experience helps children learn better then just makeing them mad at you, definent and secretive.
But this is what I have obversed exactly,.. the more disapline the worse the child became as an adult,... there is this belief in those children at some point in adolences or adulthood that applying more disapline to their OWN children will make them better then them. So there is also a cycle of Violence. No lesson is learned out of all of this. Those with the greatest violence/disapline and Relgious structure just seem to go beat someone into a hospital or shoot someone,.. go to their religious place, get forgiveness,.. and go out to break laws the same day. It's very annoying but I am more observent then other people.
Added: As for the question that this is labled. My mom hit me with a Wooden spoon,.. because her mom hit her with a wooden spoon,.. because her mom hit her with a wooden spoon,... etc. It's not really healthy. It is a cooking utensil (knives are for cooking too). Wood does not clean as well as other things (that is why wood is used in cooking some times to absorb and spread things) so it can have bacteria. So people get something with splinters. They can whine and take out their splinters but they ignore the child if they complain because they assume they are trying to get attention. Then you have one, two sick people,.. maybe the whole household because of all the Spoon goes through. Some families end up playing hide and seek with the spoon and then it gets used in cooking. No,.. the spoon is not "healthy". If you hit your child with a spoon it's also like hitting a grown man with a bat,.. you don't know how much your putting out.
We personally don't, I use only my hand, but we do use a old fashioned style of spanking, meaning pants down, and over the lap, for what I call a "spank-ing" not just a swat, or spank. The outcome of giving spankings is that I wind up doing less of them in the long run. As to the wooden spoon - I think as long as a parent doesn't go overboard and leave bruises, it's just fine. Everyone has their own methods of consequences, If they work and their not abusive then more power to you.
Hitting with any type of object is just wrong. I had a friend who was routinely beat with a wooden spoon when she brought home bad grades. Suffice it to say, she had some major issues growing up.
Hitting with any object is abusive. I believe in the old adage "violence begets violence." Hitting only reinforces bad behavior. In a child's mind if you hit me then it must be alright to hit. There are many ways to get a child's attention without hitting them. Repetition and following through with threats of grounding, taking away privileges, revoking allowances, sitting in the time out area, are all valid ways of dealing out discipline. The trick is to make a believer out of the misbehaving child by giving a warning and then, without fail, following through. And don't argue with him/her about. Make your word law. If you say yes, mean it. If you say no, mean it. If the child is way out of hand this could be a long process but eventually everyone will be happier.
i belive in spanking on the butt.start at a young age and your child willl learn that your not gonna put up with it.i spanked my girls when they where little and one is a nurse and the other has all a;s in school.but remember to let them know it really does hurt you more then it does them and that just because you had to spank doent mean you dont love them.
i think under no circumstance should a child ever be hit by any object, i have a 2 and a half year old daughter and yes she might get a little tap on the hand by my hand...but never have i ever imagined nor would i in using any sort of object to hit such a precious gift, i think its a case of each to their own. but in my opinion i agree with you things such as wooden spoons should be left in the kitchen and used for cooking not abusing little children.
It is totally wrong why would anyone ever hit their child
I generally use my hand when spanking~ AND YES!! I do spank!
Time outs...work for only a handful of children! We as kids got spanked on the butt ~ we remember the pain and the punishment reminded us..when we went to do it again...what the result was IF we were caught!
Time outs?! What a joke..."it is to have the child SIT AND THINK about what they have done"...BULL ****! It gives them time to THINK about how NOT to get caught again!! PERIOD! Do you see how many children swear, talk back to adults and do basically what they want?! I see them being told by their parents to be home by 5 for dinner and a line of swears comes flying out of their mouths and THEY'LL BE HOME WHEN THEY GET THERE?!
IF I EVER spoke to my mother or father like that?!! I don't think I'd be alive today..because I was TAUGHT respect!! And when I stepped out of line, didn't do what I was supposed to do...OR broke a rule (given several chances to NOT break it) I'd get spanked ...NOT beaten!! There's a line between discipline and abuse!
My children have had the meaty parts of their butts tanned and they DON'T do what they got it for ...again! Cause I simply remind them...do you remember how your butt felt?! GOOD! If I'm cooking and someone RUNS through my kitchen NEAR THE stove...I take the wooden spoon and lightly 'tap" their butts..cause I'd rather do that..then have them trip into the stove and have something either BURN them or end up getting stitches!! Parents have to take back parenting! TIme outs?! need to go!
Hitting a child with an object on any kind just seems wrong. A wooden spoon can be painful. I wouldn't want to be hit with one.
Its a personal choice. My mom used to hit me with a wooden spoon and broke many of them. I turned out well. As a teacher and can say this much there needs to be better parenting. I as a parent do not hit my kids and I have raised them well. Some parents dont have good skills and feel the need to rule by fear. That is the choice rule by fear or rule by love?
Hitting with a wooden spoon? Hummm. If that doesn't scream child abuse?? You will see that alot of people on this site think it is okay to hit their child when they misbehave.
These people who think it is okay to hit may need to dig more deeply into disciplining themselves in order to discipline their child and might need some therapy.
Here are some red flags that mean you are at risk for disciplining unwisely.
SIGNS YOU NEED PROFESSIONAL HELP ABOUT DISCIPLINE
Yelling.
Do you go into frequent rages that are out of control, calling your child names ("Brat," "Damn kid") and causing your child to recoil and retreat? This means that you are letting your child punch your anger buttons too easily, that you may not have control of your anger buttons, or that there are simply too many anger buttons.
Mirroring unhappiness.
Do you walk around all day reflecting to your child that you are unhappy as a person and as a parent? Kids take this personally. If they bring you no joy, they must be no good. Life is a "downer."
Parentifying.
Are your children taking care of you instead of vice versa? Are you crying and complaining a lot and showing immature overreactions to accidents or misbehaviors? This scares children. You're supposed to be the parent, the one in control protecting them.
Blame shifting.
Do you unload your mistakes on your kids or your spouse? If so, children learn that the way you deal with problems is to avoid taking personal responsibility for them, and that somehow these problems are just too big for you to manage or that you don't know how to ask for help.
Modeling perfection.
Are you intolerant of even trivial mistakes made by yourself or your child? The child gets the message that mistakes are horrible to make. This is particularly difficult for the "sponge child," the one who soaks up your attitudes and becomes too hard on himself.
Spanking more.
Are slaps and straps showing up in your corrections? Are most of your interactions with your child on a negative note?
A fearing family. Is your child afraid of you? Does she cringe when you raise your voice and keep a "safe" distance from you? Is your child becoming emotionally flat, fearing the consequences of expressing her emotions?
I believe that hitting children to discipline is a lazy, cowardly way of parenting.
I dont think im being treated unfair most of time but i am 12 and my mother sometime use the wooden spoon to spank me if ive done something wrong or the ping pong paddle. I dont like it but its to help remind me of what i did wrong.
Never got a wooden spoon beating. But I use to get the "switch" beating. For those that don't know, a switch is a tree limb, basically.(People from the south, like I am, would understand.) Now, my wife (she's from Chicago)said that she use to get the wooden spoon beatings. Along with the "every syllable" beating. Never had that. But she said it would go like this, "Don't (whack) you (whack) ever (wack) do (whack) that (whack) again (whack.)"
Now that I'm a dad. I don't know what to do. Don't want to give beatings like we use to get, but also don't want to have a child that walks all over us either.
I don't know what to think anymore.
If you want to use a wooden spoon for spanking, I say go for it. I have cousins who were spanked with a wooden spoon all the time, and they all grew up to be perfectly stable and well adjusted.
However do watch out for the child's little fingers when they go to protect their little bottoms, for a wooden spoon can break their little fingers.
Wooden spoons are for cooking not spanking.
I use a paddle, specifically designed for the purpose:)
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